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I actually don't feel comfortable "venting" on a public website, so many people probably think I'm one of those annoying people trying to portray a perfect life. That doesn't make it so.
I think my daughter is adorable and I'll tell everyone that! She has her moments....but I try not to dwell on the negatives, so you may not hear about the.
I also think my husband is great. He sometimes does things that annoy me, but I dont' think that's anyone's business, so I don't chat about it.

Just because people focus on the positives doesn't mean their life doesn't have problems, and it also doesn't mean that they think their life is any better than your's. They might just be trying to share positive stories with you.

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My mom was like that!!!! I hated every minute of it of my life and I REFUSE to be that kind of mom. I remember being embarrassed of my mother when I was a child bragging about how I pottry trained so early and how I learned to read at such a young age. Then she would say how I went to an ivy league college. Now she brags about my DH. I absolutely 100% HATE it. I vow never to be that kind of mother EVER.

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You will always encounter people like this....

It can get very frustrating at times...

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Posted by maybebaby

I can relate..

I have a good friend from college...she is like this in EVERY aspect of her life lately. She used to vent, blow off steam about normal life things (her DH was in a bad mood, money issues etc..). Since having her son, its like not one thing has ever gone wrong.

Talking to her on the phone made me feel like I was a freak. I would say things about DS being cranky and she would say "oh that must stink, i wonder whats wrong with him?". Everytime you ask her how things are going and how DS is, its like angels flying out her azz. Dont' get me wrong..I don't want to hear horrible things...but its unnatural the way she speaks. He is "super and great and never cries" (even though every time we speak on the phone he's screaming?). Lol.

I just chalk it up to her not wanting anyone else to know that maybe it can be tough sometimes or maybe he's not "perfect". I just do know I get annoyed and limit my conversations...only because the venting is always one sided and I start to feel like a complainer. I'll choose to talk to my friends that can relate and all the rest of them certainly can...and I'm not just talking about here and there hard times with their children, I mean normal venting like money problems, being tired, feeling overwhelmed sometimes....this particular friend seems to lead a life where she is never tired, never overwhelmed, her DS never ever cries or wakes up during the night and her husband is 100% perfect too. That kind of perfection to me is boring

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I save those calls for my parents and sisters.

They are the only ones who care to hear about how wonderful my boy is.

To me its like meeting up with someone and going on and on about a perfect marriage...everyone's happy for you, move on to the next conversation.

I also feel its insensitive to speak to other moms about your kid's accomplishments unless asked.

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I look at things differently...

My DD is not perfect - she is 2 and has her tantrums etc. however, they are par for the course and just not something I see worth mentioning really. To me, they are just not a big deal. And, truthfully, she has never had a tantrum at a store where she has embarrassed me or anything like that. She is generally pretty good - perfect, no but pretty good. I wonder if people look at me like your friend?

The fact is I am not a complainer by nature. I deal with things and move on. It is not a poor reflection on anyone else but is how I operate. I don't like to dwell on the negative - maybe this is the type of person she is.

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I know someone like this. It annoys the crap out of me...she's always done this though (not only with kids with our DHs everything) so now I just do it right back to her I know she gets annoyed but honestly I don't care....

So I think you should either limit conversation with that person or do the same thing back to her. Not very mature but it does work

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exactly. My DH is super annoying. I am glad he doesn't bring josh on playdates.

He says things that should not be said.

"have you ever seen a better looking kid then mine?"

who says that?????

He bragged for ever that josh's percentiles were off the charts. I was like...a tall chunk? What are you even talking about?

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Posted by MsMBV

Posted by Goldi0218

Abby just cured the common cold while solving multiple quadratic equations and reciting the Greek alphabet. I'm still not impressed.

But can she figure out how to stop the messages to Thomas P. Chen?

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My stepsister is like that - her kids have such issues too, but they are always "perfect"

But some people really do have wonderful kids who rarely give them a problem, so if they are a pain once in a while, they don't complian about it because all in all they are so good (Cailen is like that - he has his moments, but he is normally so good, I never fault him for having the occasional tantrum)

Also, some people are so grateful for their kids for many reasons, that maybe they don't ever think of complaining - maybe they had trouble getting pregnant, and they are just so grateful, that they wouldn't even think to complain about something they wanted so badly?

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Posted by Janice

"have you ever seen a better looking kid then mine?"

who says that?????

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I know definately know someone like this. Whoever her DD plays with, if their is an issue her response ALWAYS is "I don't know why that happened because she NEVERRR acts like that with other kids". Umm yes she does. Listen I think it's great to think your kids are great, mine are great but to walk around blind eyed and blame everyone else is not fair or nice.

DS and her DD were on my son's powerwheels. He drives that thing pretty well. Well her daughter decides to try and jump out midride. The mom freaks out and starts getting boarderline with my DS saying that he should stop, be careful, watch what you are doing..... How about tell your daughter to just say "stop" when she wants to get out. She hardly ever corrects her daughter behavior because it's ALWAYS the other kid.

I limit the time together because a kid is a kid but the mother should really open her eyes.

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Posted by KateDevine

Posted by shamrock124

Posted by Bridex100

My mom was like that!!!! I hated every minute of it of my life and I REFUSE to be that kind of mom. I remember being embarrassed of my mother when I was a child bragging about how I pottry trained so early and how I learned to read at such a young age. Then she would say how I went to an ivy league college. Now she brags about my DH. I absolutely 100% HATE it. I vow never to be that kind of mother EVER.

Why did you hate that your mother was proud of you and was happy to share that? Why wouldn't you want to do that for your child? I must be missing something because I think it's a good thing that children are praised for their strengths.

ITA. I'm confused as to why this is so bad? She's proud of you....

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Posted by KateDevine

Posted by shamrock124

Posted by Bridex100

My mom was like that!!!! I hated every minute of it of my life and I REFUSE to be that kind of mom. I remember being embarrassed of my mother when I was a child bragging about how I pottry trained so early and how I learned to read at such a young age. Then she would say how I went to an ivy league college. Now she brags about my DH. I absolutely 100% HATE it. I vow never to be that kind of mother EVER.

Why did you hate that your mother was proud of you and was happy to share that? Why wouldn't you want to do that for your child? I must be missing something because I think it's a good thing that children are praised for their strengths.

ITA. I'm confused as to why this is so bad? She's proud of you....

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I have someone in my life like this.. and the kicker is.. she doesnt have any kids.

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To the OP, I know exactly what you mean and I know a few people like this and it drives me insane.

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My mom was proud that none of the 4 of us had braces or nose jobs and that none of us have a criminal record. G-d love her. May she rest in peace.

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I dont think the OP is talking about just regular "being proud" conversations. There are people that HAVE to prove that they are better than you ALL THE TIME.

For example:

Friend A"Ohhh Sally slept through the night at 12 weeks"

Friend B: "Oh well Joey has been doing it since six. Id DIE if he was still waking up at 12 weeks"

Friend A: "Marissa is doing great in Kindergarten. I can't wait to meet with the teacher"

Friend B: " Jake's teacher has already called me twice to say how sweet his is to all the other kids"

I know someone like this and I HATE IT

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