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stayandjohn
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Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Let me preface by saying we both thought this baby was a girl, it was just a different pregnancy than with my son. We did refer to the baby as "she" "her" "Jenna", but when the sono tech told us we were in fact having another boy we were beyond thrilled.
It wasnt an easy ride for us to get here, 17 months of trying 2 m/c's and lots of tears, we are just happy that we are pregnant.
Now saying that when we told people that we were having a little boy they said things like "aww I'm sorry" or "boys are fun too" "I guess your not getting your girl", "are you alright with another boy?" and my all time favorite "cant your husband make girls" coming from a woman with 3 girls, I shot back with "I guess not just like <her hubbys name> cant make boys. First off, we plan on having 1 more child after this one, and if its another boy well then thats the plan God has for us.
As much as I would love a little girl, I'm excited more than anything to be having another little boy, as long as my baby is as happy and healthy as my son, well thats all I care about.
sorry vent over
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Samarty
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
I think you're blessed.
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| Posted 5/19/08 2:46 PM |
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Superkat
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
In general, people are stupid and insensitive. Children are a blessing, no matter if they are male or female. It is very obvious that you already know that. 
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| Posted 5/19/08 2:49 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
that would really annoy me. 
we need a foot in mouth icon
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| Posted 5/19/08 2:51 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
I think it's wonderful that you are having another boy because you clearly make such handsome little men!!! 
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| Posted 5/19/08 2:53 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Posted by Superkat
In general, people are stupid and insensitive. Children are a blessing, no matter if they are male or female. It is very obvious that you already know that.
ITA with this!!
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| Posted 5/19/08 2:58 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Because people are just stupid and ridiculous, that's why! Don't listen to ANYONE!
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:03 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Posted by Superkat
In general, people are stupid and insensitive. Children are a blessing, no matter if they are male or female. It is very obvious that you already know that.
I agree...and some people are just idiots.
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:04 PM |
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jmf423
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
People can be so rude!!!
I would be thrilled to have another little boy, and like you said -- it was a long road for you to get to this point with #2 -- so I am sure you will be thrilled with a happy healthy little boy!!!!
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:06 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
it's becuase in our shallow selfish world, everyone wants a clone of themselves (moms want girls, dads want boys).
I'll admit that DH and I were the same way (he sort of wanted a boy, I sort of wanted a girl), but not in any super-strong way. We're on team blue and happy as clams
People are shockingly obnoxious to expectant parents... I think pregnancy and babies bring out the most base and crude desires in people... so it's not surprising that they don't have any social skills and instead blurt out the most uncensored idiotic things to you....
(At a family get-together yesterday, I was with SIL #1 and her newborn and kids, and SIL #2 (who is not a mom, and frankly is a dieting fiend and obsessed with her appearance).
#2 looked at me (I'm 21 weeks) and #1, and commented with a disgusted tone in her voice 'oh I can't do THAT for quite a while' (as if she was repulsed by my belly and #1's lingering... yet super tiny!.... belly ).
Charmed, I'm sure! 
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snowflake08
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
i give you three words "people are stupid"
ive heard the dumbest remarks from people and it really makes me wonder, "do they think AT ALL?"
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Stefanie
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
People are idiots.
You are blessed...
Don't pay them any mind.
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:24 PM |
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mcl916
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
People are so stupid!! I would be so happy with all boys, I have no need to have a girl and DH has no need to have a boy. We just want happy, healthy children. We found out this one was a boy and I am so excited!! I grew up with brothers and I think boys are so much fun. And if my next one is a boy, I'll be just as happy. My "ideal" family is not one of each like most people assume
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:30 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
People just stink You are so blessed and they are going to be the best of friends
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:39 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
I know exaclty what you mean. I really wanted a girl and had a feeling that I was having one. When I found out I was having a boy, I was happy, just kind of thrown off. My sister (who has no childern and wont even think about it for a few more years) said, and I quote, "you sound like you dont even want this baby now that its a boy".  and thats coming from my own sister! People are insanely stupid. As long as you are happy and baby is happy and healthy, to hell with everyone else!!!!
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| Posted 5/19/08 3:56 PM |
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RO1976
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
I know how you feel... My first was a boy and every one was thrilled. My 2nd was a boy and my MIL came to the hospital and said its ok he looks like a girl...??? hmm.. This one every one is like I hope you get your girl and I'm sorry if you dont.
I'm happy with 2 boys.... Would be thrilled with a girl but if its not a girl I will be just as thrilled.
My 2 boys are 2 years apart and they are BFF and I am so happy for that! But the most important part is that they are all happy and healthy babies and they stay that way forever!
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Ambersmom
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
I think it's wonderful you're having another boy!  You grow them handsome sweetie!
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| Posted 5/19/08 4:27 PM |
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want2beamom
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
people are ridiculous...ive been getting, oh hopefully its a girl...while we would love to have a girl, we would also love to have another boy...people just dont get it!
congrats by the way
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| Posted 5/19/08 4:32 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Posted by wannabemom
it's becuase in our shallow selfish world, everyone wants a clone of themselves (moms want girls, dads want boys).
I'll admit that DH and I were the same way (he sort of wanted a boy, I sort of wanted a girl), but not in any super-strong way. We're on team blue and happy as clams
I disagree, from day one before DS was even concieved, I wanted a boy and DH actually wanted the girl.
I dont know why people assume you cant be as happy a parent if you have 2 of the same gender.
I have a DS who I adore. And I always so I only want 2 kids. So I was saying to a friend that when I have my next pregnancy, I am going to look into have my tubes tied. I am not sure if i will do that but I want to look into it. And she said, "well you mean as long as you have a girl"
I said no, although I would love to have a girl, I dont have this desire to keep trying until I do get one. I will be a perfectly happy mom if I give my son a brother as if I gave him a sister.
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runlikethewind
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
I am going through the same thing; I am having twin boys and let me tell you the stupid and rude comments I have received after I answer the "so do you know what you're having question" with "two boys". Just the other day, the guard in my building said he did not know I was having twins and went on to say "oh maybe it'll be a boy and a girl so you'll be done" When I said, no, it's two boys, he replied "oh I guess you'll have to keep trying" Ummmmmm nooooooooo.....I don't understand why people think that having one of each means you're done and not having one of each means you're not done. DH and I agreed that no matter what the genders were of the twins, this would be it - we get what we get and anything is a blessing, especially since many women cannot even get pregnant. Plus, if I were to "try for a girl" as most ignorant people suggest, who says I will get one?? One of my answers to people who give me that disappointed tone after I share the genders is "sorry to disappoint you, next time I decide to have another baby, I'll be sure to choose a girl at the gender store".
I agree w/ the others, bottom line, people are just stupid and should keep their mouths shut!!! Congratulations to you, and we should form our own "mom all boys club"!!!
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Posted by Ang-Rich
I think it's wonderful that you are having another boy because you clearly make such handsome little men!!!
That is VERY true!! And I have to say, even though I have a girl and a boy, when people found out what #3 was, it was like it was disappointing, or they felt bad...I don't get it
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| Posted 5/19/08 7:20 PM |
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Ladybug3
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
People don't think before the speak!!! ENJOY the rest of your pregnancy!!!
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| Posted 5/19/08 8:18 PM |
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
My sister is going through the same thing. She has 2 sons already and is pregnant with a third boy.
She is beyond excited that the baby is healthy and will be raised in a happy family just like his 2 older brothers.
For some reason people just assume she is disappointed in not having a girl and say the same ignorant comments to her.
Sorry you are dealing with such lousy attitudes!!!
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| Posted 5/19/08 8:21 PM |
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CaidensMommy
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Here's one for you...
I was at the grocery store with both my boys, and the cashier said to me, "Are these the only 2 kids you have? You didn't want a girl?"  Uhhhh.... you don't really have a choice on what you get!!!! People can be so stupid. Oh yeah, my other kids are locked in the car with the windows up!
Of course I'd love to have a girl and hope to be able to TTC again and maybe have a girl, but I don't know how to make girls!  I love Caiden having a brother. Now I would like a girl so she can have 2 big brothers to protect her! 
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| Posted 5/19/08 10:17 PM |
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runlikethewind
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Re: Why does everyone think I'm disappointed that I'm having another boy
Posted by CaidensMommy
Here's one for you...
I was at the grocery store with both my boys, and the cashier said to me, "Are these the only 2 kids you have? You didn't want a girl?" Uhhhh.... you don't really have a choice on what you get!!!! People can be so stupid. Oh yeah, my other kids are locked in the car with the windows up!
Of course I'd love to have a girl and hope to be able to TTC again and maybe have a girl, but I don't know how to make girls! I love Caiden having a brother. Now I would like a girl so she can have 2 big brothers to protect her!
You have got to be kidding, a cashier said that??? It's amazing the things people come up with. When people say things like that, as they are to me now when I say I'm having two boys, I remember how many people I know that have all gilrs or all boys - not one of them has ever expressed that they are disappointed and want to try for that opposite gender. So I think it's just that perception by the world that the boy/girl combo is perfect and that's where all the stupid comments come from.
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