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VTTG0609
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Wording for invites RE: no toys
Xmas just ended and I have toys coming out of my ears. DS will be 2 and his party is in Feb. I was wondering if anyone has every asked for people to not bring toys for DC? If so how did you word it?
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MommyR2010
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I know its controversial but maybe create a wishlist/registry somewhere.
I dont know if I would say "No toys" on the invite but maybe send out an email to close family and friends and just ask them kindly not to do it.
Good Luck. Hope it works out.
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:13 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Do you want no presents at all, or would you prefer clothes or money? I don't see how you can ask for clothes or money, but if you don't want presents at all, you could write something like your presence is present enough...
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:14 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
i wouldn't put it in writing anywhere, but most people asked us what DS needed for his 1st bday and we took the opportunity to say, "he has a million X, but could use more Y". No one was offended - at least not from what I heard!
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:15 PM |
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2boys1girl
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Are you asking for money or are you asking for no presents at all?
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:15 PM |
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MrsA714
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Shorty
i wouldn't put it in writing anywhere, but most people asked us what DS needed for his 1st bday and we took the opportunity to say, "he has a million X, but could use more Y". No one was offended - at least not from what I heard!
I agree. Unless you are asking for no gifts at all, I wouldn't put it in writing.
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:32 PM |
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LoveyQ
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I wouldn't put it on the invites to be honest. I would just get the word out. I found that lots of people ask what to get, so use that opportunity to say, we'd prefer something other than toys since he has so many... or something like that.
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:32 PM |
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pig22seal
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I think I worded it "In lui of toys, please consider contributing to xxx's College Fund." I did this b/c we live in an apartment, and people understand the space limit. A lot of friends and family gave gift cards and called ahead to find out clothing size, other's wrote checks. This was for DS's 1st birthday. For any future birthdays, b/c they will be smaller, I am not going to worry about it.
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:35 PM |
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VTTG0609
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by pig22seal
I think I worded it "In lui of toys, please consider contributing to xxx's College Fund." I did this b/c we live in an apartment, and people understand the space limit. A lot of friends and family gave gift cards and called ahead to find out clothing size, other's wrote checks. This was for DS's 1st birthday. For any future birthdays, b/c they will be smaller, I am not going to worry about it.
That sounds kinda what I was trying to do.
Thank you
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:38 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Shorty
i wouldn't put it in writing anywhere, but most people asked us what DS needed for his 1st bday and we took the opportunity to say, "he has a million X, but could use more Y". No one was offended - at least not from what I heard!
ITA
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:39 PM |
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VTTG0609
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Thank you. I didnt want to put "no presents" because I thought that its unfair to not open anything but now that I think about it maybe I will ask for charity donation.
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| Posted 1/15/11 8:39 PM |
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mlny
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
Message edited 1/15/2011 9:46:13 PM.
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| Posted 1/15/11 9:44 PM |
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by VTTG0609
Posted by pig22seal
I think I worded it "In lui of toys, please consider contributing to xxx's College Fund." I did this b/c we live in an apartment, and people understand the space limit. A lot of friends and family gave gift cards and called ahead to find out clothing size, other's wrote checks. This was for DS's 1st birthday. For any future birthdays, b/c they will be smaller, I am not going to worry about it.
That sounds kinda what I was trying to do.
Thank you
I'm going to do this.
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| Posted 1/15/11 9:48 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by mlny
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
I also don't think it is ok to ask people for money for a college fund. It's a kiddie birthday party. We're not talking huge expensive gifts. I think I'd be offended if I was attending a 2 hour 2yo party and was asked to give $.
Just tell people he doesn't need toys because space is problematic and he got a lot for christmas.
DS is also turning 2 soon. We have MAJOR space issues and are expecting a second one soon. I wouldn't dare ask anyone for money for a college fund. I would prefer gift cards but I would never ask for that either.
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| Posted 1/15/11 10:02 PM |
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by mlny
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
I also don't think it is ok to ask people for money for a college fund. It's a kiddie birthday party. We're not talking huge expensive gifts. I think I'd be offended if I was attending a 2 hour 2yo party and was asked to give $.
Just tell people he doesn't need toys because space is problematic and he got a lot for christmas.
DS is also turning 2 soon. We have MAJOR space issues and are expecting a second one soon. I wouldn't dare ask anyone for money for a college fund. I would prefer gift cards but I would never ask for that either.
ITA WORD FOR WORD
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| Posted 1/15/11 10:15 PM |
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pjay
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by mlny
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
I also don't think it is ok to ask people for money for a college fund. It's a kiddie birthday party. We're not talking huge expensive gifts. I think I'd be offended if I was attending a 2 hour 2yo party and was asked to give $.
Just tell people he doesn't need toys because space is problematic and he got a lot for christmas.
DS is also turning 2 soon. We have MAJOR space issues and are expecting a second one soon. I wouldn't dare ask anyone for money for a college fund. I would prefer gift cards but I would never ask for that either.
ITA WORD FOR WORD
ditto
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Janice
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I would never say anything.
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LoveyQ
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by mlny
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
While I agree with you that a gift is a gift and you should be thankful for anything that is given to you, the fact of the matter is that a lot of people have space issues and I personally don't think there's anything wrong with steering people towards something you would rather have, that you could actually use, and that you have space for.... but IMO, only if THEY ask you.
For example, for Christmas when people asked what to get DS, I let them know that we really don't have the space for big toys. We did get a couple of big things that we're struggling to find space for, but I'm thankful we didn't get more of them because they would have honestly gone to waste and would have just stressed us out.
And I know that when I'm shopping for a gift, I'd rather get something they will like and can use, than just something totally random or whatever.
I am not fond of asking for $ for a college fund, much less on the actual invite, but everyone knows their own crowd/guests best so maybe their peeps won't be offended?
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| Posted 1/15/11 10:29 PM |
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sal79
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
honestly, i think asking for money is extremely obnoxious. if people call you and ASK YOU, then fine, sya, space is tight, maybe a gift card or money. but to put that on an inviattion, expecially for a 2 yo, i really think is kind of rude.
take the gifts. if space is so tight, you can either take them back to BRU/BBB and see if you can get a credit or donate them. there are plenty of kids who would appreciate it.
ETA: if you really want no gifts, just say no gifts. don't ask for money.
Message edited 1/15/2011 10:49:40 PM.
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My2Girlz11
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I would not put it on an invitation. You really do not know who you will insult doing it. As you can see, there are many mixed reactions on here.
Are you inviting your son's friends or just family and friends of yours?
Why couldn't you just take the gifts and put them away? You could give him a new gift every month and put an old one away. It is good to rotate toys anyway.
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| Posted 1/15/11 10:56 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by VTTG0609
Posted by pig22seal
I think I worded it "In lui of toys, please consider contributing to xxx's College Fund." I did this b/c we live in an apartment, and people understand the space limit. A lot of friends and family gave gift cards and called ahead to find out clothing size, other's wrote checks. This was for DS's 1st birthday. For any future birthdays, b/c they will be smaller, I am not going to worry about it.
That sounds kinda what I was trying to do.
Thank you
I'm going to do this.
I personally, would be annoyed with this.
I think unless you are only dealing with close family it is nervy to ask for money.
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| Posted 1/15/11 11:07 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I could see a lot of people getting upset by this. Especially if you ask for money. A lot of people are on a tight budget. They could buy a toy for $10-15 but would probably feel funny giving your son only$10 in a card. They might fell like they should give at least $20 or more.
I understand the space issue for you, but I just think you might offend people.
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DmarieK
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Alli06
I could see a lot of people getting upset by this. Especially if you ask for money. A lot of people are on a tight budget. They could buy a toy for $10-15 but would probably feel funny giving your son only$10 in a card. They might fell like they should give at least $20 or more.
I understand the space issue for you, but I just think you might offend people.
I agree with this.
I'm having the same issue as OP. The boys had to many toys to begin with...add xmas toys to that and then Xaviers bday is in Jan and Rylans in March. There is jst no way I can fit any more toys in my small apartment. I've told people in the past no presents but i'm always told to bad. Everyone feels like it's not a bday for a child without presents to open.
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MrsS2005
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by pjay
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by mlny
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
I also don't think it is ok to ask people for money for a college fund. It's a kiddie birthday party. We're not talking huge expensive gifts. I think I'd be offended if I was attending a 2 hour 2yo party and was asked to give $.
Just tell people he doesn't need toys because space is problematic and he got a lot for christmas.
DS is also turning 2 soon. We have MAJOR space issues and are expecting a second one soon. I wouldn't dare ask anyone for money for a college fund. I would prefer gift cards but I would never ask for that either.
ITA WORD FOR WORD
ditto
ITA. It's one thing to write something like "your presence is present enough" or tell people about your space issues if they ask for ideas on what to get. On the other hand, it's pretty ballsy to ask for money in a 2 year old's birthday party invitation.
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
For family and closer friends I would verbally ask them not to bring toys. As far as everyone else well as we say in our house, "you get what you get and you don't get upset."
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