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BabyAvocado
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Would like advice regarding vacation...
Okay so DH and I have been saying for awhile that we are going down to florida to celebrate Jake's 1st birthday (in July) with my Mom and all his other baby cousins that live down there.
Then we decided we'd like to take a vacation from there...probably someplace very close, like the Puerto Plata, DR for a week. We would leave the baby with my Mom in Florida and she is BEYOND thrilled to get him to herself for a week considering the fact that she's only seen him twice since he was born. Then we would pick him up on the way back and head back to NY.
Here's my problem...we plan on staying with Jake down in florida for about a week before we leave to DR. We are planning on throwing him a b-day party. This may sound stupid, but do you think it will traumatize him if we throw a party and then leave him with my mom in strange place for a week??
These are all tentative plans of course so, I'm still a little uneasy about leaving him for so long ...so my other problem is, what if we go ahead and book the vacation and then I decide I can't handle leaving him for a week???
Any suggestions, advice?
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Posted 12/19/05 12:16 PM  |
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
I think it should be fine you will be there with your son for a week so he will be use to the environment
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| Posted 12/19/05 12:42 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
I don't think he's going to be traumatized because you threw him a party & then left. I think it's that you left that's going to be upsetting. The person that's going to be more tramatized will be your mom. I think it's better the way you planned it - you go down & spend a week together with her, easy her into his schedule, etc.
I don't think it's something he'll never get over. I dont' know anyone who holds a grudge against their parents for leaving them at a year old for a week. And in the end, you may just completely change your mind when he's a year and say "we just can't leave him" and than take him with you.
Message edited 12/19/2005 12:45:40 PM.
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| Posted 12/19/05 12:45 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
Barbara, what do you mean it's my mom that will be more traumatized? Do you mean that you think he's going to act out or be upset because we are gone and then she'll have a hard time with him? Because I hadn't even thought of that! 
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| Posted 12/19/05 2:02 PM |
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Jillysmom
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
they easy way is that when you are down in florida.let you mom do alot of things that you would do.. cahn ge hiom feed him.. this way he is very used to her...go out during a meal..it should not be a problem since you will be there to help witht he adjustment.. also if you wanted a good vacation why not just drive across to Marco Island this way if you feel something is going to be wrong youar eonly a 3 hour car ride away and you do not have to find a plane to catch...
Also you can make sure that he is very busy ...have his cousins come over and play...
Hope this helps.. good luck
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| Posted 12/19/05 2:10 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
Great idea Marco Island, I'll have to look into that!! Being only 3 hrs away by car certainly sound much more comforting than being 3 hrs away by plane!! Thanks!!
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| Posted 12/19/05 3:00 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
Jenn- that was great advice on letting grandma do things to get him used to her.
Your mom will be fine. She already raised kids so I'm sure she'll handle it. He will act up a little bit - it's always tough when Mommy leaves. It will be a lot easier since he'll be in a new place. I've found it harder when my kids were at my house & someone watched them. They're used to the routine of having mommy put them to bed. When they're at my mom's, they're distracted with new things.
Also - while it's not my vacation, I think Marco Island sounds ideal.
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| Posted 12/19/05 3:18 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
I think that sounds like a good plan. DH and I are planning something similar for next January. We'll leave Miranda in NY with my in laws ( I hope I can do it).
Between MIL and SIL I know she'll be in good hands and since they don't see her often they will just be all over her so much so that she probably won't even miss me.
The fact that you'll be there for a week should be a great amount of time for him to adjust.
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| Posted 12/19/05 3:32 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
Posted by BabyAvocado
Great idea Marco Island, I'll have to look into that!! Being only 3 hrs away by car certainly sound much more comforting than being 3 hrs away by plane!! Thanks!!
A friend of mine loved Sanibel Island also. I have never been but it's supposed to be very romantic.
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| Posted 12/19/05 3:33 PM |
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Samlove
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Re: Would like advice regarding vacation...
Grandma is always the best you will soon see. My parents live in Florida and Sammy just loves them SOOOO much. The baby will be fine - Dont worry, grandma and all the people in her development will keep him busy and happy. - Shari
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| Posted 12/19/05 8:20 PM |
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