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Michelina627
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Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
DH is really irritating me. And I don't know if its justified.
One of my close friends just lost his father this morning. I have been friends with this person since freshman year of high school - about 17 years. We've known his father was very ill, for a few weeks and expected the news. The wake is Thursday and Friday night.
SIL's friends grandfather also just passed away. DH and I know SIL's friend, but not well enough that I feel we should be expected to go to the wake - yet we somehow SIL expects both of us to go. That wake is tonight and Thursday night. SIL does not want to go to the wake tonight, she wants to go tomorrow.
So DH wants to go to his sister's friends grandfather's wake, and told me i should go alone to my friend's dad's wake because: 1. his sister doesn't know how to get to the funeral home (she's 26 - I think she should be able to follow directions) and 2. because his sister and I have plans to meet for drinks in the city on Friday night and he doesn't think I should cancel.
DH knows my friend, and I think it would seem odd if I showed up at his dad's wake without him.
Am I overreacting?
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lululu
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
personally i think that he should go with you tomorrow, to your friend's father's wake. His sister should be able to handle her friend's grandfather's wake on her own.
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:35 PM |
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Boobobunny
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
I agree with you...but I'm guessing that your DH is feeling pressure from his sister. Have you asked him why he feels its more important to go with his sister, than to go with you?
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:36 PM |
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KGools
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Nope... your obligation lies with your friend and your DH's obligation should lie with you.
Sorry for you loss 
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:39 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Your SIL knows that you have a wake as well, right? Is there a reason she won't go tonight? Because it would make sense for her to go tonight - if she really needs to have your DH take her and allow you and DH to go Thursday night to your friend's father's wake...then the two of you can keep your plans for Friday.
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:41 PM |
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Michelina627
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Yes, I asked him and he said that she doesn't know where it is, and that she wants him to go. And that my friend should understand that he has another wake to go to.
What's irritating me even more is that I know their mom will be going with SIL. So she does have someone to navigate. I could be a real b**** and tell him that I have no idea where this funeral home is either, and now I'm stuck navigating on my own.
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:41 PM |
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Michelina627
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Posted by Ang-Rich
Your SIL knows that you have a wake as well, right? Is there a reason she won't go tonight? Because it would make sense for her to go tonight - if she really needs to have your DH take her and allow you and DH to go Thursday night to your friend's father's wake...then the two of you can keep your plans for Friday.
Yes, she knows about the wake I have to go to. She says she can't go tonight. I don't know why....she told DH that she doesn't mind if we cancel plans for Friday, but DH doesn't want me to because we've been planning this for a while.
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:43 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Posted by lululu
personally i think that he should go with you tomorrow, to your friend's father's wake. His sister should be able to handle her friend's grandfather's wake on her own.
ITA 
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| Posted 5/2/07 3:44 PM |
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Chrisnamy
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Sorry, But i wouldn't be upset. I would take this time to spend some girl time with your friend.
She might really need your shoulder and she might feel uncomfortable with your husband around.
JMO
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| Posted 5/2/07 4:38 PM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Posted by DaniRella
Posted by lululu
personally i think that he should go with you tomorrow, to your friend's father's wake. His sister should be able to handle her friend's grandfather's wake on her own.
ITA
I agree too, especially if her mom will be with her. She shouldn't need your DH there holding her hand. He should be with you. Definitely.
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| Posted 5/2/07 5:31 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Would you be annoyed? (sorry long)
Will DH be going to your friend's father's wake at some point?
As long as that I happened I would probably just be mildly annoyed about the juggling for the SIL's friend's grandfather's wake.
If DH wasn't planning on going to your friend's wake, I would be really hurt and disappointed.
I am sorry about your friend's father.
Message edited 5/2/2007 5:47:39 PM.
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| Posted 5/2/07 5:47 PM |
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