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spooks
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Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
So, DH's family (Italian) has a wedding on Yom Kippur. Its his cousin. i was thinking to miss the ceremony, go to temple, and then meet him at the party - but we just got the invite and i'd never make it in time. So...I haven't talked to DH yet, but basically I either miss temple (I'll go the night before) or I miss this wedding. Everyone else is going, but of course, no one else is Jewish. As for DS, my parents said they'd watch him - they just need to bring him to temple for services followed by Yiskor.
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Jacksmommy
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
I personally would not go. And if I went, my parents would be very angry at me. I have been in that situation and it was a no-brainer to me - but each person views the holidays differently!
ETS: when I told DH's relative I was not coming and why, they totally understood and even expected it!@
Message edited 7/28/2010 8:32:39 PM.
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| Posted 7/28/10 8:31 PM |
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Shelleybean11
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
I would not go. It's the most solemn day of the year, I personally couldn't be celebrating a wedding! Fasting would be extremely hard as well  I guess it depends on how religious you are. For me it's an absolute no.
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| Posted 7/28/10 8:32 PM |
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spooks
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
My mom is fine either way, so its how it sits with me Iguess. ANother cousin did the same thing a few years ago - but it started after break fast, so I was able to eat a bagel and run there.
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| Posted 7/28/10 8:32 PM |
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pickles16
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
that's a tough one...I'm more observant so I'd probably miss the wedding, but that's me, again we observe most of the holidays very religiously
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| Posted 7/28/10 8:32 PM |
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Ladybug3
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
I wouldn't, but you have to do what feels right.
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| Posted 7/28/10 8:37 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
Personally, no I would not go. Frankly, I would expect DH to be with you.
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| Posted 7/28/10 9:05 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
Posted by LSP2005
Personally, no I would not go. Frankly, I would expect DH to be with you.
I wouldn't go. I'm assuming your DH isn't Jewish? If that's the case, I wouldn't mind if he went, but I wouldn't go.
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| Posted 7/28/10 9:10 PM |
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
Posted by LSP2005
Personally, no I would not go. Frankly, I would expect DH to be with you.
DH & I are also interfaith like the OP. I'm not sure if I'd expect DH to stay home, but I could never attend a wedding on Yom Kippur. Its not even about missing temple for me, its about the meaning of the day and the whole point of why we observe the day.
I asked DH if he would go, and he said it would depend on how close he was to the person getting married. If it was like a 2nd or 3rd cousin, he would not go.
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| Posted 7/28/10 9:13 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
i wouldnt go either. im completely reform and don't even go to temple. but i do fast. i cant picture celebrating a wedding on the most holy holiday. but i also wouldnt expect DH to stay home with me. he should go.
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| Posted 7/28/10 9:20 PM |
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LoveBeingMrsT
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
Posted by LSP2005
Personally, no I would not go. Frankly, I would expect DH to be with you.
same unless it was a very close relative or best friend.
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| Posted 7/28/10 10:30 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
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Posted by LSP2005
Personally, no I would not go. Frankly, I would expect DH to be with you.
I wouldn't go. I'm assuming your DH isn't Jewish? If that's the case, I wouldn't mind if he went, but I wouldn't go.
ITA. DH isn't Jewish. I don't expect him to go to temple, fast or miss work. If he had another obligation such as a family wedding, I wouldn't have a problem if he attended.
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| Posted 7/29/10 7:36 AM |
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mommyIam
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
I'm not religious at all, I don't go to temple. But I have an enormous respect for the religion, even though I'm not a believer, I follow in my own way.
With that said, I wouldn't go, its the most important holiday of the year. I usually spend a very low-key day at home if I can.
It was instilled on me, that no matter what I believe that the traditions of my ancestors should be honored and not forgotten. Especially since the circumstances in which they sought to practice those traditions where so grave.
I think it all depends on where you come from and how you feel about the day. What you would typically do on that day, and what it means to you, etc.
I wouldn't have any disrespect for you if you did or didn't go to the wedding. I think its understood either way in our society in general.
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| Posted 7/29/10 8:00 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
I wouldn't go. I do observe the holidays and my family does go to temple. My DH is Jewish, but if it was an interfaith marriage I would tell DH to go and I'd just be with my own family for the holiday.
Plus, I'd get all the Jewish guilt from the family if I did go. Oye!!
BTW... a teacher at the daycare Mason goes to daughter is getting married that day. Wonder if it's the same wedding. She's at the front desk in the morning. Very, very nice woman. I chat with her a bit and we've been talking about her daughter's wedding and she said it's on Yom Kippur. She knows I'm Jewish (not that we're invited, but came up in conversation)
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| Posted 7/29/10 8:01 AM |
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momma2b
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Re: Would you go - Jewish ladies - High Holy Days
yom kippur is the most holy day of the entire year.
it would be like asking your DH's family to go to a wedding on christmas or easter- their most holiest days.
IMO, i would not go to the wedding.
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| Posted 7/29/10 11:33 AM |
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