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hbugal
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Would you let DH....
....sleep over at his ex wifes house, while she is out of town, b/c his kids need to get up for school in the morning?
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Posted 12/11/08 1:47 AM  |
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by hbugal
....sleep over at his ex wifes house, while she is out of town, b/c his kids need to get up for school in the morning?
Yes, I would- it's not like she is there, and even if she was, I doubt there would be any temptation there! 
DH's XW's boyfriend does it from time to time with his Xgirlfriend- even with the X-GF there!!!!
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| Posted 12/11/08 6:26 AM |
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partyof6
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by hbugal
....sleep over at his ex wifes house, while she is out of town, b/c his kids need to get up for school in the morning?
Yes, I would- it's not like she is there, and even if she was, I doubt there would be any temptation there!
DH's XW's boyfriend does it from time to time with his Xgirlfriend- even with the X-GF there!!!!
ewwwwwwwwwwwww!
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| Posted 12/11/08 8:39 AM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Would you let DH....
Why can't the kids just sleep at your house?
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| Posted 12/11/08 9:11 AM |
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Lucky2008
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Re: Would you let DH....
My DH has done it before. It was about 3 years ago and he was going to her school recital sort of thing. The ex was there too...so it was not like the child was going to be alone......what upset me more than anything was that he didn't discuss it with me...he just said he was doing it, whether I was comfortable with it or not.....plus, she lives across the street from a hotel.....when I offered to pay for the hotel room, he accused me of being insane and jealous!!
How do you feel about it? Does it make you uncomfortable?
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| Posted 12/11/08 9:14 AM |
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by lastchance1222
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by hbugal
....sleep over at his ex wifes house, while she is out of town, b/c his kids need to get up for school in the morning?
Yes, I would- it's not like she is there, and even if she was, I doubt there would be any temptation there!
DH's XW's boyfriend does it from time to time with his Xgirlfriend- even with the X-GF there!!!!
ewwwwwwwwwwwww!
I know!!!!  I don't get their whole relationship anyway - it's very strange!!!
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| Posted 12/11/08 9:38 AM |
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toni-mike
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Re: Would you let DH....
Im far from the jealous type, if anything DH is , but in answer to that ? , NO NO & NO .. Do they live in another state or something ? What would be the purpose of DH sleeping @ his Ex's house weather she is home or not. If the kids gotta go to school then get up early & take em .. I would feel uncomfortable
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| Posted 12/11/08 9:42 AM |
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anjerandunder
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Re: Would you let DH....
i wouldn't mind even if she was there but then again if she was there he wouldn't have to right? then i might have a problem..
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:35 AM |
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Bops
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Re: Would you let DH....
In my situation ( and thankfully she's not an x-wife ) is a big NO , not that I'd have to give my input on that one to him  ....But even if she weren't the wack-a-doodle that she is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable with it to be honest- and I can't put my finger on why exactly...I think I would try to find another way somehow 
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:55 AM |
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LIPrincess
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Re: Would you let DH....
Absolutely not. it's not that I won't "let" him, but I would be annoyed at him for doing it. I am lucky, his ex doesn't even want him in her house. One day I suggested he go after work, help her with her homework and stay until his ex got home (she had a class at night) and she wouldn't allow it. She made him pick my sd up and take her to my house, then she picked her up there.
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| Posted 12/11/08 1:32 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by toni-mike
Im far from the jealous type, if anything DH is , but in answer to that ? , NO NO & NO .. Do they live in another state or something ? What would be the purpose of DH sleeping @ his Ex's house weather she is home or not. If the kids gotta go to school then get up early & take em .. I would feel uncomfortable
They live about a 1/2 hour away from us....
Honestly I just think she likes to make things "uncomfortable" for us. There is no reason why the kids cant just sleep over our house and then DH can take them to school the following morning.
I dont really care either way...it's more of the fact that she thinks he should sleep there that irks me...
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| Posted 12/11/08 5:24 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by Bops
In my situation ( and thankfully she's not an x-wife ) is a big NO , not that I'd have to give my input on that one to him ....But even if she weren't the wack-a-doodle that she is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable with it to be honest- and I can't put my finger on why exactly...I think I would try to find another way somehow
I know what you mean...I know Im not jealous. I know how he truly feels about her. It just irks me and I dont know exactly why.
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| Posted 12/11/08 5:26 PM |
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Bops
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by hbugal
Posted by toni-mike
Im far from the jealous type, if anything DH is , but in answer to that ? , NO NO & NO .. Do they live in another state or something ? What would be the purpose of DH sleeping @ his Ex's house weather she is home or not. If the kids gotta go to school then get up early & take em .. I would feel uncomfortable
They live about a 1/2 hour away from us....
Honestly I just think she likes to make things "uncomfortable" for us. There is no reason why the kids cant just sleep over our house and then DH can take them to school the following morning.
I dont really care either way...it's more of the fact that she thinks he should sleep there that irks me...
Hmmm.... it sounds like she has control issues - still trying to pull the strings and is definately trying to make things uncomfortable as you said ....
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| Posted 12/11/08 8:43 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by Bops
Posted by hbugal
Posted by toni-mike
Im far from the jealous type, if anything DH is , but in answer to that ? , NO NO & NO .. Do they live in another state or something ? What would be the purpose of DH sleeping @ his Ex's house weather she is home or not. If the kids gotta go to school then get up early & take em .. I would feel uncomfortable
They live about a 1/2 hour away from us....
Honestly I just think she likes to make things "uncomfortable" for us. There is no reason why the kids cant just sleep over our house and then DH can take them to school the following morning.
I dont really care either way...it's more of the fact that she thinks he should sleep there that irks me...
Hmmm.... it sounds like she has control issues - still trying to pull the strings and is definately trying to make things uncomfortable as you said ....
Control issues is putting it mildly...
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| Posted 12/11/08 10:09 PM |
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toni-mike
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by hbugal
Posted by Bops
Posted by hbugal
Posted by toni-mike
Im far from the jealous type, if anything DH is , but in answer to that ? , NO NO & NO .. Do they live in another state or something ? What would be the purpose of DH sleeping @ his Ex's house weather she is home or not. If the kids gotta go to school then get up early & take em .. I would feel uncomfortable
They live about a 1/2 hour away from us....
Honestly I just think she likes to make things "uncomfortable" for us. There is no reason why the kids cant just sleep over our house and then DH can take them to school the following morning.
I dont really care either way...it's more of the fact that she thinks he should sleep there that irks me...
Hmmm.... it sounds like she has control issues - still trying to pull the strings and is definately trying to make things uncomfortable as you said ....
Control issues is putting it mildly...
IDK,
i just cant grasp my DH's ex saying, Oh , i wont /will be home but need to be out early in the am can you sleep over to take the kids to school ?? .
Especially knowing that he has a wife ..
unless of course its the control thing like a poster said, or maybe she is just trying to piss YOU off...
Making things uncomfortable is one thing , asking your DH to sleep there is another LOL ...
Id be like , um no thast ok, Ill just have the kids stay here , drive the half hour..
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| Posted 12/12/08 11:25 AM |
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toni-mike
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Toni
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by toni-mike
Posted by hbugal
Posted by Bops
Posted by hbugal
Posted by toni-mike
Im far from the jealous type, if anything DH is , but in answer to that ? , NO NO & NO .. Do they live in another state or something ? What would be the purpose of DH sleeping @ his Ex's house weather she is home or not. If the kids gotta go to school then get up early & take em .. I would feel uncomfortable
They live about a 1/2 hour away from us....
Honestly I just think she likes to make things "uncomfortable" for us. There is no reason why the kids cant just sleep over our house and then DH can take them to school the following morning.
I dont really care either way...it's more of the fact that she thinks he should sleep there that irks me...
Hmmm.... it sounds like she has control issues - still trying to pull the strings and is definately trying to make things uncomfortable as you said ....
Control issues is putting it mildly...
IDK,
i just cant grasp my DH's ex saying, Oh , i wont /will be home but need to get the kids to school in the am, can you sleep over to take the kids to school ?? .
Especially knowing that he has a wife ..
unless of course its the control thing like a poster said, or maybe she is just trying to piss YOU off...
Making things uncomfortable is one thing , asking your DH to sleep there is another LOL ...
Id be like , um no thast ok, Ill just have the kids stay here , drive the half hour..
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| Posted 12/12/08 11:26 AM |
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legallyblonde
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Re: Would you let DH....
No. That's weird. And I would never let her sleep over at my house either.
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| Posted 12/12/08 1:53 PM |
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1stimemom
Love my boys
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Re: Would you let DH....
I would make the kids sleep over. THey will be fine. No need to have him sleep over, and *possibly* remember what it is/was like to have daddy around. Plus, I would not be comfortable with it in general, as I guess you aren't either?
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| Posted 12/12/08 3:58 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Would you let DH....
Posted by 1stimemom
I would make the kids sleep over. THey will be fine. No need to have him sleep over, and *possibly* remember what it is/was like to have daddy around. Plus, I would not be comfortable with it in general, as I guess you aren't either?
It's not so much that it makes me feel uncomfortable...it's more that it's just such a stupid request..KWIM?
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| Posted 12/12/08 11:11 PM |
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Sash
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Re: Would you let DH....
Nope, I would not. Its not so much as letting him I think is inappropriate and he should respect that and see it from my view. I alwayd reverse it, would he be okay with me sleeping over an exes house. I highly think NOT.
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| Posted 12/16/08 1:03 PM |
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I don't think I'd ever have this decision to make. My DH would not sleep at his ex's house if she paid him million dollars. The fact that she is not there wouldn't change that. Of course, we have the primary residence of my stepson, so this really wouldn't be an issue anyway.
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