Would you tell me if I was wrong, please?

Sat we had a huge tree cut down. I took my stepdaughter out before they really started it, and I wasnt home until after they left. The only truck I saw was the cherrypicker that was on my lawn.

Ok, so Monday my neighbor comes to my house and says that my tree people disconnected his electric line on Sat with the trucks. I told him that the pole is all the way on the other side of the house, so I didnt know how that was possible, he stormed off and waved his hand in the air. I then spoke to my husband who told me the grinder truck was parked there. Then his wife comes over, let me tell you that for the last year and a half every time I have people over or work being done she sits at her window and then comments to me. When I do speak to her (rarely) she always has something nasty to say about the work my husbands doing. Ex: its taking too long, or does he know what he is doing, why did you have your house sided that color, etc. So, the first thing I said to her was "I apologize I spoke to my dh and he reminded me about the other truck, and I will call LIPA for you", but why didnt you tell me on Sat. why have you been without elec all this time. She puts her finger in my face and tells me she sat at the window and watched the whole thing and that she doesnt need me to call LIPA she is more than capable and that she does have elec. this line was only for the spotlights she has (??). I guess a year of her being so nasty and talking about all the neighbors and being in our business built up, because I usually dont do this, but I looked her in the face and told her to get off my property or I would call the police. She then yelled at me, I dont even know what she said, I was so angry that I looked at her and said maybe its best if you remember your just a renter.

I feel terrible, my dh used to like to hangout with her husband, and I never speak to anyone like that. I was a renter for more years than I want to remember, so I dont even know why that came out.

I dont really want to tell her I was wrong, because in a way I wasnt.

What would you do?

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IMO, she had no right to put her hand in your face, so you were completely justified to react the way you did!!! You were trying to apologize, and all she did was be nasty. Try not to feel guilty about it - she's sounds like a miserable POS - and quite possibly may be related to MY nasty old neighbor!!!

hope you feel better over the situation soon!!

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you lost your temper, it happens to the best of us.

she had no right however to stick her hand in your face!

I would not apologize. IMO

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I work with contractors through work, some are really good, some not so good. But basically, whenever work gets done, there is the potential for something like this to happen.

I think you lost your temper, but you tried at first to apologize and make it right and she treated you shabbily, so I can understand why you lost it. I also think that if I lost power on anything right away, I would have let you know, so you could call your contractor to come back and repair it. Backhoes and cherry pickers hit power lines - it happens. The contractor should be able to fix it if he hit it, but he should have been told right away.

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You are only human and can only withstand so much from a nasty person. Don't feel bad- sounds like she had it coming to her.
She sounds a bit unreasonable... she should have let you know right away the power was out.

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She sounds a little crazy to me. Of course, if you had known, you would have asked to have it fixed. But, the guy just stormed off so to heck with them. Then, you tried to be nice again and she was obnoxious. So, I wouldn't apologize- she's been rude to you for a long time!

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You may have overreacted a bit but don't worry about it. It happens to all of us. It really sounds like this woman overstepped her bounds by a long shot. She sounds like a jealous, negative person who wants to make others as miserable as she is.

I love to garden, even the weeding. Whenever we're working outside and see the neighbors across the street (who also happen to be renters) they make comments about how much working on a house sux and that a condo is better. I'm sure for some people it is but we chose to buy a house for many reasons and the yard is one of them. They are starting to get on my nerves with it. All of our neighbors seem to know how much we paid for the house (or at least what it was on the market for) With a double lot it was fairly expensive for the immediate area and we seem to get some animosity from a few neighbors because of it.

My issues barely begin to compare with yours but I wanted to let you know that I understand. You are not wrong. You owe no apologies unless you want to apologize for over reacting but I think that might just feed into a person like this. I think I would have reacted exactly the same way. Hopefully they won't be tenants for long...is it a legal rental? I'd do whatever I could to make sure all the t's are crossed and i's are dotted on the rental.

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You didn't exactly take the high road, but could easily make the argument that she drove you to it. I wouldn't apologize, she doesn't sound worth the effort.

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Honestly - it sounds like she has been bugging you for some time now and you just exploded. I don't think you did anything wrong. Tell her to mind her own business and what you do to your house or what color siding you choose is no business of hers!!!! You apologized for the shortage - and were being nice by offering to call LIPA. She could have come over on Sat. and told you right away what happened.

I truly believe that some people are just so miserable they want to make others feel that way too.

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The only thing I have to say is I bet that woman has been doing this to people for so long and has never been put in her place. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. I would have done the same thing.

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Posted by MissingLI

The only thing I have to say is I bet that woman has been doing this to people for so long and has never been put in her place. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. I would have done the same thing.

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I wouldn't apologize at all.

If she freely admitted that she watched it happen - then why didn't she get out of her house and tell your tree people at that point? She and her husband should have been barking at them, not at you.