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Bridex100
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Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
DH has the next 3 months off and has the opportunity to go to Haiti to help. He was originally planning to play stay at home dad and take DS to music class, swim classes, story time, etc.
I'm really torn. DH is a specialized surgeon and he could probably really help over there - make a difference of whether someone will walk again, lose their arm, etc. At the same time, I feel like I will worry about him constantly and he may even miss DS's 1st birthday party, depending on the timing of his time in Haiti.
What would you do? Would you want your DH to go?
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Bxgell2
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Absolutely - of course you'll miss him, and it will be sad to miss your DS's first bday party, but think of the impact he can make on so many innocent lives. And, he will be giving your child an even greater gift in his absence - an incredible role model for a tremendous, selfless act of pure kindness 
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:17 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by Bxgell2
Absolutely - of course you'll miss him, and it will be sad to miss your DS's first bday party, but think of the impact he can make on so many innocent lives. And, he will be giving your child an even greater gift in his absence - an incredible role model for a tremendous, selfless act of pure kindness
DS probably wouldn't mind or notice if DH wasn't there at his birthday party.
It would make me sad though.
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:32 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by Bxgell2
Absolutely - of course you'll miss him, and it will be sad to miss your DS's first bday party, but think of the impact he can make on so many innocent lives. And, he will be giving your child an even greater gift in his absence - an incredible role model for a tremendous, selfless act of pure kindness
ITA. DS won't remember his first birthday party or whether DH was there or not. I think you have a pretty awesome DH who is willing to go and help 
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:34 PM |
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Lauren82
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by Bxgell2
Absolutely - of course you'll miss him, and it will be sad to miss your DS's first bday party, but think of the impact he can make on so many innocent lives. And, he will be giving your child an even greater gift in his absence - an incredible role model for a tremendous, selfless act of pure kindness
ITA!
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:35 PM |
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sj-girl
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Does he have to go the whole 3 months?
Would you be more open too the idea if he went and helped for maybe 4-6 weeks instead of the whole 3 months?
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:36 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by luvsun27
Posted by Bxgell2
Absolutely - of course you'll miss him, and it will be sad to miss your DS's first bday party, but think of the impact he can make on so many innocent lives. And, he will be giving your child an even greater gift in his absence - an incredible role model for a tremendous, selfless act of pure kindness
ITA. DS won't remember his first birthday party or whether DH was there or not. I think you have a pretty awesome DH who is willing to go and help
ITA too! What a wonderful opportunity for him and the thousands of people he could potentially help! 
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:44 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
No. I would absolutely NOT want him to go. But that being said, I would 100% encourage him to do it. Sometimes doing the right thing is just hard, but if it's the right thing, then it's the right thing.
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:47 PM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
I wouldn't want him to go, because I would miss him and worry like crazy, but it is an amazing, once in a lifetime thing to do and it would probably make him feel really goo about himself.
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:49 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by prncsslehcar
No. I would absolutely NOT want him to go. But that being said, I would 100% encourage him to do it. Sometimes doing the right thing is just hard, but if it's the right thing, then it's the right thing.
I have to agree with this. Although I would miss him terribly and be constantly worried, I would know he was doing the right and noble thing, and helping so many people.
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:52 PM |
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pixie
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Nope. I need him to be here or Id miss him like crazy. Im selfish.
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:52 PM |
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ME75
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by pixie
Nope. I need him to be here or Id miss him like crazy. Im selfish.
same...i'm sorry. i think 3 months is too long-maybe for a month or so? i think it's wonderful though if he can help like that!
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:54 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
It's such a noble cause, but I don't know if I personally could manage as a single F/T working mom w/ no help from DH for 3 months. Unless you have a really strong support system w/ lots of family/friends to help you, I don't think I could manage it.
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| Posted 1/15/10 8:57 PM |
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ME75
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by nov04libride
It's such a noble cause, but I don't know if I personally could manage as a single F/T working mom w/ no help from DH for 3 months. Unless you have a really strong support system w/ lots of family/friends to help you, I don't think I could manage it.
good point!
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aliwnec10
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by ME75
Posted by pixie
Nope. I need him to be here or Id miss him like crazy. Im selfish.
same...i'm sorry. i think 3 months is too long-maybe for a month or so? i think it's wonderful though if he can help like that!
I agree. Maybe a couple of weeks, but not 3 months. That's a lot on your shoulders during that time.
I couldn't do it. You're a stronger person than me if you let him go for 3 months. 
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Id be OK for the entire 3 months....if it means a mothers arm could be saved so she can hold her child, or a child leg is saved so he can run around again one day....Id suck it up for 3 months, if though Id miss him and it would be hard back home. Id be willing to sacrifice 3 months of my time for the greater good. Those poor people need all the help they can gte.
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| Posted 1/15/10 9:05 PM |
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mom2aidan
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
I hope he goes.
DH went to New Orleans after Katrina (FDNY) and it was one of the most rewarding experiences of his life.
I sat around and cried in the days after Katrina watching the horrible images on TV. When the offer came through he said, "I'm in a unique position. Most people want to help but they can't - they feel helpless. I CAN help." It was so empowering for him. He had a lot of survivor's guilt after 9/11 and it bothered him that although he recovered many bodies, he didn't "save" anyone. Katrina helped him feel like he "helped". I was so incedibly proud of him 
I worried constantly, but seeing him getting off the bus the night he got home was AMAZING.
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pinkandblue
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by Lauren82
Posted by Bxgell2
Absolutely - of course you'll miss him, and it will be sad to miss your DS's first bday party, but think of the impact he can make on so many innocent lives. And, he will be giving your child an even greater gift in his absence - an incredible role model for a tremendous, selfless act of pure kindness
ITA!
I agree as well
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| Posted 1/15/10 9:08 PM |
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
No way... selfishly no. I would be too worried about him and miss him too much. 3 months can feel like an eternity.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by pixie
Nope. I need him to be here or Id miss him like crazy. Im selfish.
I am with you. I really would not want him to be away from us for so long. We've never been apart in the 18 years we've been together so I don't think I could do it but if you can and he goes I think that is so wonderful of your DH!! 
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Peainapod
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by pixie
Nope. I need him to be here or Id miss him like crazy. Im selfish.
i thought i'd be the only one thinking this after reading the posts. If he could go for a shorter term, i'd be somewhat ok. But honestly, its a war torn country, rebels are stealing and looting..i'd be worried he'd get kidnapped or killed.
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Goldi0218
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
No.
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
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Posted by pixie
Nope. I need him to be here or Id miss him like crazy. Im selfish.
i thought i'd be the only one thinking this after reading the posts. If he could go for a shorter term, i'd be somewhat ok. But honestly, its a war torn country, rebels are stealing and looting..i'd be worried he'd get kidnapped or killed.
I was originally the one who mentioned that perhaps he should go.
The more that I think about it, the more reasons I think he should not go. There is a lot of looting going on. Tons of super desperate people. I can't help but worry that someone will try to rob DH or he'll trip, fall, get injured, list goes on and on.
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| Posted 1/15/10 10:12 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
That is definitely tough and it would be SO hard to let him go and I know I would be so torn but I think deep down I would know that for me the right decision would be to let him go and help. It is so sad what is going on there.
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| Posted 1/15/10 10:23 PM |
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patti08
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Re: Would you want your DH to go to Haiti to help?
Posted by SJ-GIRL
Does he have to go the whole 3 months?
Would you be more open too the idea if he went and helped for maybe 4-6 weeks instead of the whole 3 months?
Exactly what I was going to say.
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