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Shroggie
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I'm a MOH in a wedding party and texted all the girls to see if they wanted to chip in to get a gift for the bride. The shower is this weekend (short notice, I know, but there were other factors as to why I waited this long). It was a small amount ($44), and everyone agreed except one girl. I totally understand that she's strapped for cash right now and I don't want her to feel bad.
What would you do? Still get the gift and write that it's from her bridal party (just eat up the $45, I have no problem doing this), or not get a gift form us at all. We're all chipping in in some way to pay for the shower.
I just don't want the other girl feling bad.
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2boys1girl
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Get the gift and write from the bridal party, especially if you have no problem tossing in the extra money.
Message edited 1/8/2013 4:05:15 PM.
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:05 PM |
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mrsm-2011
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by 2boys1girl
Get the gift and write from the bridal party, especially if you have no problem tossing in the extra money.
exactly this!
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:07 PM |
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halfbaked
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Did she offer to give you the cash after the fact? Since it's crunch time I'd probably just get the gift anyway and say it's from everyone.
This actually happened when I was the bride, and I don't like the way it was handled at all. Hope you're reading this dear! 
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:16 PM |
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
this happened over the summer with my sister's shower- we just went with the girls that contributed- the other bridesmaid wanted to get something on her own
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:18 PM |
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BeachGrl
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
This is just my opinion, I don't think it's fair to the girls who actually chipped in, if you say it's from the other girl too, when she did not chip in. I would feel bad doing that.
I would probably cancel the group gift and have everyone bring their own gift that they originally planned to bring, or just include the girls names who actually chipped in. I just feel like the other girls might think it's not fair...
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:23 PM |
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Eunyboo
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I would just buy it and put from all the bridesmaids.. not worth the drama. lol
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:23 PM |
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by 2boys1girl
Get the gift and write from the bridal party, especially if you have no problem tossing in the extra money.
ITA!!
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:27 PM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I'd give it from everyone. Consider it a nice thing you're doing by covering her share and and let it be.
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:28 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I'd give it from everyone. Being in a wedding is really expensive and she's probably really strapped in a lot of ways being there for the bride. if you can eat it, I'd just do it and put it from everyone. We've all been there
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:30 PM |
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ANR1211
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Part of me wants to say just say it's from everyone, but the other part says to put the names of who contributed because it's not fair for those who chipped in. Being in a bridal party is expensive and if you're that strapped for cash, it's probably not wise to be in it!
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| Posted 1/8/13 4:44 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I would sign from the entire bridal party.
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| Posted 1/8/13 5:56 PM |
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MrsFrizzle
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I would just sign it from the entire bridal party. If you're unsure how the others would react give them a heads up so no one will accidentally tell the bride it was from so and so.
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| Posted 1/8/13 6:08 PM |
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LotsaLuv
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
This happened with a bridal party I was in. The girl who didnt ship in bought her own gift, so we just signed the names of those who chiped in.
Did she buy her own gift? That would be weird if she didn't get her anything. if she did get her own gift then I wouldn't put her name, but if she didn't buy her own gift then i would just say from the bridal party to avoid drama, it's only $40
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| Posted 1/8/13 6:16 PM |
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MrsT809
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
My first thought was similar to most here, just let it slide and sign from everyone. My only concern would be if she already got or plans to get her own gift. Then it looks like she chipped in plus gave an additional gift, which looks like she spent more than everyone else and kind of sucks. I think I'd contact her again and ask if she got her own gift or wants to contribute less. If she's comfortable giving 15 or 20 bucks, let her do that and then sign from all. If she got something else, leave her off and let her do her own thing. Just a thought. I'd also consider all involved, I'm not one who's very sensitive about these things but if this particular group is someone may get upset no matter what you do!
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| Posted 1/8/13 6:16 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by MrsT809
My first thought was similar to most here, just let it slide and sign from everyone. My only concern would be if she already got or plans to get her own gift. Then it looks like she chipped in plus gave an additional gift, which looks like she spent more than everyone else and kind of sucks. I think I'd contact her again and ask if she got her own gift or wants to contribute less. If she's comfortable giving 15 or 20 bucks, let her do that and then sign from all. If she got something else, leave her off and let her do her own thing. Just a thought. I'd also consider all involved, I'm not one who's very sensitive about these things but if this particular group is someone may get upset no matter what you do!
I completely agree with this. If she gets her own gift, sign from only those who contributed. If she doesn't get anything in addition because she can't afford it, then sign from the bridal party.
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| Posted 1/8/13 6:29 PM |
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gdubs
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WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Was it the amount she had an issue with or was she not getting anything bc you're chipping in for the shower?
If she could do something take what she's willing to contribute and include her name and cover the difference. If she's just not doing a gift then if you could I would just pay the difference and not include her on the card. It's not fair to the other girls who did chip in to include her name. I think it's too late to tell everyone to get their own gift at this point.
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| Posted 1/8/13 7:01 PM |
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clotheshorse
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Definitely sign the names of only those that contributed. That's the fair thing to do and the other girl cannot complain about it because she did not chip in. Why did she agree to be a bridesmaid if she was that strapped for cash?
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| Posted 1/9/13 8:27 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
I would sign the card from only those girls in the bridal party that contributed towards the gift.
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| Posted 1/9/13 9:13 AM |
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jams92
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
did the girl offer to give money after the fact? if so i would include her...if not i would only put the girls that contributed.
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| Posted 1/9/13 9:37 AM |
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Shroggie
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
She cant afford anything at this time, so no separate gift. I told her that I have no problem covering her portion, and not to feel bad. I bought the gift and it will come from the entire bridal party.
She texted me later that she will pay me back as soon as she can, and that she was thankful.
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| Posted 1/9/13 9:53 AM |
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by Shroggie
She cant afford anything at this time, so no separate gift. I told her that I have no problem covering her portion, and not to feel bad. I bought the gift and it will come from the entire bridal party.
She texted me later that she will pay me back as soon as she can, and that she was thankful.
That's great 
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| Posted 1/9/13 9:56 AM |
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springchick
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by clotheshorse
Why did she agree to be a bridesmaid if she was that strapped for cash?
things and finance can change very easy and I bet that if she is close to the bride the bride would want her to be a bridesmaid even if she can't afford a gift.
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| Posted 1/9/13 10:00 AM |
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halfbaked
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by Shroggie
She cant afford anything at this time, so no separate gift. I told her that I have no problem covering her portion, and not to feel bad. I bought the gift and it will come from the entire bridal party.
She texted me later that she will pay me back as soon as she can, and that she was thankful.
That's perfect then. At least she stood up to contribute when she can, it couldn't have been easy for her to admit that she can't swing it at the moment.
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| Posted 1/9/13 10:05 AM |
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clotheshorse
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Re: WWYD - Bridal Shower Gift
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Posted by Shroggie
She cant afford anything at this time, so no separate gift. I told her that I have no problem covering her portion, and not to feel bad. I bought the gift and it will come from the entire bridal party.
She texted me later that she will pay me back as soon as she can, and that she was thankful.
That's great
That works out and its fair for everyone.
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