WWYD: Baby shower question?

With my mom just passing away the idea of having this child without is painful enough, let alone having to go thru a baby shower. I dont like being the center of attention. I really didn't want the shower.

Here's the thing... My mom couldnt afford/do my bridal shower (i did it myself) so the fact that she could do my baby shower meant a lot to her. my mom not only was co-hosting it with MIL but she was so excited about it and the baby. So I feel like I have to go thru with the party for her sake. I just don't think I'm going to be able to do it without being an crying mess. I don't want to upset others and I dont want MIL to think I don't appreciate all that she has done for it either.

WWYD?

Have the shower?
Cancel the shower?

Re: WWYD: Baby shower question?

it's hard for me to say with absolute certainty, because i don't know how i would feel in this situation, but i think because your mom was so excited about giving the shower and celebrating your baby, that if i were you i would try to go through with it.

and i also think that it's perfectly fine if you are a crying mess the whole time. i can't imagine anyone would think that was strange or bad in any way! do you have any brothers or sisters who can be there to support you? it might help some.

your mother will be looking down on your and your baby wishing you nothing but a lifetime of happiness

Re: WWYD: Baby shower question?

First of all I am so so sorry and can't even imagine what you are going through, but you have to have your shower. As you said she wouldn't have wanted it any other way. This is an amazing time for you and you know she will be there looking down on you and wants to see you happy. I think she will help you through the day! Celebrate her life and her hard work to throw you a shower and enjoy your day!

Re: WWYD: Baby shower question?

Have the shower.

I lost my Father during my pregnancy. I was 20 weeks pregnant when my Dad died. Sure, someone may say a Dad isn't the same as a Mom, but he was my only surviving immediate family member. Lost my Mom 8 years ago & my Brother & Grammie 2 years ago, so my Dad took on the roll of all of them.
I too didn't want a shower. It was too painful to sit during a shower with no one from my family. My SIL & MIL wanted to throw one anyway. Just due to the circumstances I preferred it included men & children so I could extend it to others that I knew. Long story short DH really wanted to celebrate our upcoming baby's arrival & we ended up having the shower at our home with all of our friends & family. We had a great time - definitely do it. Your Mom will truly be there in spirit.

Re: WWYD: Baby shower question?

Posted by headoverheels



it's hard for me to say with absolute certainty, because i don't know how i would feel in this situation, but i think because your mom was so excited about giving the shower and celebrating your baby, that if i were you i would try to go through with it.

and i also think that it's perfectly fine if you are a crying mess the whole time. i can't imagine anyone would think that was strange or bad in any way! do you have any brothers or sisters who can be there to support you? it might help some.

your mother will be looking down on your and your baby wishing you nothing but a lifetime of happiness