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FlowerWife
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WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
ok so BIL means well. hes great with DD. hes a year younger than me and has a serious girlfriend who works with kids and has nieces and nephews and is also great with DD...
however, for the holidays, they got us a night out in AC, including a night of babysitting by them.. i know they meant well and its a cute idea. but they dont have kids and they dont know what its like to leave your kids with others for the night. i trust them because i know they love her and would do anything for her, but honestly i barely feel comfortable with my own mom watching her over night. theyve never even babysat her before for an hour let alone overnight.
i know if we say no to the gift it will start a big thing because they were just being nice and trying to be sweet. but i feel so uncomfortable about it. im going to let them babysit for a few hours a few times before the scheduled day (February). but ugh..this gift is more annoying than it is good...WWYD.. is it worth a war or should i just suck it up knowing that in the end she will be fine because i trust them. for the record i dont think i ever babysat a kid overnight before i had my own, and we've made it 7m so far...
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julz33
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
is there an expiration on it? just wait until she is a little older and enjoy yourself! i would LOVE that gift!
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| Posted 12/26/11 12:16 PM |
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A3CM
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
i am all about letting others watch my kids overnight.
my DS won't have anything to do with it, but my DD stays outs once a week with my aunt on fridays and 2x a month at my ILs
i wish i would have started this when they were infants.
i would let them
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| Posted 12/26/11 12:27 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
I understand your apprehension, but I think this is one of those times that you should let someone do something nice for you guys! We always overthink things and the anticipation leading up to the night is likely what will be the hardest part.
I'm sure once the night comes, you will start realizing how much fun it is to have a night out with your husband and then the next day you can enjoy your DD again. DH and I haven't done an overnight just yet, but we have had nights where my MIL watches our DD and we were gone for most of the night. The first time we did it, I was feeling worried about it all and then when we were out enjoying ourselves I thought "Wow, I forgot how much fun we can have as a couple!"
Who knows, you might end up enjoying that night out that you may want them to take her for a night again at some point.
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| Posted 12/26/11 12:28 PM |
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cheryl28
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
I wait until the summer when she's older. Does dd sttn? If so the. I say go for it. I would love that!
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| Posted 12/26/11 12:30 PM |
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menmyboys
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
What if you were to do an overnight with your mom just to have the experience?? Plan a dinner (out or in) with DH and see how you feel...
I was EXTREMELY apprehensive about leaving DS overnight until I had no choice... It's not as terrible as it seems. If anything you can't wait to get home to squish your little one...
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| Posted 12/26/11 12:45 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
This is just me but I couldn't leave my DD. She is 3y3m and she still has NEVER been away from us for more than a few hours, let alone overnight. Just not my thing. For the record, it was a very sweet gift though. They did mean well. 
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| Posted 12/26/11 1:00 PM |
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FlowerWife
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
well we have left her with both my mom and his mom before. its not the first time we left her for a night (we even went away for 2 nights for our anniversary). im more nervous about the fact that its their first time ever taking her at all, and the first time shed be with them for a night. i think its the first time theyll ever have a baby overnight.
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| Posted 12/26/11 1:05 PM |
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MayBbaby21
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
Posted by FlowerWife
well we have left her with both my mom and his mom before. its not the first time we left her for a night (we even went away for 2 nights for our anniversary). im more nervous about the fact that its their first time ever taking her at all, and the first time shed be with them for a night. i think its the first time theyll ever have a baby overnight.
Would they be offended if you went away for the night, but had one of your parents watch DD instead? I would love that gift, but in this infant stage, I feel most comfortable with our parents watching DD since they've BTDT (our siblings don't have children yet).
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| Posted 12/26/11 1:11 PM |
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menmyboys
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
Posted by MayBbaby21
Posted by FlowerWife
well we have left her with both my mom and his mom before. its not the first time we left her for a night (we even went away for 2 nights for our anniversary). im more nervous about the fact that its their first time ever taking her at all, and the first time shed be with them for a night. i think its the first time theyll ever have a baby overnight.
Would they be offended if you went away for the night, but had one of your parents watch DD instead? I would love that gift, but in this infant stage, I feel most comfortable with our parents watching DD since they've BTDT (our siblings don't have children yet).
This seems like a do-able option... otherwise, give him a chance to watch her for a few hours and extend it slowly.
I guess I'm too trusting... but I don't think anyone would offer this type of gift if they weren't up for the work that is involved. JMHO though...
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| Posted 12/26/11 2:12 PM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
dude use it and enjoy it...I'm very laid back on this topic and would greatly appreciate something like this.
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| Posted 12/26/11 2:24 PM |
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InShock
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
Posted by kerrycec03
dude use it and enjoy it...I'm very laid back on this topic and would greatly appreciate something like this.
My thoughts exactly! What exactly are you afraid of?? You'll leave them a schedule, they'll follow it the best they can, and you'll have QT with your DH!
It really is a SUPER thoughtful gift!
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| Posted 12/26/11 3:02 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
Posted by kerrycec03
dude use it and enjoy it...I'm very laid back on this topic and would greatly appreciate something like this.
I agree. We had a wedding in NJ when DS was 6w old and we had him stay over at my in laws bc it was too far to drive home that late and it was a really good friends wedding we did not want to miss. Of course I was nervous, but so glad I did it when he was young, everything was fine and now I would feel totally comfortable leaving him with in laws or my parents or brother/sil in the future. Once in a blue it is nice to have time with just your DH IMO.
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| Posted 12/26/11 3:08 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: WWYD... holiday gift dilemma....
I totally get it, I was this way with my DD. By the time my second rolled around I wish I had been a little bit easier going about leaving DD overnight here and there.
It will be hard but go. It's one night. You aren't that far away. They obviously are good people who love your DD so they will take amazing care of her. You can call, text and check in as much as you want but it will be really nice for you and them. 
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