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I agree with you morgan.

While it's healthy and perfectly okay to have hobbies and other things that don't involve our spouses, a line needs to be drawn on what's too much.

I don't think he gets that it's not about the golf you are upset about, it's him not spending time with his family.

He def needs to get it's about family time, not the golf playing.

A conversation about family time and his participation in it, and it's not about who takes care of molly or about vacations or who would let each other do what, but about bonding, love and making memories together.

He can still have his golf, and his once a month poker, but he needs to set a limit on himself, I think.

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my husband has hobbies too that he is absolutely obsessed with.. motorcycle racing and dirt bike racing. not only does he do both, he watches both on tv and live as well..these hobbies require him to TRAVEL ALOT.. the races can be anywhere, in any state, in Europe wherever. it also requires money lots of it to maintain his motorcycles, and also for him to race. it also takes time away from the family every night when he is in the garage "fixing" every little piece on his motorcycle. yes, i think it takes away from the family, and yes i resent that he can do this without the guilt of being away from the kids that would come along for me if i were to do it, even though, like your dh mine would support me to do whatever i wanted to. this is what i've learned. this hobby of his, it makes him who he is..he would be miserable without it..and i would be miserable without him..so i forgive him for the lack of "family time" and i do my best to try to be a "part" of his hobby as much as i can..which is not much..try to have a hobby for yourself..you are your own person outside of being a mom..as he is outside of being a dad. i have found that my resentment of his hobby is really my jealousy of his freedom and when all is said and done he is a wonderful father and husband and i love him..i hope this makes sense and maybe supports you a little bit..

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I agree with Don...everything in moderation...things like this can really eat away at you if you feel like everything is on your plate every weekend