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Hello All,

I've been lurking around in the backgroud of this list for several months now...still clinging on to the hope that I'm not really suffering from infertility. I know that is not true...my DH and I have been trying for 4+ years. But being in the healthcare industy as a nurse, I suffer from the "Know-it-all" attitude and the perpetual optimism that comes from wanting a baby. I finally went to see my MD to address our fertility issue and have received my official referral to see a RE.

Talk about scary. It is very hard to admit you need help...or even that a problem exists. I know the problem exists and it is now begining to carry/spill over into non-baby areas of life. I fear becoming consumed with trying to get pregnant to the point that I lose pieces of myself. I don't want to see other pregnant women and be jealous...I want to feel joy for them. I thought if I finally reached out to the support that is all around me maybe it would help. And, of course, we all know how detrimental stress can be to TTC.

I just want to thank all of you for being a beacon with your courage to share.

LJ

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Welcome Laura!

I think all of us at some point were in denial about our IF. Like you, IF has also spilled over in other areas of my life. You are not alone. You should be proud in the fact that you are now being proactive towards getting your BFP! I pray that you will finally get some solid answers about your IF.

The group of girls on this site have been a source of strength for me. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster but I can always depend on the girls here to bring me up.

I hope your stay is short and sweet....feel free to ask away!

There are a couple of G2Gs coming up....feel free to join us!

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Dear Laura

I too am new here! I think that it is a very positive thing that you have taken the step of seeing an RE. I can remember the first time my DH & I went to an RE and to be honest I was mortified. Having said that once we went and got the initial meeting over with I felt that I was doing something positive towards us trying to have our longed for baby. I think that TTC does naturally spill over into other aspects of life, but the way I try and look at it is that I am doing everything that I can to try and have a baby and if doesn't ever happen at least I know that I gave it my best shot, but I do try to be positive, not always easy!

Good luck to you and I hope that you get your BFP soon

Cathie

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hi laura

first, welcome to this board! i hope your stay is short. this board has helped me in so many ways, when i really got down about our ivf journey; talking with women that truly understand, knowing you're not alone and having unconditional love and support for people in the "same boat." i hope you find that support as well.

many women on this board have done many things to help them get through this extremely trying time, like acupuncture, massages, dietary changes, seeing a therapist. for me and dh, we went to a therapist that specializes in couples with IF issues. it has been extremely helpful, because like you said, this does spill over into other parts of life, especially your marriage.

congratulations on taking that first difficult step. wishing you strength and love throughout your whole journey.

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Good luck with your appt!!

This is a great board...there is so much support here...

I don't know where I would be without it

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Welcome, this is a very emotional roller coaster. Sometimes you have good days and IF is just a thing, sometimes you have bad days and it encompasses who you are. NO matter which day, these girls are always here for you.

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I dont know how I would have survived...honestly...without this board. I vented and complained and freaked out soooo many times, and without the support here, I might have given up a long time ago.....SO...take advantage of all the support here. It will help!



The step your taking now is HUGE, its gonna take a lot out of you but you will get through it.