How do I convince my DH????

So, my DH wants to start in Feb next year. I figure, why wait..? I'm just itchin to start now!!!

Any suggestions on how to make him want to start now?!?!?! I'll be ovulating in a week or two, so need suggestions!

Re: How do I convince my DH????

maybe tell him that it could take a bit to actually get pregnant....depending on when he actually wants the baby to arrive, he may agree with you. I remember when we decided, I knew it could take a while given our family history...so we started a few months ahead of schedule. Hope that helps....

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Re: How do I convince my DH????

Posted by Mrs

Posted by fungirl

maybe tell him that it could take a bit to actually get pregnant....depending on when he actually wants the baby to arrive, he may agree with you. I remember when we decided, I knew it could take a while given our family history...so we started a few months ahead of schedule. Hope that helps....

thats the problem, with us accounting that it may take time is why he has agreed to start Feb.. otherwise he wants to wait till June!!

But I need to convince him now!

maybe i should trick him?

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I agree, don't trick him. They get mad. I conceived this baby by accident...I attended a wedding and was a bit tipsy and forgot to use protection that night...now I'm 6 weeks pregnant! My DH asked me for 2 solid days after we found out if I had purposely NOT taken/used protection. Yeah, because I like not having insurance for the first 3 months! It's fun spending all our extra money on dr. visits. So don't trick him...the 2 of you should be on the same page about WHEN you want to conceive.

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def dont trick him, we were going to wait till next june originally, (got married this past june), but b/c of my irregular cycles, decided to push it to feb, then i went to the doctors who told me it could take us a little longer to concieve and that I may have PCOS so we started trying in sept and BOOM, 1st time TTC and i am pregnant. If i had known it would have been so easy i prob would have waited till feb, but my luck if we did it then, it prob would nt have happened for us!
Try talking to your DH, my DH originally really wanted to wait (like evwn two years) but after hearing my fears and based on what the doctors were telling me, he agreed he didnt want to wait till next year, and he was so happy when we got the BFP.

Message edited 10/14/2006 9:26:51 AM.

Re: How do I convince my DH????

call me crazy but i don't think you should have to "convince" someone to start TTC...

I don't think a couple should start TTC until both are mentally ready for it...

And if he is NOT ready ....then don't do it


And the fact that you say TRICK HIM...IMO that is just revolting.

Re: How do I convince my DH????

Posted by BrooklynGrl

Posted by Mrs

Posted by fungirl

maybe tell him that it could take a bit to actually get pregnant....depending on when he actually wants the baby to arrive, he may agree with you. I remember when we decided, I knew it could take a while given our family history...so we started a few months ahead of schedule. Hope that helps....

thats the problem, with us accounting that it may take time is why he has agreed to start Feb.. otherwise he wants to wait till June!!

But I need to convince him now!

maybe i should trick him?

Don't trick him. Just tell himk what I told my DH. Your never going to be "ready" for a baby. There's always going to be things you want to accomplish. If you keep waiting you'll never have kids.

Re: How do I convince my DH????

Posted by Redhead

Posted by BrooklynGrl

Posted by Mrs

Posted by fungirl

maybe tell him that it could take a bit to actually get pregnant....depending on when he actually wants the baby to arrive, he may agree with you. I remember when we decided, I knew it could take a while given our family history...so we started a few months ahead of schedule. Hope that helps....

thats the problem, with us accounting that it may take time is why he has agreed to start Feb.. otherwise he wants to wait till June!!

But I need to convince him now!

maybe i should trick him?

Don't trick him. Just tell himk what I told my DH. Your never going to be "ready" for a baby. There's always going to be things you want to accomplish. If you keep waiting you'll never have kids.

i have to say i don't think this is the case...

HE AGREED to start in Feb...

THAT is when he feels most comfortable...so KUDOS to him IMO.

Waiting 4 whole months ain't the end of the world

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well i totally understand that...Although i think we were the opposite..
DH wanted to start sooner but i needed to be more ready than i was..

SURE not everyone is 100%...I am not 100% yet

But we talked about it and made a decision that is best for us...a compromise..

And then we both jumped in TTC Ocean head first..


But it hink this DH (the OP DH that is)...COMPROMISED...he wanted to start in june...they both decided feb.

Now she wants to convince or trick him?

OMG...i just think that is terrible..

And could really backfire

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I have to agree with Red on this, the last thng the OP wants is a DH who feels betrayed or pressured.

My DH brought up the TTC convo the night after our wedding!!!! I was like "ummm, no, we JUST got married last night!"

He never pressured me at all, just brought it up here and there.....We agreed on the time to start and that's it.

A few months won't kill anyone.....it's already the middle of October!

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I wanted to start right after the wedding. DH did not. We compromised on a time that was right - after some bills were paid and some time went by. "Tricking" him would have been the end of my marriage and the beginning of single motherhood.

So many people told me to trick him. But I knew that if after two years in our relationship (and 15 years total) of me NOT getting pregnant being on the pill, it would seem like a very bizarre miracle if all of a sudden, after asking to get PG sooner than he wanted, that I suddenly got pregnant. Men, contrary to popular belief, are not stupid. My DH knows my cycle about as well as I do.That is no way be in a trusting relationship.

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Well you could tell him my story.

My husband wanted to wait a month or two more before starting.....I convinced him anyway...

22 months later we still werent PG and all our :plans" were useless.

Thanks to God I got PG on our first IVF try, but Im prrof that waiting could happen anyway, why risk it.

What would a few months do? Does he honestly think you would get PG on yor first try...God willing you do, cause that would be great and it does happen, he should understand what if it doesnt...

Good luck. Hope he changes his mind.

Re: How do I convince my DH????

Thanks guys for your advice!!!

I wouldn't trick him, I agree with you guys, its a big decision.. one we should embark together. In any case, my DH knows my cycle better than I do! He is the one that always remembers at just the right time

We did speak about it, and I keep telling him that one never knows how long it truly takes..

so.. we agreed that we will not 'not try anymore'. Not activly try until Feb, but not not try now
Works for me!

Thanks again you guys!

.. now you'll see monthly posts of me 'feeling' symptoms that aren't there'

Message edited 10/15/2006 8:37:08 PM.

Re: How do I convince my DH????

Posted by Mrs

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so.. we agreed that we will not 'not try anymore'. Not activly try until Feb, but not not try now
Works for me!

Thanks again you guys!

Re: How do I convince my DH????

Posted by nferrandi

Posted by Mrs

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so.. we agreed that we will not 'not try anymore'. Not activly try until Feb, but not not try now
Works for me!

Thanks again you guys!

That's ultimately what DH and I did and three months later I was pregnant and I'm due this Friday. But it was most definitely a decision we made together and we were ready for whatever happened.
My MIL used to joke that I should just stop taking the pill, but that's a horrible thing to do. You wouldn't ever want your DH to resent you or your child. Raising a child is tough enough without throwing deception into the mix.

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I would love to start TTC now, but my DH and I agreed on March, so I am going to sit tight and wait it out.

It's ok though because I am using this time to get my body in order - started taking vitamins, losing some weight and just getting mentally prepared...

good luck to you!