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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
my neighbor.....my DDs firends mom who i grew very very close to had her husband come home and say we need to talk......he told her he isnt "IN LOVE" with her anymore and he wants a divorce
they just celebrated their 10 yr anniversary and have 2 children
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AimeeE2006
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
What's sad is that the men that want to be single with all their single friends will shortly realize that those friends are starting to meet the ladies they'll marry and he'll end up being the lonely divorced guy that gave up his marriage to be single. (Does this make sense?)
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MrsQ
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by AimeeE2006
What's sad is that the men that want to be single with all their single friends will shortly realize that those friends are starting to meet the ladies they'll marry and he'll end up being the lonely divorced guy that gave up his marriage to be single. (Does this make sense?)
That's exactly what I said to my mom last night when she told me about my cousin and her husband.
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| Posted 2/14/07 1:20 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by MrsQiana
Posted by MrsT
It's not just men. I know of women who have just packed up and left their husbands (one left her husband and kids). She says that they got married too young and she did not have a chance to date and experience life so she is off doing that now 
It's not just young couples either.
My cousin left his wife after 6 years of marriage and 2 kids since he wanted to date again. He probably never stopped dating from the number of times she caught him cheating.
DH's friend is older than us and has been with his fiance for 10 years. He has two kids (not her kids) that she has raised for 10 years. He started cheating, got caught, stopped cheating, started cheating again (same woman) and now he is living with the other woman while HIS kids are at the house with his ex. And he blamed his fiance for his cheating since she pressed him to set a wedding date & accused him of cheating when he allegedly was not cheating
I agree it's not just men! Women are capable of being just as heartless as these men.
I agree as well. There are members of both genders that are equally immature and unrealistic
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
I will find someone way better!
Message edited 2/14/2007 1:39:35 PM.
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skew
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
add me to the, "i have a friend w/ cheating azz husband" list. infant at a home as well. she is VERY strong and is doing extremely well. he on the other hand is about to lose it ALL.
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jxnoscar
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
I don't mean to sound naive, bc I have been through a lot in my life, but
I cannot believe what I am reading here. Maybe bc I am a newlyed and am still in la-la land. This is realy upsetting. Men leaving new mommies, to 'hang with the boys'
It's heartbreaking. I am sorry for anyone who is going through this now.
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NEWMAMA
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
I think men put out the warning signs, they stay out more, they want sex less,picking fiights and not caring about your feelings. Its a shame, they should appreciate the great wifes they have instead of freedom to be a jerk.
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by NEWMAMA
I think men put out the warning signs, they stay out more, they want sex less,picking fiights and not caring about your feelings. Its a shame, they should appreciate the great wifes they have instead of freedom to be a jerk.
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Blu-ize
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
I say good riddance. It is the biggest mistake of their lives.
Message edited 2/14/2007 1:59:11 PM.
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domsmom52704
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
I know...It really scares me, especially since my FH has a few single friends still, they are between 33-36 years old and they LOVE to go out....He only goes with them once and a while but they atay out till like 5am and I fear that someday he will come home and be like..."I want to go back to being single" and want a divorce. Evenmore so because he was a self proclaimed "bachelor for life" that never wanted to marry or settle down and have kids before I came along and was PERFECTLY happy living the "bachelore style life" then he met me and things changed ( he is 35). I just worry that he won't be truly happy being married forever...
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Phoebee
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
This was entirely my life a year ago!!
My, now ex-husband, left me 2 days before New Year's Eve saying we had "issues" and he couldn't do it anymore. The day before Valentine's day, after seeing a couselor only 3x's, he said it wasn't working and he wanted a divorce!
3x's is "working on it?" I broke into his e-mail acct. to find out he was having an affair w/ some whore from work. I still call her that- b/c SHE was going through a divorce and knew he was a married man! She certainly had no respect for herself, or his wife.
Both parties are sometimes equally as bad and there is really no rhyme or reason. I do firmly believe that MEN can not handle a lot all at once. Looking for a home, talk of starting a family, new job... that's to much! My ex was use to his Mommy doing everything for him, and wanted that in his wife. Surely, he did marry the wrong person!
I call that wedding/marriage "practice". As, we all make mistakes, but the truth is, I did love him enough to marry him. I made a commitment and took my vows very seriously. This is something that makes me proud of ME. He on the other hand, should be ashamed and will regret his moves one day.
For everyone who has been through this tragedy and who is going through it now.... there is something so much more wonderful right around the corner.
** I'm remarried now and expecting our 1st child. We couldn't be happier! We both equally love, respect eachother, ourselves and our relationship! Everyone should have that!
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by AimeeE2006
What's sad is that the men that want to be single with all their single friends will shortly realize that those friends are starting to meet the ladies they'll marry and he'll end up being the lonely divorced guy that gave up his marriage to be single. (Does this make sense?)
You said it.
My father had a whole group of friends. He met my mother when he was 30. These guys I imagine thought they were hot $hit and went from one woman to another.Anyway 30 some years later - his friends are all still single. My father is the only one married. They could have been happily married with children...
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DRMom
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by domsmom52704
I know...It really scares me, especially since my FH has a few single friends still, they are between 33-36 years old and they LOVE to go out....He only goes with them once and a while but they atay out till like 5am and I fear that someday he will come home and be like..."I want to go back to being single" and want a divorce. Evenmore so because he was a self proclaimed "bachelor for life" that never wanted to marry or settle down and have kids before I came along and was PERFECTLY happy living the "bachelore style life" then he met me and things changed ( he is 35). I just worry that he won't be truly happy being married forever...
This would worry me honestly....sorry
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by Phoebee
This was entirely my life a year ago!!
My, now ex-husband, left me 2 days before New Year's Eve saying we had "issues" and he couldn't do it anymore. The day before Valentine's day, after seeing a couselor only 3x's, he said it wasn't working and he wanted a divorce!
3x's is "working on it?" I broke into his e-mail acct. to find out he was having an affair w/ some whore from work. I still call her that- b/c SHE was going through a divorce and knew he was a married man! She certainly had no respect for herself, or his wife.
Both parties are sometimes equally as bad and there is really no rhyme or reason. I do firmly believe that MEN can not handle a lot all at once. Looking for a home, talk of starting a family, new job... that's to much! My ex was use to his Mommy doing everything for him, and wanted that in his wife. Surely, he did marry the wrong person!
I call that wedding/marriage "practice". As, we all make mistakes, but the truth is, I did love him enough to marry him. I made a commitment and took my vows very seriously. This is something that makes me proud of ME. He on the other hand, should be ashamed and will regret his moves one day.
For everyone who has been through this tragedy and who is going through it now.... there is something so much more wonderful right around the corner.
** I'm remarried now and expecting our 1st child. We couldn't be happier! We both equally love, respect eachother, ourselves and our relationship! Everyone should have that!
Sorry so nosy but did you meet you new DH after or did you know him already. Congratulations by the way!
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by ChrissynRicky
I'm sure we can come up with a million reasons as to "why" - but it's not worth it to waste our time. It's something very unfortunate to go through, and especially when it's happening in your direct circle.
What's most important is being a strong person, supporting their decisions, and just being there.
I agree!
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CowgirlChick97
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
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imagin916
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
These men nowadays are totally disgusting!!!! I agree that this is happening more and more.
It truely makes me sad to think that even when I find someone and I do marry that while it may mean forever for me, it may not for the man
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| Posted 2/15/07 10:19 AM |
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imagin916
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by domsmom52704
I know...It really scares me, especially since my FH has a few single friends still, they are between 33-36 years old and they LOVE to go out....He only goes with them once and a while but they atay out till like 5am and I fear that someday he will come home and be like..."I want to go back to being single" and want a divorce. Evenmore so because he was a self proclaimed "bachelor for life" that never wanted to marry or settle down and have kids before I came along and was PERFECTLY happy living the "bachelore style life" then he met me and things changed ( he is 35). I just worry that he won't be truly happy being married forever...
The truth is, friends can only influence a man so much. If he is a good guy and loves you, it does not matter if his friends beg him until they are blue in the face to be single and stay with them, he will tell them that he is happy with what he has and that is that.
Men who are married/engaged/in a serious relationships go out with thier single friends and one of two things cross thier minds.
1) They really miss being single and hooking up with other girls. They feel that they are giving up more than they are gaining by being attached to someone. These guys are in relationships that they are not happy in or are in deeper than they are ready for.
2) They enjoy spending time with thier friends, but realize that the woman they have is the better deal than getting hammered every night with the boys and hooking up with easy girls. They may enjoy following the lives of thier single friends, laughing at the things they do, but are content with the fact that for them, those days are over and are ready for something real.
Just because he used to like partying with his friends, does not mean that he still wants to do that. Have some faith
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| Posted 2/15/07 10:26 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
In my case, I was the one that filed after 7 years. I couldn't stand being with a partner who did not consider my feelings, was not my equal, didn't have the same priorities or goals as I did and used his daughter constantly as an excuse for his shortcomings and regrets. He only "woke up" to what he has after he was served, but the damage is already done.
I married under the hope that it would be forever, but sometimes it doesn't work out that way. I'm under no false illusion that the grass is greener because honestly, from what I've seen out there, I'd rather stay single. I don't know if it's a universal mindset or just the generation that we're in, but the guys (and many women too) seem self absorbed and selfish. How sad it also seems that it's a complete rarity that marriages don't make it past 10 years today. My grandparents were married 68 and 62 years respectively. My parents have been married for almost 50. I've even considered selling my soul to the devil and staying married just so that I wouldn't feel like a failure, but it takes two to keep things going and I can't carry it all.
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| Posted 2/15/07 10:39 AM |
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Beth
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by melijane
Posted by domsmom52704
I know...It really scares me, especially since my FH has a few single friends still, they are between 33-36 years old and they LOVE to go out....He only goes with them once and a while but they atay out till like 5am and I fear that someday he will come home and be like..."I want to go back to being single" and want a divorce. Evenmore so because he was a self proclaimed "bachelor for life" that never wanted to marry or settle down and have kids before I came along and was PERFECTLY happy living the "bachelore style life" then he met me and things changed ( he is 35). I just worry that he won't be truly happy being married forever...
This would worry me honestly....sorry
ouch- why would you say that to her
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Ambersmom
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by melijane
Posted by Phoebee
This was entirely my life a year ago!!
My, now ex-husband, left me 2 days before New Year's Eve saying we had "issues" and he couldn't do it anymore. The day before Valentine's day, after seeing a couselor only 3x's, he said it wasn't working and he wanted a divorce!
3x's is "working on it?" I broke into his e-mail acct. to find out he was having an affair w/ some whore from work. I still call her that- b/c SHE was going through a divorce and knew he was a married man! She certainly had no respect for herself, or his wife.
Both parties are sometimes equally as bad and there is really no rhyme or reason. I do firmly believe that MEN can not handle a lot all at once. Looking for a home, talk of starting a family, new job... that's to much! My ex was use to his Mommy doing everything for him, and wanted that in his wife. Surely, he did marry the wrong person!
I call that wedding/marriage "practice". As, we all make mistakes, but the truth is, I did love him enough to marry him. I made a commitment and took my vows very seriously. This is something that makes me proud of ME. He on the other hand, should be ashamed and will regret his moves one day.
For everyone who has been through this tragedy and who is going through it now.... there is something so much more wonderful right around the corner.
** I'm remarried now and expecting our 1st child. We couldn't be happier! We both equally love, respect eachother, ourselves and our relationship! Everyone should have that!
Sorry so nosy but did you meet you new DH after or did you know him already. Congratulations by the way!
Why does your question sort of sound passive-aggressive? What difference does that make?
I'm glad Phoebee shared her story. I know it gives me (and hopefully others on here who are going through the same thing) some hope for the future. Thanks and congrats Phoebee!
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KaRiSsA
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by domsmom52704
I know...It really scares me, especially since my FH has a few single friends still, they are between 33-36 years old and they LOVE to go out....He only goes with them once and a while but they atay out till like 5am and I fear that someday he will come home and be like..."I want to go back to being single" and want a divorce. Evenmore so because he was a self proclaimed "bachelor for life" that never wanted to marry or settle down and have kids before I came along and was PERFECTLY happy living the "bachelore style life" then he met me and things changed ( he is 35). I just worry that he won't be truly happy being married forever...
Oh Jess...don't worry!
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by NEWMAMA
Its a shame, they should appreciate the great wifes they have instead of freedom to be a jerk.
Message edited 2/15/2007 12:40:25 PM.
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Re: There seems to be an epidemic lately....
Posted by melijane
Posted by domsmom52704
I know...It really scares me, especially since my FH has a few single friends still, they are between 33-36 years old and they LOVE to go out....He only goes with them once and a while but they atay out till like 5am and I fear that someday he will come home and be like..."I want to go back to being single" and want a divorce. Evenmore so because he was a self proclaimed "bachelor for life" that never wanted to marry or settle down and have kids before I came along and was PERFECTLY happy living the "bachelore style life" then he met me and things changed ( he is 35). I just worry that he won't be truly happy being married forever...
This would worry me honestly....sorry
and what exactly is the point of saying this to her?
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