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Ignore- Post deleted.Problem is being solved
thank you!
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Blu-ize
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
what is the real problem with the job? Are you going to take the other job?
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| Posted 6/22/07 1:15 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
Is it possible your friend didn't say anything? Did the new job call your current one for references? That could be how they know about it.
Unless you have concrete evidence, I would say you can't confront her - she can deny it and you have no way of proving it. And if it wasn't her, then you would hurt her feelings by saying she betrayed your confidence.
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| Posted 6/22/07 1:16 PM |
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
Posted by Blu-ize
what is the real problem with the job? Are you going to take the other job?
The real prob with the job is the money. I was offered a job that will offer me more money and better growth potential. She knows all this. Its not like Im doing anything wrong, just bettering myself. I think she might be jelous.
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| Posted 6/22/07 1:17 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
Posted by feelingbetrayed
Posted by Blu-ize
what is the real problem with the job? Are you going to take the other job?
The real prob with the job is the money. I was offered a job that will offer me more money and better growth potential. She knows all this. Its not like Im doing anything wrong, just bettering myself. I think she might be jelous.
Ok, I'm trying to split the two issues up here.
As far as yourb job. Does it matter now? Are you going to accept the job? Whatever she said and however your boss found out may be moot.
And, like the other poster said, maybe she didn't say anything at all? Os that a possibility?
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
did you tell the friend this info was confidential?
if she didnt know it was confidential that you cant really blame her
either way tell you friend that you think your boss knows whats going on and gently ask her if she told anyone becasue you need to make things right
dont accuse her, but just ask.
if you did tel lher that info in confidence and she betrayed you - did she do it on purpose or was she being loose lipped? if on purpose she is not worth being friends with but if it was accidental, i guess you need to watch what you sgay to her frm now on
good luck- if you are taking the other job it realyl doesnt mattter at the end of the day
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
My opinion
it's a ticklish situation - that needs to be navigated delicately - but it isn't undoable
since your current job knows about the offer on the table - if you are going with the other job, you need to get a WRITTEN offer from them quickly. This is to protect you in case your current job decides to let you go. Especially if the new firm is a competitor to your current job. The last thing you want is to be let go, and then have the offer rescinded. Verbal offers are meaningless.
As for your friend, really nothing you can do there, since you have no proof. I wouldn't "ask" if she told anyone. To me, that's as good as an accusation. And if I'm supposed to be a good friend of yours, you wouldn't even ask me if I did something to betray you.
This may all work out to your advantage. If your current job values you, they may be able to match the offer and title of the new job.
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
Thanks everyone. I wont have time to thank each of you individually. But your suggestions have been taken. I will get the offer in writing asap and discuss with my supervisor.
The info was a secret and my friend knew. She was the only one I told. I also dont think my refernces didnt check out, becuase I was told that everything was in order.
I wont have time to thank each of you individually. But your suggestions have been taken. I appreciate you taking the time to answer my post.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Advice Needed-under an assumed name, sorry
Just to clarify, written offers are also meaningless. A company doesn't have to hire you at all after offering you a job. You need to start at a job to get unemployment, benefits, etc.
If it were me and I strongly suspected that a friend of mine blew it, I'd want to know from her. Maybe it's me, but I don't think it's necessary to tell my good friend that mulling over a job offer is confidential information.
I would ask her. If she says it's her, I would say I'm pizzed off & disappointed in her, that she put me in an awkward situation. It can't be undone but I'd want the air cleared. If she said it wasn't her, then I would ask her who she thinks it was.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Ignore- Post deleted.Problem is being solved
best of luck
more than likely, your friend finked you out
but you never know who's listening on conversations and unless you really know for sure, you can't confront.
Chalk it up to a lesson learned and adjust for next time
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| Posted 6/22/07 1:48 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Ignore- Post deleted.Problem is being solved
Posted by nrthshgrl
Just to clarify, written offers are also meaningless. A company doesn't have to hire you at all after offering you a job. You need to start at a job to get unemployment, benefits, etc.
i know you're in HR, so i'll take your word for it. But, I'd think a written offer holds more ground than a verbal one.
I mean, let's say I had a job offer in writing - resigned from my job and then the new job refuses me employment. Can't I sue for that?
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