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lifamily40
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The end
This needs to end now!
Message edited 7/13/2007 8:05:32 PM.
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Ambersmom
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
I'm kind of in the same boat right now with my boyfriend. You either love-love him or dislike him. Unfortunately my sister dislikes him and it's really causing me some serious hardship She doesn't like him because of his religious beliefs and his political stance (neither of these things I care about). She won't let it go and she starts with me continously about it. Having her stamp of approval "was" very important to me on my relationship because she hated my STBX husband. I'm starting to think she's either jealous or just doesn't want to see me happy because no one can ignore how hard this guy works to make me as happy as I can be. He gives me so much.
It's a tough call. I don't live near my sister so outside of calls, I don't have to deal with her. But it sounds like you live local to your Best Friend. It may come to a point in your relationship where it's going to come to an impasse where you either have to come to an understanding or cut your losses. Whether or not she "likes" your husband, she has to respect your feelings and your choices. She's going to make things extremely difficult in terms of maintaining her friendship with you if she tries to alienate your husband from things.
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| Posted 7/9/07 5:02 PM |
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june262004
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
I was on the opposite end. My best friend was dating this guy who I hated. It got to the point where I told her I could not be with him. We could go out but I would not be around him.
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| Posted 7/9/07 10:21 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Posted by lifamily40
Hey ladies, my best friend has informed me on more than one occasion that she doesn't like my DH. My DH is a little rough around the edges and sometimes offends with his out spoken and boisterous nature. Now best friend is saying that DH is not welcome in her home or around her child because he tends to curse. She also thinks that DH disrespects me. Her DH is far from perfect so I feel like those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Need some advice. TIA
I NEVER said he wasn't welcome in my home or around my child, YOU did. Thanks for making up a new screenname and taking this to a public forum that I introduced you to and not responding to my private email. I was honestly concerned because YOU said he was worse at home. And I'm sorry but when I asked him to not curse in front of my child, he basically told me no. What would you have done? Let it just continue without saying something? Now the tables have pulled a 180. Your post just knocked the wind out of me and I"M hurt and insulted. I don't even know what to say right now
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| Posted 7/10/07 10:17 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Posted by Little-J-mommy-to-be
Posted by lifamily40
Hey ladies, my best friend has informed me on more than one occasion that she doesn't like my DH. My DH is a little rough around the edges and sometimes offends with his out spoken and boisterous nature. Now best friend is saying that DH is not welcome in her home or around her child because he tends to curse. She also thinks that DH disrespects me. Her DH is far from perfect so I feel like those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Need some advice. TIA
I NEVER said he wasn't welcome in my home or around my child, YOU did. Thanks for making up a new screenname and taking this to a public forum that I introduced you to and not responding to my private email. I was honestly concerned because YOU said he was worse at home. And I'm sorry but when I asked him to not curse in front of my child, he basically told me no. What would you have done? Let it just continue without saying something? Now the tables have pulled a 180. Your post just knocked the wind out of me and I"M hurt and insulted. I don't even know what to say right now
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| Posted 7/11/07 4:44 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Posted by Little-J-mommy-to-be
Posted by lifamily40
Hey ladies, my best friend has informed me on more than one occasion that she doesn't like my DH. My DH is a little rough around the edges and sometimes offends with his out spoken and boisterous nature. Now best friend is saying that DH is not welcome in her home or around her child because he tends to curse. She also thinks that DH disrespects me. Her DH is far from perfect so I feel like those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Need some advice. TIA
I NEVER said he wasn't welcome in my home or around my child, YOU did. Thanks for making up a new screenname and taking this to a public forum that I introduced you to and not responding to my private email. I was honestly concerned because YOU said he was worse at home. And I'm sorry but when I asked him to not curse in front of my child, he basically told me no. What would you have done? Let it just continue without saying something? Now the tables have pulled a 180. Your post just knocked the wind out of me and I"M hurt and insulted. I don't even know what to say right now
Wow! This is your best friend? I'd hate to see what she would write if she didn't like you. She should have kept this private. That would have been the mature thing to do. I'm really sorry that you have been so hurt. I would have felt the same if someone who was close to me posted something that should have been just between the two of us.
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| Posted 7/11/07 9:20 PM |
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Tracey
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Thanks for the hugs ladies. I really hope this works itself out as there is a 20 yr friendship at stake here.
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| Posted 7/12/07 2:49 PM |
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counselor74
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Message edited 7/13/2007 8:08:29 PM.
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| Posted 7/13/07 2:53 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Posted by counselor74
Isn't the purpose of this site to get advice and feedback from people on how to handle difficult situations in your life?
wow...are you serious? This has blown into something way out of proportion. Do me a favor....the next time you're going to make up a fake name and publicly b!tch about me on a board that you probably thought I wouldn't look at......do it on a different site. Not one that I've been an avid member of for over a year, where I have made friends and that I introduced you to because I thought it would help you.
Or better yet.....talk to me directly. After 20 years of friendship, I think I deserve that much. I can't believe you don't see anything wrong with this. This just makes me sad
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| Posted 7/13/07 3:16 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Posted by counselor74
Isn't the purpose of this site to get advice and feedback from people on how to handle difficult situations in your life?
I think J mommy was more upset that she brought it HERE, to a site that she introduced her to knowing she MAY see it. I agree I think its tacky and backhanded. If she was a good friend of 20 yrs she would have had the balls to say it to your face and confront you with the issues. Im sorry you have to go thru this, it really is a shame.
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| Posted 7/13/07 3:20 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: When your Best Friend Dislikes your DH
Posted by counselor74
Isn't the purpose of this site to get advice and feedback from people on how to handle difficult situations in your life?
Yes, it is. However, it has become obvious that she not only used this site for that purpose, but, she, also, used it to embarrass the person she calls her "friend". If she felt that she was not doing any harm, why the obvious made-up name? Is it that she cannot confront her "friend" on a personal level and she feels safer hiding behind a pseudonym? As I stated in my original post, the mature thing to do would be to keep this matter private, especially, if she knew her "friend" views and posts on these boards on a regular basis. I put the word friend in quotes because it appears to me that she doesn't think of her as such. A true friend would never hurt someone as she, obviously, has.
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Maathy317
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Re: The end
Posted by lifamily40
This needs to end now!
You're the one who brought to the boards. If you don't like the responses you got, that's too bad. Next time, keep private what is private.
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| Posted 7/13/07 10:11 PM |
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DebG
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Re: The end
Posted by Maathy317
Posted by lifamily40
This needs to end now!
You're the one who brought to the boards. If you don't like the responses you got, that's too bad. Next time, keep private what is private.
Agreed.
to Debbie
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| Posted 7/13/07 10:49 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: The end
Posted by Maathy317
Posted by lifamily40
This needs to end now!
You're the one who brought to the boards. If you don't like the responses you got, that's too bad. Next time, keep private what is private.
Well said 
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| Posted 7/14/07 9:46 AM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: The end
Thanks for all all the hugs and support ladies!!
No more flames please, we are trying to work things out.
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| Posted 7/14/07 12:22 PM |
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aliciahelene
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Re: The end
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SPECIALNEEDSMOMMY
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Re: The end
TO ALL!!!!!
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CunningOne
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Re: The end
I hope it gets worked out.
Maybe ask Ron to pull the thread so it doesn't get hashed out again in public.
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