Scared of being Preg.

Please help - I have anxiety issues already, getting off meds for that to try to TTC. I just need some questions answered, has anyone been so excited for the thought of TTC and having a baby then actually get preg. and freakout? I am excited for everything, but when that stick comes out that I am preg. I feel like I am going to freak out - does that mean I am not ready? I am just soo nervous, turning 31 soon, and ready to start, we have the house and I really can't wait to be a mom. I do have to go over some stuff with my boss, materinity leave and $$ issues, but There are soo many things that make me nervous. Anyone in the same boat as me???

Thanks girls,

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I think I've said this before - but when I told my husband - he looked petrified. I laughed & said "We are so not qualified to be parents." If it helps I don't think everyone - even those with TTC issues - are fully ready for the impact of a baby. But I can't imagine one mom who would ever change a it.

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wow - we could not be more alike :)
i too am turning 31 in the beginning of 2006 and am back and forth about being ready and not ready to TTC. I plan on going off the pill this week! but then on vacation last week i had a panic attack about the whole thing. I feel so bad for DH who handles my changes in feeling in stride and tells me whenever I'm ready :)
I tell him that I'm just SO HAPPY with the way we are now that i really am not rushing into changing it. we have a house, travel and just enjoy being us :)
then the other half of me says "just do it already. it could take awhile." I do want his parents and mine to be young enough to enjoy their grandchildren.
then i get worried about the actual pregnancy - what it will do to my body? miscarriages, labor, etc.
Will i still be taken seriously at work if they even think I may not come back?
what will a child do to my relationship with DH?
I could not be more panicked right now about the ENTIRE PROCESS :(
some many unanswered feelings and questions..

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I don't know if I freaked out about the things you did but for me as soon as I got my BFP my anxiety went through the roof. First I worried about miscarriage, then I worried about birth defects, then I started worrying about the baby dying and having to deliver a dead baby, and the list goes on. My pregnancy was not relaxing to me at all. I was in therapy for most of it so that helped and I learned techniques to help myself move past my thoughts but whoa totally wasn't expecting to have the anxieties I did. I am happy to say that as a mom my worries seem more on the normal/rational side. I am definitely not as anxious as I thought I would be.

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I was very scared and anxious about being pregnant, having a healthy pregnancy and being a good parent - for me the anxiety got better as the time progressed.

I didn't have many symptoms so I really didn't feel pregnant until i started feeling the baby and then reality just hit me and my anxiety for the most part went away. As soon as i started to feel that baby inside of me - my whole prespective of life changed and i knew that I had to be calm and not anxious not only for my well-being but for the little miracle growing inside of me. I've been feeling like im on cloud nine, and enjoying each moment of this pregnancy thus far - im almost 23 weeks - Its normal to have some anxiety or pressure - but to a certain extent - constant worrying is not healthy for you or the baby - but of course one never knows how they will react to this situation until you are in it. At this point, there is no looking back, only forward - so its important to stay positive and train your body and mind to be positive and calm any way you can.
Good luck to you TTCing!

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I think it is totally normal. While I am TTC, I worry about the kind of pregnancy I will have, LABOR, my body afterwards, how it will affect the relationship with my DH. I do love the way things are with us that we can do what we want at any time, but then like you said I am 31, want my parents to be young enough to enjoy their grandchildren and I just feel like it is time for us to extend our family. I dont think you would find many people who said they had no worries.

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Oh yes! I have been very, very anxious- we are about to start and I'm going through a huge range of feelings, good and bad. But I am almost 34, so I really need to get started!

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Honey this Dec I'm married 7 years. We waited a long time to have this baby. Always wanted to wait for the right timing and yes although we have the house and good careers. We have more debt now than ever. No time is a perfect time to have a baby. It just comes and we are blessed and we manage just fine. I am still scared but feeling these kicks I know in my heart it will all be ok and it's the perfect timing. Do it, you will see.....it will be beautiful!

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Thanks all ! I really believe I just need to relax and enjoy. I guess I have to talk to Dr. app't is in 2 weeks and then see from there to TTC !!