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I'm sorry you're feeling like that, but I don't believe that anything you've done prior is the reason you can't get pregnant now. I don't believe that God judges us like that.

I wish you much baby dust!!!

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I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I don't believe you are being punished. I think you made the decision you needed to at the time. I am sorry you are having troubles and wish you much Baby Dust!!!

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I don't think you are being punished either. I know many women who had abortions many years ago and have healthy children now... good luck!

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There has not been any concrete eveidence that abortion does anything to affect future fertility. Do you know whne you ovulate? Have you learned to analyze your CM or bought OPK's?

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You aren't being punished- sometimes it takes a while- but it certainly isn't punishment.
You are very brave for being honest.

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Speak to your doctor. Sometimes it takes a while.....I am sure God is not punishing you and it takes a lot for you to share!! We are all here to chat

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You are not being punished. Just thought i would share my brother and sister-in-laws story with you. The same thing happened to them back in college and they opted to get an abortion. They both didn't have jobs yet and it was just not the right time.

Fast forward to a few years ago and they are now married and she was TTC for a few months and everytime she got a BFN she told my brother it was god punishing her for what she did. Well a month later they got pregnant and they now have two beautiful and healthy boys.

Please don't beat yourself up for this. I have a friend who had a baby when she and her boyfriend were not ready (she thought she could handle being a mom and did not feel against abortion) and now her mom takes care of her kid and she is out all the time. You did what was right for you at the time. God is not going to punish you!

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Just want to give you some hugs

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Thanks girl for being so nice. My gyn believes I have PCOS therefore I do not ovulate every month and my AF's are out of wack. Since we've been trying for a year and a half now we've decided to see a specialist. I know it's harder for women to conceive w/PCOS but I can't help to feel guilty that I did conceive with PCOS and now that i'm ready for kids it's difficult. I'll keep trying.
If anyone has PCOS what is the best way to determine if you are ovulating? I know Redstar suggested temping. Thanks again girls

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First of all, you are not being punished.
Secondly, you have to consider the fact that you are older now and it's a little tougher to get PG and you aren't ovulating every month. Plus, you are already pretty sure you have PCOS...which means you are ovulating, just not regularly.
Go to an RE and talk to them. I am sure they will give you meds to ovulate and you will have no problems....

Good luck and lot's of Baby Dust to you!

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I don't think God punishes people with infertility. It seems like some of the most incredible people struggle with infertility. Just like undercover said, it's a disease.

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Posted by calendargrl

I know this is a very personal topic but I would like some insight. I've been with DH for about 9 years now (married a year and a half ) and when we were younger (I was 22) AF was not regular, she didn't come for months at a time...I believe due to PCOS. Therefore we really weren't careful and I got PG, at the time I was still in school and not ready to have a baby so we opted to have an abortion. Here I am years later married (30 years old) and have been trying to get PG and have not been successful. I feel as if god is punishing me Does anyone have any insight for me? I know this is personal you can FM me. Thanks for listening.

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you have FM

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:hug

You're not being punished. Always remember that God loves you and will bless you with a child when the time is right.

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WOW....my friend went through something similar. She felt that something she did (not having an abortion, but something else) was the reason it took her so many years to conceive her daughter, even though she KNEW it was due to her endometriosis.

You have to know that first off, God does not punish ANYONE. God is not vengeful and spiteful.

You did what was right for you at that time. Feel good knowing that. It's hard now, because I'm sure your condition (PCOS) might affect you differently now that you are older? could that be it?

you can't feel guilty over something like that.

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I personally think that you need to forgive yourself for what happened years ago. Like the others said, you made a decision based on your situation at the time.

On top of your chances decrease after 30 (no shock to you) stress too can add to your inabillity to conceive. Perhaps you can go to a place of worship and have a self forgiving/release of your feelings and move on from feeling guilty? Just a suggestion, from someone who's had to do that before too.

Baby dust to you and your husband!!!!!

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I do not believe that God punishes you for a decision that you believed to be the best at the time. I guess I don't believe abortion is wrong so I don't see the need for a punishment.

TTC takes time. The normal time frame is 1 year.

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I am so sorry you are stuggling. I think our bodies play with us sometimes (I don't believe God would do these things to us).
I can share with you a story that may make you feel a bit better. My sisters friend had an abortion while planning her huge Irish/Catholic wedding and then struggled for a couple of years with m/c, eptopic pregnancies, and a few other problems. She beat herself up with each loss that she was being punished. She finally let that go with help from her priest and has 3 beautiful children.
I hope that story gives you just a little HOPE that someday you will get a BFP. Without hope, where would any of us be?