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this is my last words and goodbye. i never imagined that what i wrote would set off such a frenzy.

i apologize wholeheartly to the girls on here that i came to know and love. you were the girls i spoke to each and every day. you were the girls who knew what was happening in my life just as i knew what happened in yours. if i offended you in any way i am deeply sorry.

this board is not a board thats equal. its a beautiful thing that you 'veterens" for lack of a better word started this. but its an ugly thing to get bitter towards the new girls who come on here and scare them with your views. i thought forums were a place of support and concoling and understanding.....not what ive experienced here.

there is no secondary infertility board and i'll be damned if im not as deserving as any of you. i'll be damned that i cant write an innocent thing about my son when my friends on here ask me about him all the time. and the rest of you girls who have the secondary infertility dont you dare think you are any less because you already have a child.

i will never post here again. i will keep in touch with my friends here and i wish you all so much luck and happiness you will all have you babies. i will never stay on a board where i am told to grow up or to get over myself. maybe you who judged me should take a long hard look at your pessimistic selves and maybe see things from another persons perspective. the ladies are deserving of alot more on here.....

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Your asking people to see things from another persons pespective? Are you kidding?
I hope this is not a post looking for please dont go responses....

Everyone said they understood your post and explained to you why it hurt them. Be the bigger person and try to understand?

But....l, Good luck to you and I wish you luck on your IF journey.

The support will always be here if you return

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This is very very sad. This is a place of support for you AND "the veterans". The only way to make nice is to take your marbles and go home???

Like Donna said the support is always here if you want it in the forum that is the infertility board. Either way best of luck to you. Secondary infertility ***** too!

Message edited 12/2/2007 11:22:58 PM.

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sweet heart do not correct me....no im not kidding alot of you really need to get over yourselves. and no why would i want to stay on here? so you can bash my dr? my views? you girls know nothing about half of us on here who confide in one another everyday.
your a sad person to think id be that desperate to want to get advise from someone like you

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Jules, I wish you'd rethink this. I for one know how much this board would change if you leave. You're one of the few people that always go the extra mile to let others know that you're thinking of them and try to help others get thru tough times.
If you are sure that you're leaving then we will definitely keep in touch via email. And yes, I am going to be one of the people to say please don't go.
I would've hoped that you would've at least been given the decency to say your goodbyes on here without other people responding in a negative tone, but it seems to be in the air tonight. Best of luck to you and an unlimited supply of of . Thank you for always being here for me.

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Posted by MrsMessina

Jules, I wish you'd rethink this. I for one know how much this board would change if you leave. You're one of the few people that always go the extra mile to let others know that you're thinking of them and try to help others get thru tough times.
If you are sure that you're leaving then we will definitely keep in touch via email. And yes, I am going to be one of the people to say please don't go.
I would've hoped that you would've at least been given the decency to say your goodbyes on here without other people responding in a negative tone, but it seems to be in the air tonight. Best of luck to you and an unlimited supply of of . Thank you for always being here for me.

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I am new here but have been dealing with IF problems for a long time. I come here because I love the respect and support from all the women on this board. I don't post much here, but there is a comfort in the women here. I am sorry to see anyone go, especially since I feel that this could have been completely avoided. Right or wrong this whole situation was dealt with in poor taste. Good luck to you and your family.

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I think its very sad that you would leave based on one bad experience. All the ladies on here are very helpful and the point of this board is to see each other through the good and bad times and offer advice.

I do however agree that your original post should have been a little more sensitive. IF is a roller coaster ride and one day it may be fine to see a picture of someones baby or kid and the next day looking at a baby or kid can push you over the edge. I think that secondary IF is horrible too but remember many of the ladies here don't even have one baby yet.
so seeing a picture of your beautiful son may be very hard because it reminds you of what you don't have. There are quite a few of us ladies on the parenting board who have and continue to suffer from IF that would have understood your post

No matter what I wish you the best of luck

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Jule,

I know you a long long time.. I would never leave somewhere that offers you help when many other options do'nt .. you can relate to others here easier then other places..

People are allowed to be rude and mean that is fine.. You can just ignore them.. People are allowed to be sensative that is fine also.

What if you had 3 babies and wanted a 4th would you not be welcomed here?

You made the orginal post I believe to show your friends on "here" James..

You wouldnt post on parententing as you are not a "poster" really over there and your "people" are here..


I hope everyone gets knocked up soon and all the negative-ness stops!

DONT LEAVE!

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Well, I'm not one to usually get involved in drama, but I hope you can understand why someone would get upset about you posting pictures of your son. Honestly, this board is called INFERTILITY. A good portion of us on this board don't have kids and want nothing more in the world than to have them. And secondary infertility is just as awful as any other. I have secondary infertility, but unfortunately my son passed away.

If there are girls you want to show pictures of your son to, by all means, that's what Parenting and FMs are for. Either that, or maybe you could put a warning in the title to let people know what's in there. I'm not saying you shouldn't post, I'm just saying its good to try to be sensitive to others.

If you must go, then I wish you well. I hope you get your BFP and have a happy and healthy baby. Best of luck.

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OMG! What's happening here? Can't it all be forgiven, not final?