Help me teach my kids respect

I teach 4th grade and the kids I have show no respect to eachother. AS much as I try and emphasize the importance of it, they have a major problem with it. They are constantly in eachother's business and looking to see who they can get in trouble. Apparently, this class has always has a reputation for this. I am in a private school on Long Island and I believe these children do come to me with good values..but where are they?? I have tried stickers, tickets, marble jar and they still seem to repaet the same behavior. Does anyone have any other suggestions about what I can try? Stories I may be able to read to them that teach the meaning or respect? Lessons you have done? any help would be appreciated.

Re: Help me teach my kids respect

I took a character education class last month.
Here is a book list for respect.
books

Re: Help me teach my kids respect

I actually just showed my 10th grade classes the video of the blue eye/brown eye experiment janet elliott did in 1970 with a 3rd grade class in terms of teaching them acceptance. I know that's different from teaching respect, but I think it might be in the same ballpark? You can access it online for free. I showed it on my smartboard.

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I taught 4th grade last year and has a class FULL of kids who called each other the most foul, hurtful names and started fights over the stupidest things.

I asked my principal what I could do once rewards, detentions, calls home, write-ups werent working.

She contacted my school psychologist who came to my room to teach a series of lessons on role-playing and explaining how much damage words can do.

I reinforced it by repeating words she used but also but making them feel guilty for the hurt they were doing. I used words like "I'm so dissapointed in you- I thought you could behave better" "Its a shame you don't respect yourself enough to act in a nice way"