Dr. appt- what to say?

My DH and I want to talk to my obgyn about not being able to conceive and possible tests or what we should do. What do we ask him to take us seriously? I'm afraid that he's just going to blow us off and just say we need to try longer. I am going to lie to him and tell him that we've been TTC since last Oct (in reality it has been since feb.). October was the last time I was in to see him and we talked about going off the pill, so I figured he might have that written down in my file.

Anything I need to tell him/ask him to get us going?

TIA

PS- the appt is on tues!

Re: Dr. appt- what to say?

I would just tell him you have been TTC for over a year and have been unsuccessful and you want to start doing some tests to find out if there is a problem. I think - but not sure - that they usually want to start with DH to make sure his sperm are good. Testing DH is much easier than testing you. I think if DH comes out OK then they will move on to you. If your doctor blows you off and doesnt take you and DH seriously, then I would consider finding a doctor who takes your body as seriously as you do. Good luck Lora!!

Message edited 5/22/2005 10:48:03 AM.

Re: Dr. appt- what to say?

I would suggest not spending too much time discussing ttc with an gyn/ob. They really aren't very knowledgeable in fertility issues, believe it or not. It's been my experience, in talking with a lot of women, that ob/gyn's overprescribe clomid...and don't test thoroughly. I would go straight to an RE (reproductive endocrinologist). They will require a lot of bloodwork done, but then you will have an idea, if what could be the cause.... Your Dh should definitely go for a s/a, it's simple and very informative. You should ask to have your FSh, prolactin, tsh, progesterone tested, immune system tested, get vaginal u/s, insulin,hsg. I have a huge problem with the medical profession and infertility. They seem to move women along, in trying drug after more powerful drug, without really pinpointing the problem. Many women, can't ovulate on their own, and medication can help that, some women ovulate just fine, and their dh's sperm is fine....but they aren't conceiving, or are conceiving but not holding a pregnancy for many other reasons. The drugs the doctors are prescribing may not help them at all. It's frustrating to me. Make sure you stay on top of things, when results come back, ask for the actual "levels" don't accept answers like "everything is normal". I know it's intimidating, and we all want to hear "you are normal' but if you aren't getting pregnant...then normal isn't working! Well it isn't for me lol sorry for venting so much, but as women, we need to be more proactive...it's interesting but fertility isn't taken that seriously in the medical field.

Re: Dr. appt- what to say?

I admit I added 2-3 months to our TTC time to be taken more seriously.

I did this because
1- I have been PG twice and it was EASY to get PG
2-I'm 30 and want a lot of kids and my time frames are not that good for this
3-Because I lost 2 PG's previously
4-BECAUSE I know they move slow...I figured she would start stuff now, testing etc and if nothing happened be more agressive later. I did not want to wait till it truly was 6-8 months of ttc and have them start then.

So, while I do feel its kinda bad to lie about your health , I think a small exageration is not going to hurt that much at all.

I would seriously express your concerns as clearly as possible, and make sure the Dr. understands HOW frustrtaed you are. The more serious they think you are, the more serious they will handle it IMO.

I though ( may be different then what others think, its just my opinion) NOT go yet to a RE or a specialist. Let the OBGYN start the ball rolling. I know how hard it is to get an appointment with a specialist, they are booked up, especially the really good ones. I would not want to take the space of someone who REALLY needs it, take time away from them, until I was sure I NEEDED it. Make sense?

Anyway-GOOD LUCK.
KEep us up to date on what happens.

Re: Dr. appt- what to say?

I wouldn't worry so much about taking the time of up of an RE. Most of them work in clinics, and trust me, they fit an enormous amount of women/couples in. I didn't have to wait long for my Re appointment at all,....maybe 4 weeks. Unfortunately, the doctors, spend time reviewing your bloodwork results, and your medical history but they dont' spend much time with you personally. The one good thing about going to an RE is that they have the equipment needed. They can do a vaginal u/s ....and bloodwork, and give you results within hours. When we aren't proactive and a bit laid back time goes by, and unfortunately, when we speak about becoming mothers...no time should ever go wasted. JMo.....best thing you can do, is spend time getting to know your own body, chart, and use opks...and pay attention to cm, and your cervix position. Make sure you get certain bloodwork done as well....you can almost, figure out your own situation.....quicker than a lot of doctors can. It's always good to tell them what you think might be the cause .....

Message edited 5/22/2005 6:26:58 PM.