Daycare Dilemma...long

I just returned back to work last month and need daycare for my 4 month old. I looked into daycares near my home & work and found them to be quite expensive. So expensive that I might as well stay home. My mother can watch the baby 2 days a week. So for the other 3 days, I need someone. My husband went to the grocery store one night and saw a flyer posted on the bulletin saying they are a stay at home mom of 2 girls and was willing to babysit in her home. We met with her and her family and they seem nice enough. I asked for references and she gave me 3. I haven't called yet but I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me about this situation. Would you trust your 4 month old with someone you met for an hour even if they have children of their own? I asked her to do a trial to see how it goes and she agreed...she was even going to work with me on the price. She also mentioned that she hasn't babysat in a while but since she has 2 kids, I figure she's gotta know what she's doing. What do you think?

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That's really tough. Check out her references and trust your gut.

Personally, I'm happier having DS in a center that is regulated.

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How old are her kids? I would check her references and also run a background check. The trial idea sounds good if you feel comfortable after checking her out. Honestly I still am not sure I would feel ok with the situation. I think I personally would only use someone who is licensed unless I knew them.

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Her daughters are 3 years and 5 mos old.

I called and spoke to one of her references and they had nothing but nice things to say about her. She worked for this particular person. I called her friend but I didn't get in touch with her.

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I think it's a good situation for you both. she is able to make some extra cash and you have affordable childcare for 3 days a week. As long as her references check out and you feel good about her then I would atleast give it a try. My friend does this because she didn't want to back to work. She watches a boy and a girl at their home, but she is also able to bring her 1 year old with her.

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Personally- I wouldn't... but thats just MHO.

I'm lucky enough to have my son w/ me at work, however if that wasn't an option I would have him in a licensed center or in a licensed home group daycare. I like the checks and balances daycare has to offer. I like knowing my child is being stimulated and knowing that he is not put in front of the TV all day.

Anyone could provide references. That doesn't mean they are going to give you quality care.

Its sad how expensive daycare is, especially when we live in a world where most moms have to work.. However I'm a firm believer in you get what you paid for- so when it comes to the person providing care for my child- I'm not willing to cut corners...

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I have a SAHM watching my 3 month old when I go back to work next week. She's actually my friends sister, so she's not a complete stranger, but I just met her for the first time a few weeks ago. Her kids are 6 and 9 years, but she actually gave me some good tips on getting the baby to sleep and stuff like that. I followed my gut. I think she will be a good baby sitter...it's just part-time. Of course I worry, but what mother doesn't??

If you feel comfortable with her...I would go with her.

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Honestly I would trust your gut. Have her do a few trial runs and see how you feel. Many people send their kids to babysitters this way and everything turns out just fine. References are a great thing but I think your gut feeling as a Mommy will help you make a better decision.

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What have you been doing for child care up until now? Can you extend it for a few more weeks?

I recommend taking your DC to this woman's house on a Saturday or Sunday (when you're presumably off from work) for a few hours ... hang out with her and her children and your DC. Get to know her. Observe her with her own children as well as your own. Do not make a hasty decision and visit as many times as you feel comfortable. Talk to her at length -- feel out her philosophies on "mommy things."
As a mom, she should understand your concerns and accommodate you in this way.

Good luck.

Message edited 2/5/2008 8:17:16 PM.