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dm24angel
Happiness

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Donna

staying positive..

HOW DO I DO THIS?

I said early I felt ok this month, was ok if this was a bust.

Well I guess I lied. Im 11dpo today, broke down tested because I was having a ton of cramping that seemed too early for AF. BFN Chat Icon

Then it hits liek a ton of bricks...Like I dont want to go to work, or do anything but be miserable.

I know we have talked about it before, but how do you stay positive or get past these feelings??

Posted 12/7/05 6:44 AM
 
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Diane
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Re: staying positive..

It is very hard, it is like a rollercoaster.
DH said to me that if my FET does NOT work he doesnt want to try for awhile, because he cant stand to see me happy then sad, happy then sad, etc.
What other options does your RE have for you??Can you move on to IVF?? I know this was discussed by you.
Myabe you need to take a break and save up for it, I know you said you didnt have coverage.
I wish you th every bestChat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Message edited 12/7/2005 7:39:04 AM.

Posted 12/7/05 7:37 AM
 

rose825
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Re: staying positive..

Hi Donna. I know how hard it is, you wnat to be positive but in doing so you let yourself be vulnerable. And now matter how hard we try not to be it just creeps in.

I wish I had a good answer for you that would make this better, but the truth is its just a one day at a time thing. It is a disappointmnet for now, not forever. YOu wil hold that baby in your arms, its just a matter of when. Hang in there and take solace in the fact you are not alone and we are all here for you.

Now get you butt out of bed!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/7/05 8:18 AM
 

Bran-loves-Tom
Dad you finally did it!!!

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Brandy

Re: staying positive..

First of all I want to send you someChat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon !!! It is so hard to go through all of this!! You tell yourself you are not going to think about it but no matter how hard you try it doesn't work!! It could just be to early for your BFP!! Give it till Friday like you and DH compromised on. Please know your time WILL come!!!

Posted 12/7/05 8:40 AM
 

undercover
LIF Infant

Member since 9/05

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Re: staying positive..

Donna, I really hope this is a great month for you. It's still a little earlier to get a BFP so there's still hope.

I know exactly how you are feeling. I'm on day 10 after my second IUI and I'm not feeling very hopefully either. I started crying on the way to work.

Our time will come - I just have to believe that. I'm sending you a ton of baby dust and keeping all my fingers crossed for you.

Posted 12/7/05 8:54 AM
 

redstar
Delay is not denial

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Michelle

Re: staying positive..

I agree 11 dpo is very early. I wouldn't put much stake in negative results. Good luck, there is still tons of hope.

As far as staying positive....I think you just have to focus on the long term goal. I think we put too much pressure on ourselves to achieve it instantly. I know I do.

I decided, to take a break from the RE appointments. Going to the clinic I was visiting just made me frustrated. I need to go back to normality for a bit. Next cycle I am going au natural, no meds, no iuis , no doctor appointments, it's my holiday gift to myself.

Posted 12/7/05 9:05 AM
 

casey31
Mommy of 3!

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Mommy to two boys and a girl

Re: staying positive..

I really really believe that everyone here WILL have a baby!

You are all such strong, knowledgeable women- that with modern medicine and with all of you being such advocates for yourselves, I really think it will happen.

I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time with it! But I am faithful it WILL happen! Chat Icon

Posted 12/7/05 9:45 AM
 

Red
spring is in the air

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helen

Re: staying positive..

11DPO is early - I've trained myself (I don't buy and sticks Chat Icon ) not to test until I don't see AF. I always get it on day 24

Posted 12/7/05 10:06 AM
 

Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: staying positive..

Oh Donna,

I'm sorry. Really all I have are Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon for you. It is a roller coaster ride. Remember, like the other ladies said, it is a bit early.

Chat Icon ing for your BFP

Posted 12/7/05 10:36 AM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: staying positive..

I really wanna send a BIG thank you to you guys!

Just your sentiments alone made me feel better.

You dont know how a simple " Your not a lone" makes it seem OK for a little bit...Or helps get past the really bad moments...

Today was one of those.

Im feeling a little bit better....

As far as the IVF suggestion. I already feel guilty enough thinking we arent 100% finacially where we would like to be to have a baby , but know people have done it on less, and we have enough love to make up for it ten fold. We simply cant afford $10-$15K right now, and if it doesnt work??

I dont know WHAT are next options will be to be honest. Im not a fan of the Femara, I dont want to do the Clomid but will, and my RE is against injectables even though I want them (in a low dose) because they are so afarid of multiples for me. They run high in my family and I have lost two PGS and one in the 3rd trimester.

UGH ---frustrating!

thanks for listening, you all are amazing support!!!

Posted 12/7/05 7:35 PM
 

rose825
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Re: staying positive..

Donna I definately think you should have at least a consult elsewhere.

Posted 12/7/05 7:42 PM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: staying positive..

Posted by rose825

Donna I definately think you should have at least a consult elsewhere.



I know, and I agree with you Pauline , I am just so "tired" right now, the routine of the old place seems like its ok enough because I have lost that fight ...

I will work on it! THANKS!

Posted 12/7/05 9:24 PM
 

boosh1002
We like hanging together!

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Mommy to twins

Re: staying positive..

Donna I am learning on how frustrating this can be. My only advice is to just take it one day at a time and see how everything works out.

I am here always if you need anything. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/7/05 9:31 PM
 

kat813
LIF Adolescent

Member since 9/05

754 total posts

Name:
Kathleen

Re: staying positive..

Donna,

It's so nice to see how much support these women on this board offer. It's an amazing place for us to come and get support from other women going through the EXACT same thing.

I really feel we will all get our BFP's one day and we just have to keep working at it. While it's hard and is a bit of a rollercoaster ride you cannot give up hope. I know I have shed many tears over BFN after BFN and it instills such a feeling of hopelessness. It is these times that I try to focus on the fact that DH and I are healthy, we have a solid relationship filled with love and have a very fulfilling life. It's just this one thing that is causing us all this grief and I try very hard to look at the positive things through all this. It's not easy especially when you yearn for a child in your arms so badly and it seems everyone around you is having them so easily.

I wish you the strength to continue on this journey and think of this serenity prayer to help you:

God give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

Baby dust to all you fabulous womenChat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/8/05 10:57 AM
 

Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!

Member since 5/05

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Gerty ®

Re: staying positive..

I have to agree with Diane and Michelle, sometime you need to take some time off. The emotional roller coaster ride is too rough. Maybe think about taking a month or two off, see what happens au naturel. I know it has done a world of good for me and DH...we even have sex for fun now!

Posted 12/8/05 11:44 PM
 
 

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