Anxiety and illness after miscarriage...

I miscarried on 12/30 and thought I was dealing pretty well with everything... then my period came back and I began to see the reproductive dr to follow my cycle to see what is going on and then I have 4 close friends who are due around the same time that I was (a matter of weeks apart) and they are all growing bellies and finding out the sex... etc... its just harder than I thought I guess... I didnt realize that I've been pushing the feelings away until last night when I broke down sobbing. Since my period has come back and we started seeing the dr etc.. I have been having really bad anxiety. My throat feels tight... I've just been really stressed... I feel like I'm making myself sick. Anyone else going through something similar?

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After losing my son back in Sept I can relate 110%. I have been struggling with severe anxiety and depression for months and it is debilitating.

A few things that have helped for me:

1. Talking about it. I have a wonderful and supporting husband and he is always there for me to vent. It also helps that he understands. I have met many wonderful women who have been through the same thing and it has helped alot. Journaling can help too.

2. Have you thought about a support group? My husband and I currently go to two of them and they are great.

3. I see a therapist one on one and she is great. There is always the possibly of going on medication as well; I have just been reluctant to do so as we want to have another child.

It is simply amazing what the mind can do!!! I have been struggling immensely with this. It is good to just try and do things that make you feel better and are enjoyable. This is something I struggle with each day; as part of me feels guilty for moving on.

If you need to vent, you can always FM!!

Hope you feel better!!!

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I just went through something similar. I'm on a business trip now and there was an adorable baby girl -- maybe 9 months or so -- in the row in front of me. Literally being held up and facing me for a good part of the flight. After a few minutes, I just started crying and shaking uncontrollably. My boss was on the plane with me a few seats away; if he saw my mini-meltdown, he didn't say a thing.

By four hours into the flight, I got through most of my anger and sadness and was able to smile back at the baby.

I'm sure there will be other challenging times ahead.

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I know how you feel sweetie and it is an ongoing struggle fo rme too. I lost my baby in Oct and lately i have been ok. Then just Wed night i had a meltdown.

I wish i knew what to tell you. Its a hard time and i just want to give you

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You will be pg again before you know it Nic. I know it is very hard but give your body a little time to heal. It has only been a full cycle or two. I would bet you anything you're pregnant in less than 6 mos from now. And then you won't have to be sweating all summer with me!

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I am sorry you are going through this. It's just so hard to get past- but you will in time. Thinking you are fine and then feeling like you are falling to pieces is totally normal. It is a very deep pain, and sometimes it just bubbles to the surface, and you just can't control it. I hope you feel better soon!

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Yes, I understand. I was due within two weeks of my sister and it is killing me inside.

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I know that often our interior emotions manifest themselves externally. I have been having a lot of tightness in the chest since I miscarried and I truly believe that it's my grief/sadness taking over me exteriorly. That might sound strange but I am very aware of myself and I just feel that that is what it is. I am a believer that our emotions and feelings affect our health. I am not surprised that you are not feeling well - especially since your friends are feeling such joy that you are unable to share in. I am so very sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone and that we share in this difficult time with you.