How do I go on??

my grandma just died, literally a few hours ago. I made it to the hospital in time but within a few seconds of being at her bedside her heart stopped. I watched them work on her, I watched her throw up blood, I had to force my family to say it was ok to stop. they didn't want to let go. and as much as I didn't either her body wasn't working. her heart was only beating because they were pushing it to, she was only breathing because of a machine.

How do I go on without her? My life will never be the same. I can never call my oma again to say hello. She will never joke with me, or tell me she is going to florida.

I can't go on without her. I can't watch my grandpa. he is so sad, i can't even put it into words. how do i support him? what do i do? how in the world do I get through this

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It may not seem like you can't go on now, but in your own time, you will find your own way of remembering her and it will give you peace.

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I'm so sorry. I lost my grandma at a young age, and I never got over it. I still think of her daily and miss her as though she left yesterday.
You cry, scream, sob, vent, get mad that she was taken from you too soon, and then you honor her life by remembering her, and all the good in her, and the good she brought to others. And you share those memories with others who love her, and grieve together.
It'll be hard, and it won't be overnight, but one day you'll turn around and it won't hurt as much. And another day it'll hurt a little less. Please let us know if you need anything.
for you and your family during this difficult time.

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I am sorry for your loss.

There's no answers - do what ever you need to grieve. Cry, write out your thoughts, memories or emotions, look at pictures.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I think with time, you will find a special way to honor your grandma each and every day.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

She would have wanted you to go on--to be happy--of course right now you are grieving and sad for her loss.

Your life will change without her, but know that she is always watching over you and your grandpa. Be there for him--visit him if you can and keep him busy, as you both adjust.

I lost my grandpa 22 years ago and i remember it like it was yesterday. Now, when I see something that reminds me of him I smile and think about how much I loved him. Eventually you will get there too.

Many

and . I'm so sorry you had to see her go like that.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my Grandmother 4 months ago and she was like a mother to me. I remember feeling exactly the way you do right now, and I still do at times. They say it gets easier, and in some ways it does, but you have to know it's okay to scream, cry, and feel what you're feeling. She'll be watching over you and will still live within you.

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Heather, I can't express how sorry I am and my sympathy goes to you and your family. If you need to talk, call me or FM me sweetie! My prayers are with you

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I am so, so sorry. My grandma passed away in August, and I still can't really deal with it. I think about her every day, many times a day. I miss her like crazy.

The day she died, she was in a coma, and I whispered in her ear before I left, that we all love her sooo much, and that if she was ready to go home to papa (my grandfather who passed away 16 years before) to do so. It was sooo hard to say this, but I felt she needed to hear it.

So what you did for your grandmother is exactly what she needed.

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i am so very sorry for your loss.... i know it is incredibly difficult right now, but you will go on - if only because you have to. it will get easier with time, and you can keep yourself occupied with being there for your grandpa right now.

i am truly sorry, i cannot imagine how you feel.

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i'm so sorry for your loss as others have said, hopefully you'll find it easier as the days go on...
i lost my grandma a little over a year ago. i was very close to her, and i still think about her every day. I find what makes it easier is that i try to remember all the good times we had together and feel lucky for the time we did get to spend together. I don't have any regrets because we got to really enjoy each others company while she was here- and we made each others lives that much better. I think if you try to look at those positive things, it will help. my thoughts are with you and your family

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thanks everyone, even though it was an extremely hard night, I am getting better. its still so tough and I have my moments, but Its so nice to read all your kind words

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I am so sorry for your loss Heather. My grandmother passed away yesterday and I wish I could have said goodbye. She is in another county and it happened so suddenly that I never said goodbye or how much I appreciated everything she did for me. It is really tough to go thru this, I have been a mess for the last two days. She would want you to be strong and go on. FM me if you want to talk. Again, I am so sorry

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandma. Having lost both parents suddenly at age 20, its the hardest thing in the world to have go through. You have to remember the good times and remember that wouldn't want you to be sad.