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luvnlife
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Bachelorette Party Stress
Hi Girls, this is my first official post on the TTC board. It is our first month TTC for baby number 2. I have a 15 month old boy at home. We were extremely lucky at got a BFP on the first try last time and I'm hoping for some good luck again this time.
I'm in the middle of my 2WW and I have a bachelorette party to go to this weekend. The plan is wine tasting and then dinner and drinks. We're all staying over at a hotel. 
I am just not comfortable drinking when I know there is a chance I could be pregnant but its not a lot of people so its going to be very hard to hide. My best friend knows we are TTC and we're going to order tastings together and she will do the heavy drinking (if you're reading my post thanks Mamasita!) but the whole day still has me stressed out. I'm pretty sure I'm going to be outed as TTC and I just really wanted to keep it private.
I don't know if anyone can share some advice that would help, but I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.
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Posted 7/9/09 12:59 PM  |
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zoe282
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
There are tons of women who drink b/c they don't know their pregnant for 6-7 weeks...but if you aren't comfortable then don't drink. Or...pretend to drink if you don't want to make a big deal about that. I got a BFP the day before my friends bach party and I didn't want to take anything away from her so i faked it...but as long as you are careful and only have a few drinks in the 2ww you will be fine...but you have to do what makes you comfortable
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| Posted 7/9/09 1:06 PM |
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Stiletto19
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
If you don't want to tell anyone, you could always say that you're on antibiotics and can't mix them with alcohol.
Good luck!!
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| Posted 7/9/09 1:11 PM |
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mrsej
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
Posted by zoe282
There are tons of women who drink b/c they don't know their pregnant for 6-7 weeks...but if you aren't comfortable then don't drink. Or...pretend to drink if you don't want to make a big deal about that. I got a BFP the day before my friends bach party and I didn't want to take anything away from her so i faked it...but as long as you are careful and only have a few drinks in the 2ww you will be fine...but you have to do what makes you comfortable
ITA - I drank up to 8 weeks pregnant b/c I didn't know i was pregnant  I don't think drinking during the 2 WW is an issue - by all means, if you don't feel comfortable, don't do it.
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| Posted 7/9/09 1:13 PM |
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Niblet
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
Posted by zoe282
There are tons of women who drink b/c they don't know their pregnant for 6-7 weeks...but if you aren't comfortable then don't drink. Or...pretend to drink if you don't want to make a big deal about that. I got a BFP the day before my friends bach party and I didn't want to take anything away from her so i faked it...but as long as you are careful and only have a few drinks in the 2ww you will be fine...but you have to do what makes you comfortable
I def agree with zoe. I understand why you want to keep it private and at the same time it will be so stressful to fake it all night.
(On the brighter side, after a few strong drinks everyone else will get hammered and won't be paying any attention to what you are or aren't drinking)
Maybe you could be a bit nauseous from something you ate and ride that out until everyone else is drunk and clueless.
Good luck with TTC! 
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| Posted 7/9/09 1:16 PM |
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LoveyQ
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
My understanding is that you do not share with the baby/fetus until you've reached 6 weeks, so drinking during the 2WW would be fine.
Enjoy!!
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| Posted 7/9/09 1:35 PM |
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Tina1117
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
Posted by MrsQ-in2007
My understanding is that you do not share with the baby/fetus until you've reached 6 weeks, so drinking during the 2WW would be fine.
Enjoy!!
I thought the same.
I don't want to sound like a bad parent but I found out I was pregnant the week before my wedding. Of course I didn't want anyone to know yet so I had wine at the wedding so they would see I was drinking. But that was it no drinking after that day. Since I've had DS and pregnancy went well.
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| Posted 7/9/09 1:46 PM |
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
Posted by Tina1117
Posted by MrsQ-in2007
My understanding is that you do not share with the baby/fetus until you've reached 6 weeks, so drinking during the 2WW would be fine.
Enjoy!!
I thought the same.
I don't want to sound like a bad parent but I found out I was pregnant the week before my wedding. Of course I didn't want anyone to know yet so I had wine at the wedding so they would see I was drinking. But that was it no drinking after that day. Since I've had DS and pregnancy went well.
ITA!
With both kids, I found out I was pregnant after a good night out had occurred totally in the middle of the 2ww. I rest comfortably knowing we don't really share a blood supply (immediately) and that if the drink(s) I might have between conception and getting a BFP would harm my baby, God would have designed our bodies to let us know ASAP!
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| Posted 7/9/09 2:00 PM |
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ohbabybaby
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
If it were me, I know I would totally fake it. Sit with that glass, take fake sips, if anyone asked why I wasn't drinking more, I would certainly use the whole "i'm on antibiotics" line.
Good luck! Hope no one gives you the grill!
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| Posted 7/9/09 3:00 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
At 3 weeks it is still a ball of cells...forget about 1 week.
Not that I advocate heavy drinking...but I would go ahead & have a glass of wine or 2.
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| Posted 7/10/09 10:33 AM |
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
I think your plan is a good one. I wouldn't worry-you don't share your blood supply with the baby until 6 weeks! My OB said it was okay to drink, but just don't get habitually drunk!
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| Posted 7/10/09 10:43 AM |
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Rycois
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
Honestly, I wouldn't avoid doing anything during the 2WW - you don't share a bloodstream and hopefully it doesn't, but sometimes, these things take months and you can't put your life on hold for "what ifs"
Personally, I wouldn't get wasted, but I would drink. I would sip my drinks and probably avoid doing shots. Maybe water down some wine or do a mixed virgin drink. But I wouldn't worry too much about a wine tasting.
  
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| Posted 7/10/09 11:59 AM |
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timanda
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
I agree with the other girls that while I wouldn't get hammered, a few sips will do nothing to hurt your potential fetus.
Also I just want to mention that if you don't drink and everyone notices, the assumption will be that you actually ARE pregnant, which might make a BFN sting when people are starting to ask you about being pregnant.
Since you are only trying for right now, and you don't know how long it will take (hopefully you will get your BFP this month  ), I would try to at least take a few sips, say you are on antibiotics or are feeling nauseous, and try not to raise any suspicion. If you get a BFN this month you may regret drawing attention to your ttc plans.
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| Posted 7/10/09 8:30 PM |
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WorkingOnNo2
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Re: Bachelorette Party Stress
When I was pg with ds, I went on 2 wine tasting tours before I even knew I was pg. (I went at probably 3 and 7 weeks) I checked with my OBGYN and she told me that it was fine and could not harm the baby since atthat point you do not share blood. Once the placenta forms thats when you really need to be more careful. The small amount that you drink at a tasting will hardly effect ypu, nevermind a baby that you aren't sure exists yet. GL with your 2ww.
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