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Just to clear something up, I did not get banned. I asked for my account to be deleted. I decided to open another account because I actually enjoyed being on the boards minus the drama – believe it or not. I was Mitabtrfly on LIF – just as I am on NYCWeddings, and have been Mimi25 since then.

I hadn't posted since the incident with the guy in the store, and I noticed the fun some of you were having bashing me. Since you think you have me figured out as a person/mother I won’t hide and I will say how I feel.

I thought it was funny that some of the things/words I got criticized for have been used several times on here and yet those people weren’t told anything. What really surprised me the most was getting bashed by people I’ve spoken to OFF of these boards – whether it was on AIM or via email. I received FM’s from people who couldn’t believe what was going on. I also saw for myself how the bashing continued even after they thought I was banned.

None of you know what I have/haven’t been through, what my son has gone through and yet you think it’s ok to ridicule or belittle things like:

-him seeing his friend commit suicide
- his ex-girlfriends mother embarrassing her daughter by taking her to get tested to see if she was a virgin (because she thought they had been intimate)
-the fact that her stepfather WAS a Latin King.

Some of you found amusement in that and decided to make it a joke, when you have NO idea what my son/family went through at those times. Who in their right mind would make this up? I chose to share these situations THINKING I’d get some kind of advice – (even if it was critical), but never did I expect to be accused of lying, making them up. I’m not an attention *****. I don’t WISH for these things to happen to me. Unfortunately they did. Do I wish they hadn’t? OF COURSE I do, but the fact of the matter is THEY DID and I can’t do anything but try and move on.

Now with all that being said, was I proud of the way I responded to certain individuals when the bashing began? No. Was I angry? Yes. Did I say things out of anger? YES. Not everyone is able to control their anger in situations, especially given certain circumstances. It’s always easy to say what you would have done, if you were there, but you weren’t. Do I regret some of the things I said – yes I do and I apologize for that.

I will not apologize for getting back on the boards, when I was free to do so. That being said, if you want to bash me, go right ahead. I won’t participate, nor will I let it get to me like it did before.

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I HIGHLY doubt anyone is going to address this. especially anyone "making fun" of you or your life.

but since you are 'out of the closet' good luck to you and your family.

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Calling someone's mother a c**t in a mutual act of road rage -- with your IN YOUR CAR -- puts that child in imminent danger and it is NOT OK. Did you honestly expect kudos for that?

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Posted by colette

Calling someone's mother a c**t in a mutual act of road rage -- with your IN YOUR CAR -- puts that child in imminent danger and it is NOT OK. Did you honestly expect kudos for that?

Message edited 9/11/2009 12:57:07 PM.

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Posted by Mimi25

Posted by colette

Calling someone's mother a c**t in a mutual act of road rage -- with your IN YOUR CAR -- puts that child in imminent danger and it is NOT OK. Did you honestly expect kudos for that?

"Did I say things out of anger? YES. Not everyone is able to control their anger in situations, especially given certain circumstances. It’s always easy to say what you would have done, if you were there, but you weren’t. Do I regret some of the things I said – yes I do and I apologize for that."

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Nothing about that situation or any other situation "floats my boat"

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But that my dear, is the reason that anger management therapy exists. Perhaps you should look into it, before that child becomes an unwitting victim and you have a TRAGEDY on your hands. 2 guarantees I can make you: no apology will suffice if your daughter is hurt, and you are 100% GUARANTEED to meet more imbeciles out there on the road. Infer what you will.

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Honestly, im not on here enough to remember all about you and what happenened on here.

I did read the recent incident (with the road rage) and although its not something I would do or felt it was appropiate behavior, I wont come on here to bash you about it or bash anyone on this board because I didnt agree. Hence why you never see me respond on a "drama" started thread.

I actually feel sorry that you get bashed.
Sorry that you do.

I wish you the best

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Posted by Smileyd17

Honestly, im not on here enough to remember all about you and what happenened on here.

I did read the recent incident (with the road rage) and although its not something I would do or felt it was appropiate behavior, I wont come on here to bash you about it or bash anyone on this board because I didnt agree. Hence why you never see me respond on a "drama" started thread.

I actually feel sorry that you get bashed.
Sorry that you do.

I wish you the best

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Unfortunately, people can become very ignorant when they are confronted with things they do not know. And when you posts things you open yourself to this type of ridicule.

Just to offer some advice, you should try to cntrol you anger especially around your children. It is better to walk away, trust me. I grew up watching my mother getting into numerous fights. It taught me to always defend myself and resort to cursing and fighting. Over the past several yrs I had to tone it down alot realizing it not worth getting hurt and better to walk away. you wouldnt want your daughter to have to deal with that.

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I hope you can see through the drama & what people are really trying to say regarding your temper - even if they aren't presenting it the right way. Maybe anger management classes are something you'd want to look into as it can affect you in ways you may not realize...from everything to employment opportunities, making friends & teaching your daughter to make friends. I don't think I'd let my kids play with a child that repeated the phrases you said.

I'm sure you recognized cursing a stranger back & following them in your car with your daughter there wasn't the best course of action.

No one on here wants to read about you & your daughter in the tragic story of the week. Please consider it. Good luck to you & your family.

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Posted by Smileyd17

Honestly, im not on here enough to remember all about you and what happenened on here.

I did read the recent incident (with the road rage) and although its not something I would do or felt it was appropiate behavior, I wont come on here to bash you about it or bash anyone on this board because I didnt agree. Hence why you never see me respond on a "drama" started thread.

I actually feel sorry that you get bashed.
Sorry that you do.

I wish you the best

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I don't know your history-I missed some of the more colorful posts under your old name.

However, I saw the one last week-wherein you describe throwing a water bottle at someone's car, calling his mother the c-word and following them around; all while your kid is in the car with you.

Regardless of what this other person did to ignite your anger, you are responsible for your own actions and more importantly, YOU are responsible for the safety of your daughter.

The actions/words you describe indicate to me that you have serious anger management issues and your focus should be addressing those issues as opposed to addressing any bashing that went on on an internet board. JMHO and I wish you luck.

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Message edited 3/5/2010 3:15:41 PM.

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Seriously I have no clue about any of this. Good lukc to you.

I am just amazed on how much personal stuff people post about on public chat boards.

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Can you explain the virgin test?

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Posted by Mimi25

Posted by Smileyd17

Honestly, im not on here enough to remember all about you and what happenened on here.

I did read the recent incident (with the road rage) and although its not something I would do or felt it was appropiate behavior, I wont come on here to bash you about it or bash anyone on this board because I didnt agree. Hence why you never see me respond on a "drama" started thread.

I actually feel sorry that you get bashed.
Sorry that you do.

I wish you the best

Thanks - I appreciate you saying that. BTW: your daughter is BEAUTIFUL!

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Although I didn't agree with your reaction last week, I felt bad for how you got bashed about it. It's one thing to disagree with someone, but there's usually a tactful way to give an opinion without insulting someone or being condescending. Sorry you had to go through it and hope things get better with your family.

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Posted by Mimi25

Posted by colette

Calling someone's mother a c**t in a mutual act of road rage -- with your IN YOUR CAR -- puts that child in imminent danger and it is NOT OK. Did you honestly expect kudos for that?

"Did I say things out of anger? YES. Not everyone is able to control their anger in situations, especially given certain circumstances. It’s always easy to say what you would have done, if you were there, but you weren’t. Do I regret some of the things I said – yes I do and I apologize for that."

ETA: It wasn't ok for him to call me that in front of my
- I am her mother

Not a proud moment, but can't take it back.

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