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GoldenRod
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Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Just wondering people's thoughts on going to things when it is hosted by an organization that you don't necessarily believe in. For example, sending DC to a Catholic High School if you aren't Catholic. Joining Boy Scouts if you aren't religious. Joining the Masons just because you want to hang out with other guys. Celebrating Christmas if you are Jewish.
(Doesn't have to just be religion oriented, but those are the most obvious ones.)
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Posted 10/23/09 9:50 AM  |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I participate in a ton of things that really don't go along with my belief system, but because other people I know DO believe in those things, I try to support them and/or at least participate in things I find interesting. I can choose not to believe in something but still understand and respect it.
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| Posted 10/23/09 9:52 AM |
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EsquireFish
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Well, I swam on a YMCA swim team for years, and I am Jewish. It had nothing to do with religion at all. My parents even belonged to the gym there.
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| Posted 10/23/09 9:57 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I don't believe in god but I still go to wedding and christenings.
I go to support my friends.
Editted to add - if we have a son he won't be a boyscout. I don't financially support anything I don't believe in.
Message edited 10/23/2009 9:57:59 AM.
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| Posted 10/23/09 9:57 AM |
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Wendy
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
The Boy Scouts are a religious entity?
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| Posted 10/23/09 9:57 AM |
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PaddysGirl
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I think it is great if someone attends/participates with something outside of thier beliefs. It teaches people tolerence. And that is something this world needs right now
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| Posted 10/23/09 9:58 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by Wendy
The Boy Scouts are a religious entity?
Christian and homophobic.
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| Posted 10/23/09 9:58 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I feel like there are two different issues here. I would absolutely go to support a close friend or family member, even if I wasn't thrilled with whatever organization they were part of. However, I myself, probably would not participate.
I guess it depends though. I would have no problem sending my children to a Jewish daycare or something like that (is there such a thing? not sure. . . ) but if it was something I was actually AGAINST then no, I wouldn't support it.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:01 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I do all the time. My IL are Hindu/ Muslim. I attend ALLof their things out of respect for my IL. I also attend all MY families Catholic things out of respect for them. WE (my DH and I) are neither religion, but for the family we do it.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:07 AM |
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leighdvm
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
It depends.......I have attended a jewish wedding ceremony, because I wanted to witness the event....but I would never send my children to Hebrew school or something..........
I am looking into the different private schools in my area in NC.....I was toying around with the idea of a Christian (baptist) private school, even though I am Lutheran......I don't agree with a few things that Baptists practice, but may overlook it....
Another example, I love animals and give to certain charities periodlically, like Defeders of Wildlife and the Best Friends Animal Society. I don't agree with how PETA goes about their business, so I would NOT attend an event for them.
Message edited 10/23/2009 10:13:19 AM.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:10 AM |
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I could have answered on 2 of the polls.
I don't put other people's belief down even if I don't believe in them.
I support my friends even if they don't believe the same things.
I am open minded when it comes to religion. There are things I won't do but I will be as respectful as I can.
DH is Jewish and I am Catholic. None of us want to convert to the other religion. DH is OK if DS is baptized. I am OK if we put DS in a Jewish school or participate in a community center.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:24 AM |
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KGools
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I put other.
I think it depends on the cause/belief vs. the activity.
My SILs were both in Jewish sororities yet they're both Irish Catholic. The religion aspect of the sorority was secondary. It wasn't strange that they were part of a Jewish organization.
If you are going to go to say a town meeting to discuss the healthcare reform, but you are against the healthcare reform, than what's the point...stay home. (I don't know if this particular example makes sense with what you're asking).
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:31 AM |
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I am Catholic.
I went to a Jewish (Kosher) sleepaway camp for two summers.
I have always been exposed to and often participated in the traditions, rituals, services of other religions, cultures.
I enjoy doing it, hands on is always the best learning experience IMO.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:32 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by KGools
I put other.
I think it depends on the cause/belief vs. the activity.
My SILs were both in Jewish sororities yet they're both Irish Catholic. The religion aspect of the sorority was secondary. It wasn't strange that they were part of a Jewish organization.
If you are going to go to say a town meeting to discuss the healthcare reform, but you are against the healthcare reform, than what's the point...stay home. (I don't know if this particular example makes sense with what you're asking).
Not sure I agree with Health Care example
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:37 AM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by prncsslehcar
I participate in a ton of things that really don't go along with my belief system, but because other people I know DO believe in those things, I try to support them and/or at least participate in things I find interesting. I can choose not to believe in something but still understand and respect it.
I agree.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:41 AM |
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BunnyWife
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by TotallyTrying
I am Catholic.
I went to a Jewish (Kosher) sleepaway camp for two summers.
I have always been exposed to and often participated in the traditions, rituals, services of other religions, cultures.
I enjoy doing it, hands on is always the best learning experience IMO.
Completely agree with this. I worked at a Jewish summer camp through college and i think I enjoyed the Jewish Culture classes more then the kids did! Our closest family friends are Jewish and growing up we would spend holidays with them and vice versa. It was nice.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:46 AM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Depends...
Why would you go to something you have no basic reason to support?
I mean I have no issue with any religious event as mostly I would go since the bottom line is be good to each other and since I do believe in that, I’m ok with it. However you won’t find me at an anti-abortion rally.
However on a non-religious side I would not attend something I don’t believe in if there’s no reason to. For example .. I am a carnivore. I eat meat. I have no issue going to a vegetarian expo or awareness event since, hey I like veggies too! However, you probably won’t find me at an anti-fur event as I find them somewhat one-sided. I will donate and support PETA but think they go too far on some things. Does that make sense?
I would find it hypocritical to attend a vegetarian or vegan event and sneaking in a hamburger. I think we need to always be respectful of other’s beliefs as much as we can. I’m sure I probably cross the line wearing sneakers that have some animal part used or not wearing organic cotton or something but I think they know my heart is in the right place.
So back to the question, why would you want to go to any event you disagree with its core/basic beliefs?
For appearances? Freebies? To make someone else happy? Nope, not me.
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| Posted 10/23/09 10:53 AM |
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CunningOne
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by AnnBrunoXO
Posted by prncsslehcar
I participate in a ton of things that really don't go along with my belief system, but because other people I know DO believe in those things, I try to support them and/or at least participate in things I find interesting. I can choose not to believe in something but still understand and respect it.
I agree.
ITA too. A huge example that comes to the top of my head is schooling. I send my children to Catholic schools because I want the religious aspect. MY parents are deeply Catholic and I follow in their footsteps. So when my younger sister went to college, she attended Brandeis University on a scholarship - she was one of only a few Christians in a Jewish school. She loved it there and learned a ton from her experience.
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| Posted 10/23/09 11:43 AM |
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heathergirl
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
I picked the second option.
My good friend from High School invited me to a function at her Kingdom Hall, and as her friend, I went. No one pushed their beliefs on me, nor I to them. It was very informative and I learned a lot about her religion.
I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone is respectful.
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| Posted 10/23/09 12:02 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
It depends on what it is that your attending.
I wouldn't go to a klan meeting because I believe unless I'm going to protest against it, attending implies support.
I've gone to a wedding that I didn't support - but I support my friend.
For other people, I don't think it's my place to say whether they should attend something or not based on their beliefs. I'm sure there are people that sent their children to Catholic school because their school didn't have full day kindergarten or a school district that wasn't up to par. But when you sign up to go to a private organization, you sign on for the curriculum.
I've hesitated signing my son up with the Boy Scouts because of their policy against gay rights - well that & my inability not to mock a grown man wearing a boy scout uniform...but have signed up for girl scouts because they have an open door policy & do not discriminate.
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| Posted 10/23/09 12:12 PM |
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KGools
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by annoyedTTCer
Posted by KGools
I put other.
I think it depends on the cause/belief vs. the activity.
My SILs were both in Jewish sororities yet they're both Irish Catholic. The religion aspect of the sorority was secondary. It wasn't strange that they were part of a Jewish organization.
If you are going to go to say a town meeting to discuss the healthcare reform, but you are against the healthcare reform, than what's the point...stay home. (I don't know if this particular example makes sense with what you're asking).
Not sure I agree with Health Care example
It wasn't a good example but it was the only one I could come up with. I'm sure you knew what I was trying to get across.
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| Posted 10/23/09 12:42 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by Wendy
The Boy Scouts are a religious entity?
This is probably my biggest dilemma. I've been involved in Boy Scouts most of my childhood, and I've gotten back into it again with DS.
I don't consider myself religious, (and definitely not homophobic), but I strongly believe in the rest of the BoyScout teachings. Doing Good Deeds, learning about the environment, camping, arts and crafts, swimming, boating, etc, etc. I've learned a lot of good, useful things that I still use today. I want DS to learn all of the good things in BS, but I definitely don't like the homophobia. I'm OK with DS learning about religion(s), but I wouldn't call us "religious" by any means.
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| Posted 10/23/09 1:01 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I've hesitated signing my son up with the Boy Scouts because of their policy against gay rights - well that & my inability not to mock a grown man wearing a boy scout uniform...but have signed up for girl scouts because they have an open door policy & do not discriminate.
That's just because you haven't seen me in my uniform... I look d@mn sexy! 
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| Posted 10/23/09 1:04 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Posted by Xelindrya
Depends...
Why would you go to something you have no basic reason to support?
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So back to the question, why would you want to go to any event you disagree with its core/basic beliefs?
For appearances? Freebies? To make someone else happy? Nope, not me.
Many people send their DC to Catholic school because they believe the school system to be a higher quality education than the local public school.
Boy Scouts aren't focused on religion. They do a whole lot of things that have nothing to do with religion.
Sometimes, that's the only way to meet socially. There are no bricklayers in FIL's Mason's lodge... 
If parts of the organization have a lot of benefits to you, you can often overlook the parts that you don't agree with. Very few people agree 100% with any group they belong to. It's a matter of how much negative you'll trade for the positives.
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| Posted 10/23/09 1:13 PM |
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CouponKT
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Re: Is it OK to attend something if you don't "believe" in what they stand for?
Yes, I do attend, but I may not participate.
I will attend a Catholic wedding, but I don't kneel or take part in Catholic rituals.
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