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4PsInaPod
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Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Did anyone follow this book? I love it, it has helped us tremendously. I'm just curious if anyone else followed there scheduling system.
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I actually remember liking this book a lot...
I read them all, but didn't follow just one, KWIM? But I did like this one
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| Posted 1/2/10 12:11 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Yea, i read happiest baby on the block too and loved that one too but for scheduling ideas I really love baby wise but I'm a schedule crazy person...so maybe that's why. lol
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| Posted 1/2/10 12:14 PM |
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Melissa611
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I used BabyWise for both daughters. It is the best!!
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jms100303
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I used it for both my son and daughter.
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DNR
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
That was the main book I read right after I came home with the boys. I followed it as far as feedings. It didn't work with their sleeping longer though.
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conigs25
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
LOL... i just FMed you about this. I saw you mention it on FB.
I read it 2x over the summer and i cant see how it works for a BF baby. Anyone wantt o elaborate??
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CrankyPants
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Not me, but if I remember correctly, isn't this the book that received a lot of backlash from the medical community?
ETA: Here is the article-though maybe the method has changed over the years (this is dated over 10 years ago).
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by CrankyPants
Not me, but if I remember correctly, isn't this the book that received a lot of backlash from the medical community?
ETA: Here is the article-though maybe the method has changed over the years (this is dated over 10 years ago).
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hasn't been a problem for DS, he's doing great with his method. He says to always feed a hungry baby, so I don't know how parents allow there child to become dehydrated??
10 years ago is a long time to link an article back to.
I was just curious if others liked it as much as me & how their DC does on it, not ridicule for it.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by CrankyPants
Not me, but if I remember correctly, isn't this the book that received a lot of backlash from the medical community?
ETA: Here is the article-though maybe the method has changed over the years (this is dated over 10 years ago).
Link
hasn't been a problem for DS, he's doing great with his method. He says to always feed a hungry baby, so I don't know how parents allow there child to become dehydrated??
10 years ago is a long time to link an article back to.
I was just curious if others liked it as much as me & how their DC does on it, not ridicule for it.
I don't see how you could interpret what I posted about it as ridicule. I even said that the article is 10 years old so the method may have changed.
I was just trying to give you and others a gently head's up. In truth, there is a great deal of info out there warning about the possible dangers of the babywise method-I saw commentary on it in baby 411 and baby bargains which is the only way I would even know about it.
Glad you find it helpful and your DS is thriving
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Janice
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
definitely not for me...but I have a friend who is a mom of 2 who lives by this book.
I think its different strokes for different folks.
My kid can be taken anywhere in the world at anytime and adjust...but he never falls asleep in his bed.
Her kid, at 3, is so scheduled and routine based...he flips if anything is off.
Her kids were taught to cry...they cry all the time over everything.
We never let mine cry, he isn't a crier at all.
When her's was 18 mos old, he was at times sleeping his days away...way detached.
Even now at 3, anytime I am out with them, its always "naptime" mainly because they are out of their norm with having us over there and toy sharing.
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Janice
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
wanted to add...her kids are BIG. They are in no way missing meals.
I don't believe he knows what he is talking about with nursing though...my kid lived on my boob and i had a supply that could feed a small village. When he says overfeeding lowers your supply, i don't think he's really educated in that.
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by CrankyPants
Not me, but if I remember correctly, isn't this the book that received a lot of backlash from the medical community?
ETA: Here is the article-though maybe the method has changed over the years (this is dated over 10 years ago).
Link
hasn't been a problem for DS, he's doing great with his method. He says to always feed a hungry baby, so I don't know how parents allow there child to become dehydrated??
10 years ago is a long time to link an article back to.
I was just curious if others liked it as much as me & how their DC does on it, not ridicule for it.
I don't see how you could interpret what I posted about it as ridicule. I even said that the article is 10 years old so the method may have changed.
I was just trying to give you and others a gently head's up. In truth, there is a great deal of info out there warning about the possible dangers of the babywise method-I saw commentary on it in baby 411 and baby bargains which is the only way I would even know about it.
Glad you find it helpful and your DS is thriving
I agree. SOmeone gave me this book when baby # 1 was born. I did some research before opening it, and never opened it after some of the things I read.
However, if you ask about ANY parenting book, there are those that LOVE certain books, and those who HATE certain books. This one however, is very controversial.
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conigs25
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by Janice
wanted to add...her kids are BIG. They are in no way missing meals.
I don't believe he knows what he is talking about with nursing though...my kid lived on my boob and i had a supply that could feed a small village. When he says overfeeding lowers your supply, i don't think he's really educated in that.
Yes this is how i feel. I cant see how this works for a BF mom. Im sure it can, but i just cant see it w. my DS. I cant imagine not feeding DS when he demands it
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monkeybride
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Would even consider it. Read too many negative things about it and the whole reactive attachement disorder freaked me out too much.
To each his own though. Everyone has to do what works for them and their baby and as I learned by having my second what works for one might not work for another.
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hdrd0411
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I breastfed and found this book to be tops!! I also think it is in part b/c I have an "easy" baby who was easy to put on a schedule. He was sleeping through the night at 5 weeks, and napped on schedule just about every time.
Even now at 19mths, he sleeps to 8:45, naps from 1:30-4, and in bed at 8:15.
I plan on doing the same with number 2 so we will see if I am blessed again.
I did love the book and found it worked with some small tweaking on my part.
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clwp
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I have no idea about this book, but was a little taken aback about comments saying that kids on a schedule freak out if off schedule or who cry cry over everything.
My kids are both on schedules for the most part, do we occassionally go off schedule say for a visit to grandma's - sure we do and while a little tired they do fine.
I have learned that my definition of things like CIO are different than others, I will say my older DD was not strapped to me, we didn't co-sleep she went right into her own room/crib and my younger one - well anyone with 2 under 2 will I'm sure agree, it is IMPOSSIBLE to run every time the baby wimpers in the slightest. My older one who did her share of crying when necessary such as for a few minutes at 2am when she no longer needed a late night feeding per the pediatrician and has a great disposition. My younger DD while only a few months old has proven to be a very content baby. Some do say, and I'm not saying this is the case all the time, that babies who cry will cry less and be more independent. I actually heard this b/c I felt bad I couldn't be the more attentive mom to my second that I was to my first. If it were the case that only babies who never cry do well, I'm sure all the second, thrd and beyond would be messed up and only first borns would do well in this world.
It's true - different strokes for different folks. I think being a working mother or any mom of 2 under 2 a schedule can help keep you and the kids sane. However it doesn't mean in most cases that the kids are scheduled OCD freaks.
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Janice
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
hmmm...since you did not read the book, I am not sure what part you are directly commenting on.
This is not a CIO book.
Its all about schedules...everything has a reason is off the schedule and you instantly want to get back on the schedule.
Her babies were both self soothers by 6 weeks old. Which means, they did cry before then. CIO isn't that early.
It works for her. She is a working mom who is a homebody when not working. She never goes on day trips with her kids, they can't hang. They are only good for 30 minute increments, on their schedule.
They do cry and cry often.
I have no idea if its related to babywise, but since I watched one of the kids for 2 years, that was the major difference between our kids. one was scheduled and rigid who would cry and cry...the other not on a schedule...most days never napped..but never cried.
i am happy life is working out for you as a mom of 2 under 2 and a working mom. I am neither...when i get invited out of this house or if there is a playdate going on somewhere, anywhere, anytime...then i am there.
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I agree that it isn't for everyone but this was recommended to me by my friend who is a pediatric nurse and her children are angels and can sleep anywhere. I also think Joey is pretty good. He slept at my parents in a crib, in a strange place, he slept at my friends Liz's in Her PNP while we hung out for the night....and maybe b/cI have an "easy" baby. I see nothing wrong with having a schedule set in place....am I a crazy rigid scheduler, no way. Has Joey thrived, absolutely. I think how you raise your child yourself has a lot to do with it. Will I allow him to ONLY fall asleep in his crib at 330 on the dot, everyday...NO lol and the book doesn't tell you to do that. Will I not cuddle with him everyday? NO & the book doesn't tell you to do that. I cuddle him EVERY morning, everyday, I love our cuddle time. Do I allow him to cry himself to sleep at 6 weeks? NO WAY!
I personally do not think that this is what the book is telling you to do and if I did, I wouldn't have enjoyed reading it. It's different for many people. Am I schedule oriented person? yes, it's my JOB in real life...so I tend to carry it over in everything I do...so maybe this is why it helps but is my child loved any less...omg ABSOLUTELY NOT....is he fed any less...NO WAY.....I'm shocked by other responses too and maybe I'm overly sensitive as a new mom but IDK, it's worked for my son and I think I'm a pretty damn good Mom.
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
I think the friend you refer too....you can't blame babywise on....it's how YOU as a parent raise your child. If Joey ends up not being able to nap places or be taken to places...I wouldn't blame that on babywise.
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ReiRei13
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by Janice
definitely not for me...but I have a friend who is a mom of 2 who lives by this book.
I think its different strokes for different folks.
My kid can be taken anywhere in the world at anytime and adjust...but he never falls asleep in his bed.
Her kid, at 3, is so scheduled and routine based...he flips if anything is off.
Her kids were taught to cry...they cry all the time over everything.
We never let mine cry, he isn't a crier at all.
When her's was 18 mos old, he was at times sleeping his days away...way detached.
Even now at 3, anytime I am out with them, its always "naptime" mainly because they are out of their norm with having us over there and toy sharing.
I could've written this word for word! I read it and def not for me! My cousin uses this method on both kids and loves it!
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by clwp
I have no idea about this book, but was a little taken aback about comments saying that kids on a schedule freak out if off schedule or who cry cry over everything.
My kids are both on schedules for the most part, do we occassionally go off schedule say for a visit to grandma's - sure we do and while a little tired they do fine.
I have learned that my definition of things like CIO are different than others, I will say my older DD was not strapped to me, we didn't co-sleep she went right into her own room/crib and my younger one - well anyone with 2 under 2 will I'm sure agree, it is IMPOSSIBLE to run every time the baby wimpers in the slightest. My older one who did her share of crying when necessary such as for a few minutes at 2am when she no longer needed a late night feeding per the pediatrician and has a great disposition. My younger DD while only a few months old has proven to be a very content baby. Some do say, and I'm not saying this is the case all the time, that babies who cry will cry less and be more independent. I actually heard this b/c I felt bad I couldn't be the more attentive mom to my second that I was to my first. If it were the case that only babies who never cry do well, I'm sure all the second, thrd and beyond would be messed up and only first borns would do well in this world.
It's true - different strokes for different folks. I think being a working mother or any mom of 2 under 2 a schedule can help keep you and the kids sane. However it doesn't mean in most cases that the kids are scheduled OCD freaks.
ITA with everything you have written here! especially about the first and second child thing & that a scheduled child does not =OCD freak.
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Bxgell2
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Re: Is anyone else a BabyWise Mom?
Posted by DPerotti
I think the friend you refer too....you can't blame babywise on....it's how YOU as a parent raise your child. If Joey ends up not being able to nap places or be taken to places...I wouldn't blame that on babywise.
EXACTLY - and it also has a lot to do with the child him/herself.
I know there's a lot of backlash against schedules with babies, particularly with the attachment parenting movement, but I have to say, it has worked SO well for us with Yael.
With Alex, I was SOOO anti-schedule, mostly because I'm just not a rigid, schedule type person. With Yael, I decided to implement some of the techniques from the baby whisperer, which are also very similar to babywise - which are, essentially, Eat, Activity, Sleep.
So, I never let Yael fall asleep on the boob - instead, I always, or usually, feed her just as she wakes up from a nap. That way, she learns to fall asleep on her own, without any aids, like a boob, or bottle, or even paci. And that way, she started getting herself on a loose schedule from early on, so she knew what to expect most of the time. And YES, I let her self soothe, from day one, but you know what, that meant hardly any crying at all! If you do it early enough, let them grunt and make noises on their own to fall asleep, then they start learning from early on how to put themselves to sleep, without any unnecessary or tortuous crying. In our house, she has RARELY cried herself to sleep. Allowing a baby to self soothe does not always equate to CIO...
And as for her flexibility - she can nap anywhere, anytime. If I need to run errands, plan something, or go somewhere with Alex, I interrupt her "schedule" and take her along, and she adapts just fine. She isn't a crier at all - in fact, that's how I knew she had an ear infection even before it became a real infection, because she was fussy and crying, which she NEVER does.
I have been given SOOOO many compliments from family, friends and strangers about how easy, adaptable and portable she is, despite the schedule that I follow with her. Would this have worked quite so nicely with Alex? Probably not, because she has a MUCH different personality. But, because Yael is such an easygoing, laid back baby, I knew that these techniques would probably be more successful with her. And, oh yeah, for the record, she start sleeping through the night, 10-12 hours, at 5 weeks old, and I think that has to do, in large part, to the techniques I was using from the day she was born. And, in my opinion, a good night's rest is absolutely ESSENTIAL for development and growth...
I think it's easy to make generalizations about various methods of parenting, but the reality is that, what makes the world go around, is that we are all varied, have different personalities, and different parenting techniques. As long as you aren't abusing your children, doing what you think is best, and taking into consideration your particular child's needs and temperment, and your family's needs, then who is to say what's the right way versus the wrong way. Truth is, there is NO right way or wrong way... just different ways...all of which may produce lovely, well adapted, sweet, sleepy, non-crying children...
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