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Posted 1/5/10 12:41 PM  |
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Diane
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WOW, that must have been devastating to read that email. Maybe, those therapists were jealosu because you were able to reach out to this kid better than they were?
Do you feel comfortable calling the mom and asking what happened?
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| Posted 1/5/10 1:42 PM |
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Posted by Diane
WOW, that must have been devastating to read that email. Maybe, those therapists were jealosu because you were able to reach out to this kid better than they were?
Do you feel comfortable calling the mom and asking what happened?
I sent her an email just telling her how wonderful it was working with her and her son, and wished them well and good luck.
I don't want to sound like a dumped girlfriend.
The dad spoke to my supervisor, and at first said I didn't follow through, didn't do anything, etc - but when I provided specific proof with data, etc - the dad back pedaled and just said he thinks it's time for a change.
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| Posted 1/5/10 1:50 PM |
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lbelle821
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I'm so sorry...I couldn't imagine ever doing that to my son's therapist...especially after so much time and so much progress. I would be hurt too if I were you.
Sounds to me like maybe she is letting her husband make the decisions. Almost like she is afraid of him or something which might be why she isn't contacting you. Or maybe she is embarrassed. Who knows...but I think it was great that you sent her an e-mail and hopefully you can gain some closure to it if she responds.
Again, I'm sorry. I have such a high level of respect for the type of work you do. I tell his therapist all the time how mush she means to our family.
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| Posted 1/5/10 7:22 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Wow! I am so sorry this happened. We have many therapists involved with both my children and I could never ever so that to any of them.
I felt horrible even putting Bry in school, which meant, his therapists changed.
They all got Thank You cards and gifts!
I can't believe how rude people can be.
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| Posted 1/5/10 10:06 PM |
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MrsD1031
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I'm so sorry to hear this happened. I am also a home therapist and I know it's a tough job. Unfortunately, we are not always the right fit for all families. I wouldn't take it personally. I think you should focus your attention on the other children/families you service that are willing to accept your help. You will get through this.
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| Posted 1/5/10 10:25 PM |
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smdl
I love Gary too..on a plate!
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I can see how you are hurt and I will be honest with you (as I have always been! )
I have done that to my former team leader. She was blind sighted in a way. Although you know all the issues "we" had. I am sure she was clueless and she could not never see "our" side or get hints. DH saved her MANY times. We had a meeting with her to tell her it was OK to think outside the box, be creative with DS' program. But no, she ignored the warning signs of us not being happy. I did not like her personally. Yet, I did put that to the side. Because I don't need to be buddy buddy with DS therapists. I just need to see results. She is very well respected in the field and liked by many. So I know "I" was not popular to be dissatified with her. Well, you know why. Not that I am saying in your case they were not happy with you.
She was contacted by the agency on a Friday and let go of the case and a new team leader came on a Monday.
I will tell you why.
When I first started with EI, our Service coordinator asked us NOT to get involved when it does not work out for a therapist. To avoid confrontation and let EI and the agency handle it.
When I called the agency, I called the supervisor to discuss our decision. I did not even discuss the bruises, etc.. SHE asked me to keep her until they find a replacement. THEY would handle it. Not to get into a confrontation with her. A replacement called me to come like in 4 days notice. I called the agency and talked to one of the scheduler and she told me not to worry (I was VERY worried on an ackward situation!!). They told me THEY would do it.
There is no way of really knowing why it did not work out. The wife may have been very passive and send you the wrong signals.
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| Posted 1/6/10 5:55 PM |
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dpli
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Posted by smdl
When I first started with EI, our Service coordinator asked us NOT to get involved when it does not work out for a therapist. To avoid confrontation and let EI and the agency handle it.
This was sort of our situation as well. We switched therapists and our EI coordinator said there was no need to contact the therapist, so I didn't. She wasn't working with us as long as you were with this family, and we didn't know her as well. The EI Coordinator also told us that this happens often enough that she shouldn't be shocked and as a professional, the therapist would understand that not everyone is a good match, etc.
My DH and I weren't on the same page with the therapist from the beginning - I gave her the benefit of the doubt for much longer, but finally decided that we just needed a change. I didn't really know what I would have said to her if I did call her, so honestly, I was kind of glad I didn't have to.
I think if I was working with someone as long as you were with this family, I would have called. However, I will be honest and tell you it is a difficult position to be in as the parent who primarily deals with the therapist.
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| Posted 1/6/10 9:18 PM |
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This was different, or so I felt, because we were such a good match ad worked so well together and made so much progress.... but oh well 
It doesn't happen to me often 
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| Posted 1/6/10 10:11 PM |
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smdl
I love Gary too..on a plate!
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
This was different, or so I felt, because we were such a good match ad worked so well together and made so much progress.... but oh well
It doesn't happen to me often
Sometimes the image portrayed by parents are different than the reality.
I am sure our team leader was shocked, while both DH and I were brewing inside. She was with us for 10 months (about 5 as a team leader).
It's just a question of perception of what you thought and what they thought. Don't just rely on the DH. The wife could have felt the same but portrayed a different image while she was on board with her DH all along.
I know it's hard not to take personally!
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| Posted 1/7/10 7:27 AM |
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