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thewinterone
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Member since 5/05 2474 total posts
Name: cause you are gray.
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CFBC....
If you were asked to be a child's guardian if the parents passed would you do it ...... for a family member? for a friend?
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Posted 2/9/10 2:58 AM |
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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
Member since 8/06 12785 total posts
Name: Bonnie-Jean
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Re: CFBC....
In the event of death of my brother and his wife, I am legal guardian to their five children.
If someone trusted me enough to do it, then I would most likely say yes.
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Posted 2/9/10 9:27 AM |
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Kara
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Member since 3/07 13217 total posts
Name: They call me "Tater Salad"
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Re: CFBC....
For a family member, absolutely.
For a friend? It depends. If I felt a family member was better suited to the job, I would discuss that with my friend openly. I feel the kids need to be close to their extended families, so it would need to be someone I was close with. Still, if DH and I were their best option, we would certainly agree.
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Posted 2/9/10 9:36 AM |
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SusiBee
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Member since 3/09 8268 total posts
Name: S
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Re: CFBC....
For my sister's children - absolutely. DH has no siblings.
Not sure about a friend's children. Their family should come first.
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Posted 2/9/10 10:24 AM |
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DiamondGirl
You are my I love you
Member since 7/09 18802 total posts
Name: DiamondMama
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Re: CFBC....
OPPS--Just realized this is for CFBC sorry1
Message edited 2/9/2010 10:26:38 AM.
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Posted 2/9/10 10:24 AM |
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timanda
Puppy Love
Member since 6/08 1627 total posts
Name: Amanda
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Re: CFBC....
My brother has no kids, but if/when he does I would be honored to care for his kids if he chose to ask me.
DH has a neice and nephew, but he is the youngest of his siblings and wasn't married until recently, so he isn't very high up on the list. He is on the list, however, and if all the events transpired to put us in that position, yes, we would also be honored to care for BIL's kids.
For friends....hmm, I think all our friends have strong, large, close families that they would be entrusting their kids to in the event of such a tragedy. Also, I don't know if I could make those sacrifices for any children other than those blood related to me of DH.
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Posted 2/9/10 10:35 AM |
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greenfreak
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Member since 9/06 11483 total posts
Name: greenfreak
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Re: CFBC....
Posted by SusiBee
For my sister's children - absolutely. DH has no siblings.
Not sure about a friend's children. Their family should come first.
Same. If a friend asked, we would have to spend a lot of time discussing it first before coming to a decision.
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Posted 2/9/10 10:58 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: CFBC....
Posted by SusiBee
For my sister's children - absolutely. DH has no siblings.
Not sure about a friend's children. Their family should come first.
We chose friends to be legal guardians should something happen to us over family members because they are the best choice for our kids.
Just because someone is family doesn't mean they are the best person for the job.
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Posted 2/9/10 11:26 AM |
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Re: CFBC....
Posted by DiamondGirl
OPPS--Just realized this is for CFBC sorry1
Thank you for explaing the BC...I was very and thinking birth control?? What's that got to do with anything!
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Posted 2/9/10 11:32 AM |
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DrMeg
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Member since 5/08 1858 total posts
Name: Meg
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Re: CFBC....
For my sister, absolutely! I would raise my niece and nephew in a heartbeat.
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Posted 2/9/10 12:46 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
MBA at your service!
Member since 7/06 12020 total posts
Name: MJ
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Re: CFBC....
For family -- in a heart beat, not even think about it.
For a friend -- I would want to know why no other family is being considered before us.
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Posted 2/9/10 1:02 PM |
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SusiBee
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Member since 3/09 8268 total posts
Name: S
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Re: CFBC....
Posted by annoyedTTCer
Posted by SusiBee
For my sister's children - absolutely. DH has no siblings.
Not sure about a friend's children. Their family should come first.
We chose friends to be legal guardians should something happen to us over family members because they are the best choice for our kids.
Just because someone is family doesn't mean they are the best person for the job.
True, there are always exceptions to the rules. One would have to look at whatever is the best for the child(ren).
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Posted 2/9/10 2:19 PM |
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Diva
I am what I am
Member since 12/05 2825 total posts
Name: Jennifer
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Re: CFBC....
I hope this doesn't come off horribly insensitive, but it would really depend on the age of the children. My sister has a 3 and 9 year old, that I'm confident I would be able to handle if she were to ask me now. But if the little one were still an infant, I'm not sure if I would be capable of caring for her. It's sad to say that, but I know myself too well to know I'm not responsible/capable of taking care of a newborn.
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Posted 2/9/10 5:07 PM |
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maxsgirl
LIF Adult
Member since 1/06 2086 total posts
Name: sarah
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Re: CFBC....
Definitely....DH's sister asked him to be when they had their first son and he said yes.
I would do it in a heartbeat, family or friend
Message edited 2/9/2010 6:23:45 PM.
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Posted 2/9/10 6:22 PM |
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Mushesgirl
Too blessed to be stressed
Member since 4/09 6691 total posts
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Re: CFBC....
If my brother had kids I guess I would; i'm not sure how good of a choice i'd be because i'm clueless about children. Seriously clueless.
I'd say no to a friend.
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Posted 2/9/10 10:39 PM |
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KittyKatCopper
missing my handsome boy
Member since 3/09 1579 total posts
Name: Kat - HamptonsBride (LIW)
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Re: CFBC....
Posted by annoyedTTCer
We chose friends to be legal guardians should something happen to us over family members because they are the best choice for our kids.
Just because someone is family doesn't mean they are the best person for the job.
my bro did the same for his 3 kids...i was hurt at first, but when he explained he felt it would mean the least amount of change in the kid's lives i understood..they live down the block & go to the same chuch..so no change in schools, friends, etc... However i did tell my bro I would take them in a heartbeat even though i always say I don't want any of my own. A friend's kids...no...i would not.
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Posted 2/10/10 12:10 PM |
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Sash
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Member since 6/08 10312 total posts
Name: fka LIW Smara
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Re: CFBC....
Yes, god godforbid something happen to my sister and BIL - I will be taking my nieces. No question about it.
Other circumstances apply as well, as I a currently trying to become a guardian to my DH's cousins son.
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Posted 2/10/10 1:04 PM |
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LINewbie
Tigger the the Rescue!
Member since 8/08 5647 total posts
Name: LB
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Re: CFBC....
Definitely!!
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Posted 2/10/10 1:05 PM |
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RadioLau
LIF Adult
Member since 4/07 2179 total posts
Name: Laura
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Re: CFBC....
Yes, I would be honored.
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Posted 2/10/10 3:23 PM |
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