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PotofLuck06
Our Baby Boy Is Here!!!
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Betsy
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Random Question - House Guests
In general, if you have a male invited house guest staying for a weekend, how would you react if they asked if they could invite a female friend to stay for the same weekend?
Keep in mind - you have never met said woman and the male has only known person for just shy of a year.
ETA:
Update: The male is my brother who I see about 2-3 times a year as he's an ornithologist and goes where the birds go, literally! He uses our house as his port of call since flights are cheaper out of NY. Why he doesn't share this relationship with his close brother out of DC - IDK.
The female friend is just that - a friend. No GF status. She worked with him on one of his field trips and wanted to see her before he left for his winter field trip to Peru.
Message edited 7/29/2010 12:18:22 PM.
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seaside
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
I would be put off. You don't invite some to stay at someone else's home--no matter who it is or how close they are to you, and you don't put hosts in that position by asking to.
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:18 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
balls!
I would not have someone staying in my house that I didn't meet.
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:20 PM |
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quasi3
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Stacey
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
It depends on my relationship with the male staying with me.
I only let people I trust stay at my house.
If it is my brother, bil, friend or cousin I trust them enough to stay at my house, I would trust the women they wanted to bring along.
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:32 PM |
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springchick
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by quasi3
It depends on my relationship with the male staying with me.
I only let people I trust stay at my house.
If it is my brother, bil, friend or cousin I trust them enough to stay at my house, I would trust the women they wanted to bring along.
Ditto
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:34 PM |
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Raspberry611
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Belle
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
I think it is a little rude for this person to just invite someone anywhere, even more so because it is your house! If it were my brother I wouldn't mind, but if it were anyone else I would be put off by them asking.
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:35 PM |
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Christine
2nd verse same as the 1st
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Is this someone you knew he has been dating? Does he live far away and is that why you haven't met her?
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:41 PM |
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GinaR
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
it would just depend on who is asking and my relationship with them.
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| Posted 7/28/10 12:47 PM |
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Really would depend on my relationship w/male and if my DC would be with me or not.
I had a female friend/co-worker come from OOT and she asked to bring another co-worker (female) that was okay
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| Posted 7/28/10 1:07 PM |
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Andrewz00
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Andrew
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Maybe....
it depends on the relationship you have with the male... is he family? VERY close friend? trustworthy?
and what is the status of said "relationship"?? have they been exclusive for sometime? is it just a random friend of his?
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| Posted 7/28/10 1:46 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
I don't have a problem with it - they are dating, right? I would think it would be a nice way to meet and get to know her.
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| Posted 7/28/10 1:49 PM |
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Otherme
Square head cutie pants
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by PotofLuck06
In general, if you have a male invited house guest staying for a weekend, how would you react if they asked if they could invite a female friend to stay for the same weekend?
Keep in mind - you have never met said woman and the male has only known person for just shy of a year.
i don't think the amount of time he has known her makes a difference (and a year is hardly 2 weeks..)
that being said, it would depend on how close i was with the male friend. I would probably be hurt that this other guest might take away my time with my friend and it becomes a weekend away for the two of them, rather than a visit from my friend
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| Posted 7/28/10 2:38 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by headoverheels
I don't have a problem with it - they are dating, right? I would think it would be a nice way to meet and get to know her.
I agree-as a singleton coming to stay with a couple, it might make for a nice couples weekend. Maybe he feels silly or like a 3rd wheel coming alone?
If I trusted him, I would trust that he wouldn't bring a schlep rock into my home.
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| Posted 7/28/10 2:45 PM |
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maxsgirl
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
I wouldn't have an issue you with it if he was dating her or not. I'd let him bring her
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| Posted 7/28/10 2:58 PM |
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PotofLuck06
Our Baby Boy Is Here!!!
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Scenario updated.
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:18 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by PotofLuck06
Scenario updated.
if it were my brother, and i had a good relationship with him, i would not be bothered by it... ok, i would be a little bothered, but i would let her stay
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:24 PM |
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PotofLuck06
Our Baby Boy Is Here!!!
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by libby2595
Posted by PotofLuck06
Scenario updated.
if it were my brother, and i had a good relationship with him, i would not be bothered by it... ok, i would be a little bothered, but i would let her stay
That's the issue. I'm not all that close to him anymore, especially since he insulted my DH and his family on numerous occasions during his last trip in town in Jan.
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:28 PM |
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Andrewz00
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by PotofLuck06
That's the issue. I'm not all that close to him anymore, especially since he insulted my DH and his family on numerous occasions during his last trip in town in Jan.
WHOA... then WT F is he doing coming over anyway? i would say its out of the question on bringing a guest... because if he does have something to say about you, he will certainty be saying it to her on the way, and while you are not around... so in the end her views on you will be skewed, if they aren't already.. which is never good...
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:00 PM |
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Erica
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
I would see no problem.
We have a close friend from CA and he comes to stay with us often. I would be thrilled if he brought a girl with him, eve if it wasn't a GF
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:03 PM |
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PaddysGirl
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by PotofLuck06
That's the issue. I'm not all that close to him anymore, especially since he insulted my DH and his family on numerous occasions during his last trip in town in Jan.
Because of this the answer would be no ... and depending on how he insulted DH and fam I'd question letting him stay (unless I had the chance to discuss his insults and get an apology)
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:11 PM |
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Jenn627
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
At first I was saying no.
Read your update - I would definitely be A-OK with it.
eta: Read further along - I change my answer back to no. Seems like a user to me. I wouldn't open my home to him anymore either. 
Message edited 7/29/2010 1:47:40 PM.
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:46 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: Random Question - House Guests
Posted by PotofLuck06
That's the issue. I'm not all that close to him anymore, especially since he insulted my DH and his family on numerous occasions during his last trip in town in Jan.
sounds like you already know what your answer should be
he's 'using' you guys because it's convenient, and has the nerve to insult your DH and his family? well then he doesn't get to stay there anymore
and that extends to his friend also.
sorry 
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| Posted 7/29/10 2:33 PM |
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