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missfabulous
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Staring problems
It's really embarrassing but sometimes I stare and I don't mean it.
If I'm tired or thinking, I just stare off into space. But sometimes, without realizing it I end up staring at people. Once at a bar, a girl wanted to fight me because I had a "staring problem" and another time at the gym someone turned to me and asked "Um is there a problem" I wasn't intentionally staring either time I just stare off into space because I get lost in my thoughts.
I never stare at people on purpose because of how they look, or if they have a handicap, or anything.
I was just wondering if anyone else has ever been caught accidentally staring.
It's kind of embarrassing to admit, but some women have been ready to FIGHT me because they thought I was staring at them. I hope I'm not completely abnormal. 
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Posted 10/27/10 2:23 PM  |
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headoverheels
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Re: Staring problems
I am the same way. I do it ALL the time. I call it "spacing out" 
No one has ever wanted to fight me (that I know of) but I have caught myself staring at someone many times. I never realize I am doing it!
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| Posted 10/27/10 2:25 PM |
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Cacarina
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Re: Staring problems
Wow, my friend has this problem as well. She just stares at people and many times she actually has a judgemental look on her face when she does it. I am not sure if she means it or not. I was with her this weekend and we were on a crowded subway and she was just STARING at the girl standing next to her. You could tell the girl was getting uncomfortable. I whispered to my friend, "Stop staring at that girl, it is weird!" She was just like, "Oh, I know I have a staring problem, I can't help it!"
SO you are not alone! 
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| Posted 10/27/10 2:27 PM |
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MRsFaTThead
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!
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Re: Staring problems
girls can be reall poopoos head.
i stare all the time. if some twit gets nasty about it im usually polite about it
if someone stares at me i really dont care cause most of the time i look like poo so they have every right to stare
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| Posted 10/27/10 2:29 PM |
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Sunday
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Re: Staring problems
Posted by MRsFaTThead
girls can be reall poopoos head.
i stare all the time. if some twit gets nasty about it im usually polite about it
if someone stares at me i really dont care cause most of the time i look like poo so they have every right to stare
I don't think someone is necessarily a "twit" b/c your staring at them elicits a response. If someone is staring at me for a few seconds I would never say anything. If someone is staring at me and minutes are passing you bet your a$$ I would say something like, "Do I know you?" or "Can I help you with something?". I think that's a pretty normal reaction.
I also don't think that you "look[ing] like poo" gives someone the "right" to stare at you.
To the OP, if you were staring at me long enough and intensely enough to elicit a response if you said to me, "I was really just zoned out in my own thoughts- sorry if it seemed like I was staring at you" or "Sorry if it looked like I was staring- I was just spacing out" I would think nothing of it and just move on.
Message edited 10/27/2010 2:41:44 PM.
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| Posted 10/27/10 2:41 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Staring problems
I do it all the time... No one ever wanted to "fight" me, but I did receive some awkward looks, etc.
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| Posted 10/27/10 3:31 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Staring problems
Posted by BrinaEsq
I don't think someone is necessarily a "twit" b/c your staring at them elicits a response. If someone is staring at me for a few seconds I would never say anything. If someone is staring at me and minutes are passing you bet your a$$ I would say something like, "Do I know you?" or "Can I help you with something?". I think that's a pretty normal reaction.
i agree. I also don't know anyone's mental status either and I have learned that ANYONE can fly off the handle for no reason, etc.
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| Posted 10/27/10 3:34 PM |
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Jenn627
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Re: Staring problems
I do the same. I usually stare at objects not people though. My DH calls it Jennifer space
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| Posted 10/27/10 3:37 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: Staring problems
I do it all the time...My coworker sits directly across from me and she always laughs and says- what the heck are you staring at!
One time at a bar a loooooong time ago a girl wanted to fight because I was staring at her, but I just totally zone out.
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| Posted 10/27/10 3:38 PM |
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Sunday
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Re: Staring problems
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by BrinaEsq
I don't think someone is necessarily a "twit" b/c your staring at them elicits a response. If someone is staring at me for a few seconds I would never say anything. If someone is staring at me and minutes are passing you bet your a$$ I would say something like, "Do I know you?" or "Can I help you with something?". I think that's a pretty normal reaction.
i agree. I also don't know anyone's mental status either and I have learned that ANYONE can fly off the handle for no reason, etc.
I should have also mentioned that if someone who is clearly insane is staring I don't say anything (like on the train) lol. But also looks can be deceiving and you never know so I probably do take a chance when I ask, "Can I help you with something" or, "Do I know you?"
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| Posted 10/27/10 3:51 PM |
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missfabulous
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Re: Staring problems
Thanks for the responses- its good to know I'm not the only one!
Brina- I usually pretty say the exactly thing, I apologize for staring and just explain I was zoning out..because like I said- I don't mean to!! Unfortunatly not everyone was always so willing to accept.
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| Posted 10/27/10 6:56 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Staring problems
I have been known to stare I can't help it! PLUS I kind if think it is a compliment...obviously you are good to look at if I am staring 
The fighting over staring is hysterical. When I was younger I had a cple of those run ins...those people need to get a grip 
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| Posted 10/27/10 7:00 PM |
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EBet724
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Re: Staring problems
Aw LOL Colleen!! I do the same thing sometimes and I feel sooo stupid when i make eye contact and realize i was starring
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| Posted 10/27/10 7:01 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: Staring problems
Sometimes I do the same thing...
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| Posted 10/27/10 7:10 PM |
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Alexandra17
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Re: Staring problems
I do this too..when I am tired I do it a lot
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| Posted 10/27/10 7:12 PM |
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drpepper318
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Re: Staring problems
I do this all the time!!!!! Never on purpose, but I know I need to be more careful about it.
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| Posted 10/27/10 7:43 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: Staring problems
yeah i've had that problem too 
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| Posted 10/27/10 8:42 PM |
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racheK
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Re: Staring problems
This is funny! Today on the subway a girl was staring at me--I kept glancing at her to see if she was still staring and each time, her eyes were still on me! I thought maybe I had boogers or something---I wasn't ready to fight her, I just assumed I had something on my face!
I do it a lot too and then get embarrassed when they catch me.
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| Posted 10/28/10 9:53 PM |
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BsMomma2014
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Re: Staring problems
i always stare! i just can't help it
dh always makes fun of me
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| Posted 10/28/10 10:05 PM |
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MrsSpring
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Re: Staring problems
you are one of the nicest people i have ever met. i doubt you give that impression!
i have not great vision and i never wear my glasses so i squint all the time and i always thought people thought i was giving them dirty looks.
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| Posted 10/28/10 10:17 PM |
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fujamaga
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Re: Staring problems
hahah I have this problem too and I can't always blame it on spacing out, I just take a really long time looking at things 
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:43 PM |
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