Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

to post under my regular SN.

Okay, since I had my DC (just 1) down there just has not been the same in terms of bladder control.

I am always worried about basically peeing in my pants. It seriously sucks, if I laugh to hard, sneeze, and cough, I swear it just comes out and I can't control it.

This past summer, I was walking with my mom and we started laughing so hard and I totally peed in my pants. I was so mortified, thank GOD I was with my mom.

I used to love to exercise and take classes, but for the last 2 1/2 yrs, I avoid exercising with groups of people or even friends because I am so worried about running or jumping and leaking everywhere. When I do run, I only run alone now.

I am pregnant with my 2nd and yes it is worse.

What I am wondering and hoping, is after I am done having children, can this be fixed by surgery?

I know I have heard other woman complain about this, but I seriously think I have a bad case.

Ladies, is this normal? I am so worried about after I have the 2nd in a few short months and how much worse it is going to be.

Has anyone had surgery to fix this problem?

Yes, I have tried Kegels, it hasn't helped.

edited for spelling

Message edited 11/6/2010 11:05:11 PM.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

My coworker had it done...it was outpatient. She was out in recovery for about 3 weeks. She said it was the best thing she ever did for herself.

Now I'm not embarrassed, cause a lot of woman have this problem after childbirth. If you can imagine, I had my daughter at 19 and i have peed my pants since then!! If I run, sneeze, laugh..you name it, I pee! If I go out, I almost always have to wear a pantyliner, or else.

Once I'm done having kids, I will get the surgery. If you are done, then go for it.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

Posted by cinnabon

My coworker had it done...it was outpatient. She was out in recovery for about 3 weeks. She said it was the best thing she ever did for herself.

Now I'm not embarrassed, cause a lot of woman have this problem after childbirth. If you can imagine, I had my daughter at 19 and i have peed my pants since then!! If I run, sneeze, laugh..you name it, I pee! If I go out, I almost always have to wear a pantyliner, or else.

Once I'm done having kids, I will get the surgery. If you are done, then go for it.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

don't be embarrassed

For the first 6 months after I had DS, I had bad bladder control. I don't think my problem was severe and it did eventually get better, but you should definitely talk to your OB about it or see a specialist.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

My mom just got the surgery, and it didn't work for her. She has a tilted uterus and she thinks her bladder could be tilted too (I have no idea if there's even such a think ). I think her doctor said it works for MOST women, she was just the exception.

How many kegels are you doing? I followed the Bradley method and they said to do 200 kegels a day. How many are you doing? Did it help at all?


ETA: I've had a few accidents since DS was born (he's 5 months). I'm trying to do Kegels like crazy to get my bladder back to normal, because I know I will end up needing the surgery if I don't strengthen it.

Message edited 11/6/2010 11:41:24 PM.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

You can also ask your Dr about a pessary, which is a non surgical option.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

Uro-Gynecologists specialize in this. It's common.

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Everyone makes fun of me bc if I laugh cough sneeze I have to cross my legs.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

Posted by EckoRed81504


Everyone makes fun of me bc if I laugh cough sneeze I have to cross my legs.

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

i had this too. i got so bad that i literally peed my pants from coughing! thank goodness i was in my house!! i didn't have surgery they just put me on toviaz and i worked like a charm!!! my bladder was only holding 1/3 of what it was supposed to. and i had no control. now i have no problems!!!!! if you want the number to my bladder specialist, just let me know! she is in massapequa and she's great!

Re: Yes, I am a regular member/poster, but I am too embarrassed

Get a recommendation for a urogynocologist. I have a severe prolapse that will require surgery. My incontinence isn't bad, but I am very uncomfortable otherwise.

The fact that you've had to make major changes to your life to accomodate the incontinence definitely warrants some sort of intervention. There is NO reason to live that way.

Please fm me if you want to hear my experience.