Jealousy - The green eyed monster

Would you agree that is is hard for most women to make friends or remain friends with another woman who is stunningly beautiful?
Inside and out?
Have you ever become so jealous of a person that you stopped being friends with her?

Curious to see your responses. This is a general question and not about anyone I know.

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It has never happened to me because I am always the beautiful one Just kidding. I think it would be hard for me to be friends with someone stunningly beautiful. Dont get me wrong, I will be the first to admit she is beautiful and in no way would hate her for it but I think it would be difficult for me to have a relationship.

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Absolutely it's possible.

It's all about one's self-esteem and security.

I have friends of all shapes and sizes, and some that are just drop dead gorgeous in my eyes.

I'm a plus sized woman, who feels like I'm about average in the looks department on most days, and potential to be pretty on other days... and I don't have an issue being around some of these stunningly beautiful who are half my size.

Why? Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My DH finds me to be irresistibly sexy and that gives me more than enough confidence to carry my head high.

So when I go to the beach with my friend who has a rocking bikini body and I'm wearing my bathing suit and cover up, I know that we are BOTH pretty damn fine.

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Posted by MrsPJB2007

Absolutely it's possible.

It's all about one's self-esteem and security.

I have friends of all shapes and sizes, and some that are just drop dead gorgeous in my eyes.

I'm a plus sized woman, who feels like I'm about average in the looks department on most days, and potential to be pretty on other days... and I don't have an issue being around some of these stunningly beautiful who are half my size.

Why? Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My DH finds me to be irresistibly sexy and that gives me more than enough confidence to carry my head high.

So when I go to the beach with my friend who has a rocking bikini body and I'm wearing my bathing suit and cover up, I know that we are BOTH pretty damn fine.

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Great question!!

I haven't seen much jealousy as far as looks in my experiences, but more with "Queen Bee" syndromes.

I've seen more women jealous over other women who were able to be genuinely happy with themselves, or well-liked by others...even if they weren't the most beautiful gal in the world.

I've seen women try to instigate fights in order to increase their own status of power, (hoping to instigate a following of cronies who will join in on the bashing) while trying to diminish the other woman. Usually it fails.

I've also seen women try to cause fights or fuel the flames in order to segregate one woman from a group.

But rarely have I seen a woman jealous of another purely based on looks.

Women are interesting creatures..we're very complex and while we complain men never grow up, most of us haven't, either. Not all are vicious, but we know HOW to be, should we choose to do so.

Remember secret clubs in elementary school? You'd be either left out or be the one leaving people out?

Or that sick thing little girls do where they cup their hand to another girl's ear and whisper something while eyeing another girl, to make it look like it is about her?

Or the girl you thought was your best friend and you told her who your crush was on, and she either told him or tried to get him herself?

Or the torture some girls do, where they all of a sudden drop you for no reason and won't say why?

Or the girlfriend you had in your group that you all roll your eyes on behind her back, while allowing her to foolishly think you all really like her?

Or the worst one - the head to toe eye thing some woman do, where they scan your whole being with judgmental eyes, and at the end, they raise their eyebrows and look away...as if you're nothing.

It's sad....but I rarely find it's ever about looks.

Message edited 12/30/2010 11:44:28 PM.

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Immediately when I read this I thought of this girl I work with .. .she is STUNNING!! I mean, if I was forced to just sit here and describe he I'd make myself out to be some kind of lesbian!! She is just really a beautiful person both inside and out!

I get along with her very well actually! In fact, I look up to her! She is always so put together... plus, she's a warm, caring, and creative person. However.. I know there are MANY women I work with who talk really horribly about her behind her back. It's really terrible and I'm pretty sure 99.9% of it is a symptom of jealousy.

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i'm honestly not a jealous person so i've personally never been jealous of a person to the point that i stopped speaking to her.

and yes i do believe that there are women out there that cant be friends with other women because of their beauty... sad but true IMO

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I'm very secure and not a jealous persons so it doesn't bother me at all. To be honest it's not something I've ever given too much thought to.

Message edited 12/31/2010 12:05:47 AM.

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