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maybebaby
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
OMG i would be so offended to receive and invite asking to give something specifically for a childs bday...
I don't mean to attack you OP...but i just don't understand certain mentalities today.
I would send out a normal invite, and you get what you get. If your child gets a bunch of toys you can get gift credits if you feel like returning stuff. Chances are there will be a few clothes/money gifts too...never would i imply how the form of the gift should be...
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maybebaby
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Wanted to add...its FINE to tell people verbally what you prefer if they ask. Family always does that with us "Do the boys need toys, clothes etc.." and we go from there.
But i don't think its ever right to ask on an invitation that a gift be money, or contribution to college fund etc..its SO presumption and its just a kids bday party, like a PP said, some people will buy a $10 toy but if the invite says "no toys" or "please contribute to his college fund" etc..that will make people uncomfortable. Guaranteed.
I had a tiny apartment when i had johnny. I got tons of gifts at diff. points. There was always room to be found and if storage really got that bad, i would have returned toys for gift cards at target..there is always a way
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| Posted 1/16/11 7:01 AM |
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Domino
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I think it falls in the same catagory as saying:
For a Bridal Shower/Wedding - In lieu of a physical gift please contribute to the honeymoon fund
For an anniversary - In lieu of a physical gift, please contribute to the couple's retirement account
For a sweet 16, in lieu of a physical gift, please contribute to the birthday girl's education fund.
I would be offended with all of the above.
In my experience, most people give money or gift cards and for those that dont half have a gift receipt. Maybe you can see the other portion on craigslist?
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| Posted 1/16/11 7:20 AM |
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jgm26
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I too would not be happy to receive an invite asking for money for a college fund- even from a family member ( which I have, and I was annoyed). I'm not Daddy Warbucks! I'm most likely getting your child a thoughtful $12-ish gift. If you don't like it or dont have the room, then return it or donate it.
We lived in a small apt when my daughter was a baby so i totally get the space issue- plus her bday is 6 wks after Xmas, so i also get the toy overload. What I do is, if people ask, I say she likes playing with puzzles or reading books. Its easier as they get older, the toys get smaller -LOL.Family members I'd suggest clothes- again- only if they ask. I would never put it on an invite.
Honestly even putting "your presence is presents enough" is annoying b/c people feel really funny about not bringing ANYTHING to a child's party, so some will bring gifts, and then those that didn't feel bad b/c they didn't, even though it said not to on the invite and they were just following parents wishes. Ive seen a this happen to enough people that I think its not even worth it. Its a bday party, let the child get gifts.
JMO
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| Posted 1/16/11 7:28 AM |
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cloddy
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Can you have a book party? somehow create a theme and then ask that people give him their favorite book? then you don't get toys but they still get to choose their gift?
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| Posted 1/16/11 8:36 AM |
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hisfavgirl
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
for our dd 1st birthday we put on her invites "instead of gifts for me can you please bring a toy so we can donate it to Toys for Tots" we collected alot of toys and some of the guests brought a gift for my dd
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:15 AM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I totally hear you because Loey's birthday is one week before Christmas. We got a ridiculous amount of gifts, but also money and gift cards. I don't think there's really a good way to ask for certain types of gifts - only you could say "no gifts"
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:26 AM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Janice
I would never say anything.
Me either
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:28 AM |
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sarahbelle
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
We had the same problem with Christmas....Ds's birthday is in October. I just put the Christmas toys away for a rainy day.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:43 AM |
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Kmarie36
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by maybebaby
OMG i would be so offended to receive and invite asking to give something specifically for a childs bday...
I don't mean to attack you OP...but i just don't understand certain mentalities today.
I would send out a normal invite, and you get what you get. If your child gets a bunch of toys you can get gift credits if you feel like returning stuff. Chances are there will be a few clothes/money gifts too...never would i imply how the form of the gift should be...
I have to agree. I would never tell someone what to get DD, unless of course they asked. You could always return & get a store credit. I would be a little taken back if I got an invite that asked to help with the college fund. That's just my opinion.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:45 AM |
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Kmarie36
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by cloddy
Can you have a book party? somehow create a theme and then ask that people give him their favorite book? then you don't get toys but they still get to choose their gift?
This is a cute idea. You can have them write a little something in the book too.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:46 AM |
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ddunne2
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
If someone asks you what dc needs/wants, they tell them. Otherwise, IMHO it is rude to suggest or put preferences for gifts on an invitation. If you get something you won't need/like, donate it or pack it away to give to a child in need at christmas.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:50 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Domino
I think it falls in the same catagory as saying:
For a Bridal Shower/Wedding - In lieu of a physical gift please contribute to the honeymoon fund
For an anniversary - In lieu of a physical gift, please contribute to the couple's retirement account
For a sweet 16, in lieu of a physical gift, please contribute to the birthday girl's education fund.
I would be offended with all of the above.
In my experience, most people give money or gift cards and for those that dont half have a gift receipt. Maybe you can see the other portion on craigslist?
ITA
It's one thing to spread the word when people ask what to get your child, but I would absolutely NEVER put it on the invite at all. Way too ballsy IMO and presumptuous.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:52 AM |
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
It sucks, because here you are trying to do something sensible and reasonable, and you can't win. 
I totally get where you are coming from, as my son's birthday falls after the holiday rush and mayhem, and, like you, I have toys up the wazoo - which I am very thankful for, but I also feel for the invitees and don't feel they should have to shell out MORE $ for an additional gift so soon after the holidays.
I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't even have one myself. But, I know your heart is in the right place.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:56 AM |
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ddunne2
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Also wanted to add, even if you get toys, but them away for the summer. Your child will get bored of the things he has so you can avoid buying new stuff throughout the year. Just stash them away.
I still do this with my kids since both have birthdays in October, right befoe Christmas. My 6 year old still doesn't notice that a few of his things disappeared because they get so much stuff!
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| Posted 1/16/11 10:04 AM |
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brownie
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by MrsS2005
ITA. It's one thing to write something like "your presence is present enough" or tell people about your space issues if they ask for ideas on what to get. On the other hand, it's pretty ballsy to ask for money in a 2 year old's birthday party invitation.
ITA with this!
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| Posted 1/16/11 10:18 AM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by cloddy
Can you have a book party? somehow create a theme and then ask that people give him their favorite book? then you don't get toys but they still get to choose their gift?
I was on the "you can't formally tell people what to give you" bandwagon, but this might be a cute way that isn't so tacky.
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| Posted 1/16/11 11:07 AM |
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lucyloo
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I wouldn't put it anywhere but if people ask what to get I'd say he needs clothes but has plenty of toys.
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| Posted 1/16/11 11:30 AM |
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My2Girlz11
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Sweetlax22
Posted by cloddy
Can you have a book party? somehow create a theme and then ask that people give him their favorite book? then you don't get toys but they still get to choose their gift?
I was on the "you can't formally tell people what to give you" bandwagon, but this might be a cute way that isn't so tacky.
Yes, I agree. I would not be offfended by this theme at all.
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| Posted 1/16/11 11:32 AM |
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Merf99
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I would be extremely offended if someone put on the invitation not to get toys or to please contribute to someone's college fund. I think it's very rude to assume that someone would want to do that. If it's close friends or family, and they ask I think it's perfectly fine to tell that you would prefer gift cards or clothes, since space is an issue. And I would never say please give money instead either. And you know people do bring gifts of course ,but by putting that on the invite you are implying that you KNOW that they are bringing gifts. What on the odd chance, someone wasn't planning on bringing a gift/couldn't afford it?
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| Posted 1/16/11 1:49 PM |
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VTTG0609
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
I sealed the invites and decided shortly after asking not so say anything. We had a book party for his 1st birthday and now I have so many books that I just wouldn't do it again. If I receive any toys I will just exchange them.
Thank you all for your input.
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| Posted 1/16/11 1:50 PM |
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Dollface
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by My2Girlz11
Why couldn't you just take the gifts and put them away? You could give him a new gift every month and put an old one away. It is good to rotate toys anyway.
This is what I do.
Unless someone asks me specifically what my daughter needs/wants, I don't say anything.
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| Posted 1/16/11 3:27 PM |
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pig22seal
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by mlny
Oh my gosh I may be in the minority here but seriously?! A gift is a gift! Whenever someone buys DS a gift whether I love it, hate it, have it already, etc etc I am always SO thankful. If I got an invite to a party that told me no toys, donate to his college fund, whatever - I would be pisssed and not even go.
The whole concept of telling people what to give as a gift seems just so rude to me. Sorry, JMO. If you don't like that people give toys then exchange them for other things that you need.
ETA - I think the only way it would be acceptable to ask for something specific on the invite is if you said please donate to a certain charity in your sons name.
Over 80 people attended DS's 1st birthday - I'm assuming this little note attached to the invitation didn't offend anyone. He got a handful of toys, some gift cards, lots of clothes (for the upcoming summer), and over $1000.00 in bonds and checks.
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| Posted 1/16/11 3:45 PM |
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pig22seal
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by hisfavgirl
for our dd 1st birthday we put on her invites "instead of gifts for me can you please bring a toy so we can donate it to Toys for Tots" we collected alot of toys and some of the guests brought a gift for my dd
Very unique!!
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| Posted 1/16/11 3:47 PM |
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pig22seal
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Re: Wording for invites RE: no toys
Posted by Dollface
Posted by My2Girlz11
Why couldn't you just take the gifts and put them away? You could give him a new gift every month and put an old one away. It is good to rotate toys anyway.
This is what I do.
Unless someone asks me specifically what my daughter needs/wants, I don't say anything.
Not such a bad idea!!
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