Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

So, it's been almost two months since it all happened. And I don't want to have sex with hubby at all. I don't know what it is, but I have no drive, or I always come up with an excuse. Deep down...I'm terrified of getting pregnant again and miscarrying again. DH is started to get frustrated, I don't know what to do. Has anyone else gone through this?

Re: Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

as much as i want to get pg and have a baby i too am so scared to have a pg and mc again. i totally totally feel you.


can you use a birth control method for a while so you can "relax" a bit?

i havent had sex yet since this all happened so i totally feel you. i want to connect with dh again but i am nervous as well.

perhaps other girls can help more

xoxoxo

Re: Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

I didn't either. I had no drive or desire.
BUT I really really wanted to start trying again ASAP... so we had to!

I was totally dried out from my mc. The first few times were really painful. I wish I had preseed for those times. But when i discovered it, it helped me. The more I tried, the better it got. It helped me get over the "no sex" part after a mc.

Good Luck!

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I had no interest in sex at that time. I think the fear will always be on your mind when you become pregnant again. Both my sisters' felt that and I know I have been lately because we have been TTC for the past 7months

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It has been almost 2 months since we conceived and that is the last time we DTD. I just have not been in the mood at all and after all this heartbreak I cannot even think of it. I also just had a D&C so I am not allowed to do anything right now but at the same time I dont want to anyway.

I am now waiting for AF, I figure I have 5-6 weeks before we will BD and TTC again but for now the thought of it makes me scared/sad/etc. I dont know how I am going to do IT again....both BD and get pregnant again. I am scared sh*tless.

You are not alone

Re: Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

i felt the opposite...i was on pelvic rest for 4 weeks after having a d&c and i couldn't wait to be able to connect with my DH again...

i don't remember how i felt immediately after the miscarriage (at that point sex was the furthest thing from my mind) but after about 2 weeks i just wanted to feel close to my husband again and escape the sadness i was feeling...

i was a little nervous about it hurting because it had been 4 weeks and i was a little worried about getting pregnant again because my doctor was very serious about us waiting at least 3 cycles before trying again but my husband was gentle and we used protection and it was perfect...it was the escape we both needed...

maybe it will help if you look at it like that? an escape? to me sex was like a drug...and sleep too...i used both to escape the sadness...and if you are worried about becoming pregnant before you are ready just use protection and i'm sure you'll be fine.

hang in there

Re: Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

We had sex 3 weeks after my D&C because I was ready. Take the time you need until you feel ready to become intimate again. There's no right or wrong answer to this, it depends on you.

Re: Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

We haven't had sex in a loooooong time. Even before the m/c. I was just not in the mood. Now, we can't have sex at all for another two weeks, as per doc instructions.

It will take time and you have to do it when you're ready.

Re: Kind of sensitive subject-sex after miscarriage

We hadn't had sex for a long time after also. And the first time we did I burst out into tears while DH was at it. According to many it was completely normal

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I didnt even want to think about sex for months. Dh tried, i declined, tired, headache, back hurt etc. Finally i just lost it, had a good cry told him why I was just not in the mood, i was terrified of getting pg, and loosing it again. Slowly, it got back on track. It was a good 2 months of nothing.