Younger sibling syndrome

Tyler has it bad.

Everything that Jack has - he wants. There can be 25 million other great toys around, but if Jack is playing with a little piece of tape....Tyler must have that piece of tape.

It's really getting to be very annoying since I feel like a referee for most of the day.

Also, the hitting. He smacks Jack with his little hands when he doesn't get what he wants.

How do I handle this?

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You have to be stern with him and let him know it's not okay..

Angelina does the same thing to Julianna and Jules is SOO good.. she is always saying "it's okay mom" but it's NOT okay.. So I put Angelina in time out and I explain why it's not okay and then when it's over I make her apologize..

Tyler has that cuteness factor like Angelina does and it's just not so cute anymore for me so I'm not going to put up with it.

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I do take him away from Jack and say "You don't hit" - or something like that -- and then I make him go and give Jack a kiss.

He is a big bully though and doesn't stop till he runs Jack out of the room

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While I don't have any experience with this yet, I do find that being consistent with time out/apology/etc does work for Aidan. When Julian tries to take something out of Aidan's hand, I make sure I tell him that it's not nice (he's only 9 months, though). I am finding that the more consistent I am, the better it is.

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I would put Tyler in time out or put the toy in time if they are both fighting over it. His time out can be the pack-n-play.

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This is my younger one to.a.T---he is not afraid to 'bully' my 3 year old for the toy he has or try to push his way into my lap if my older DS is already sitting there. He also can turn on the charm in a second. I am just being firm with him and have started time outs---he cries so hard the minute I scold him though, he totally knows how to work me and he is only 15 months. If you figure out something that works, please let me know!!!!!!!!

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Chris does the same exact thing to Carlo

If Carlo has one toy out of the 10000 available--chris will WANT and TRY to take it from Carlo

Then Carlo crys and then I intervene

I make Chris give it back to Carlo and explain that he had it first

Chris then crys---then Carlo is so good and gives it back to Chris lol

Its really a never ending battle but if I do catch it I make Chris knows what he is doing is wrong and wont be tolerated.

I had 2 brothers so i saw this go on my whole life...

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I'm glad to know I'm not alone

I play referee ALL DAY LONG!

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And Derek is the rough one too. TJ actually plays nice with Derek but Derek hits him or pushes him, takes things away from him. TJ started putting him in time out He says "Derek, you can't hit me. Sit in time out for 2 minutes."

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Posted by Mommy2Boys

I'm glad to know I'm not alone

I play referee ALL DAY LONG!

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As a child care professional for over 15 years, it sounds to me like your child is seeking attention. Praise the good behavior. Acknowledge when he does share and how good sharing feels. Work on taking turns. I find that saying to a child "yes, you may have that toy next, your turn is next and as soon as "Mary's" finished with her turn you will have your turn and thank you for waiting. This does work but you must intervene before the disagreement turns into a struggle. Good luck.