ever give a bff parenting advice?

Or approach a friend with your opinion on something with regard to their kids?or do you keep it zipped and think who am I to say anything? Just curious

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

If I would be talking to a friend when I was CF, and they asked my opinion on something....I would give it.

But to come out and give them unsolicited parenting advice? No. I always figured that they do their thing and it's not my place to say a word. The only way I could imagine not being able to keep my mouth shut, would be if they were putting their child in danger. But I've never had a friend who got to such a point.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

Zipped, mostly. If anything, I will answer leading questions but nothing in the form of a statement that might offend.

Until I walk a mile in their shoes and all that...

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

The only thing I will chime in on occasionally is school-related stuff, because I used to teach. And even then, I try and make sure it's presented in a tone that's not all "this is what you should do because I know better," KWIM? But actual parenting advice I keep in my own head unless asked directly for my opinion.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

never! because I know nothing about parenting, so I won't even pretend to have a clue.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

Nope.....don't know anything about it anyway and don't care.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

I have once to my sister needless to say it was not well received & she basically told me I have no idea what I'm talking about as I am not a parent. I totally disagree but I keep my mouth zipped now even though I think she needs to take her head outa the sand & face some hard facts.

The only other thing I say to my close friends who are parents is to please try to give their kids self confidence. This was never done for me & it has held me back in every aspect of my life.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

I've given encouragement to friends who's kids are receiving EI services for speech, etc. that they are doing the right thing ... but never advice.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

thanks for the replies!

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

If someone asks my opinion, I will tell them. We have friends who ask my DH's opinion b/c he did 10 years child psych as a social worker in a children's hospital before becoming a cop, he has alot of experience in that area even though we don't have children.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

One of my best friends asks me for advice from time to time concerning her son with school because I am a teacher. That's about it.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

Mostly zip-lipped. If my co-worker asks for my opinion, I'll give it, but 1. I don't have kids, I don't know what it's like and 2. even if I did have kids, we have two very different home lives and what works for one might not work for all.

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

No and nor would they ask me, I have zero experience with it

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Yeah no
I can't imagine them asking me with their little ones.

One of my oldest friends said that when her girl is a teenager that she'd come to me with questions because of my experiences, my honesty and my outook. I was shocked when she said that!

Re: ever give a bff parenting advice?

I would NEVER approach someone to give them advice about their child, whether I had kids or not.

It's no one's business but their own and unless they ask, I'm not offering!