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Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

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Kahuna
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Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

From Martha Southgate for Entertainment Weekly magazine
I resisted the fictional and soon-to-be cinematic juggernaut that is The Help for quite some time. In an otherwise extremely positive review in 2009, EW summed up my feelings quite well: ''The backstory is cringeworthy: A young, white first-time author — inspired by her own childhood relationship with her family maid in Jackson, Miss. — sets out to write a novel from the point of view of black maids in the midst of the civil rights era.'' Cringeworthy indeed. Further, the plot of the book itself — young white woman encourages black housekeepers to tell their truth through the vehicle of a book the white woman writes — I found both implausible and condescending to those maids. An oral history of black maids published in 1962? I don't think so. I'm acquainted with intelligent readers — both black and white — who enjoyed the book. I also greatly respect the talented actresses in the film who have proclaimed their affection for it. But I still couldn't get on board. When I took a closer look at what Kathryn Stockett hath wrought, I didn't much like what I saw — but The Help is only a symptom, not the disease.

There have been thousands of words written about Stockett's skills, her portrayal of the black women versus the white women, her right to tell this story at all. I won't rehash those arguments, except to say that I found the novel fast-paced but highly problematic. Even more troubling, though, is how the structure of narratives like The Help underscores the failure of pop culture to acknowledge a central truth: Within the civil rights movement, white people were the help.

The architects, visionaries, prime movers, and most of the on-the-ground laborers of the civil rights movement were African-American. Many white Americans stood beside them, and some even died beside them, but it was not their fight — and more important, it was not their idea.

Implicit in The Help and a number of other popular works that deal with the civil rights era is the notion that a white character is somehow crucial or even necessary to tell this particular tale of black liberation. What's more, to imply that what the maids Aibileen and Minny are working against is simply a refusal on everyone's part to believe that ''we're all the same underneath'' is to simplify the horrors of Jim Crow to a truly damaging degree.

This isn't the first time the civil rights movement has been framed this way fictionally, especially on film. Most Hollywood civil rights movies feature white characters in central, sometimes nearly solo, roles. My favorite (not!) is Alan Parker's Mississippi Burning, which gives us two white FBI agents as heroes of the movement. FBI agents! Given that J. Edgar Hoover did everything short of shoot Martin Luther King Jr. himself in order to damage or discredit the movement, that goes from troubling to appalling.

Why is it ever thus? Suffice it to say that these stories are more likely to get the green light and to have more popular appeal (and often acclaim) if they have white characters up front. That's a shame. The continued impulse to reduce the black women and men of the civil rights movement to bit players in the most extraordinary step toward justice that this nation has ever known is infuriating, to say the least. Minny and Aibileen are heroines, but they didn't need Skeeter to guide them to the light. They fought their way out of the darkness on their own — and they brought the nation with them.

·Southgate's fourth novel, The Taste of Salt, will be published in September.

Link to blog, that has more articles

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Posted 8/16/11 2:59 PM
 
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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

When I read the inside cover of this book when it first came out, I knew it was not something I wanted to read. I haven't read it, but it felt like it existed to make white women feel better about themselves.

Posted 8/16/11 3:51 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

I havent read this book & dont plan on it.

Posted 8/16/11 4:10 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

Posted by OffWithHerHead23

When I read the inside cover of this book when it first came out, I knew it was not something I wanted to read. I haven't read it, but it felt like it existed to make white women feel better about themselves.



i guess its easy to make assumptions based on just the summary on the jacket... i thought it made white women look awful...

Posted 8/16/11 4:22 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

I get what is being said, but this was a book about black people working for white people, making it pretty essential for them to be some of the main characters in the book.


Posted 8/16/11 9:29 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

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Posted by OffWithHerHead23

When I read the inside cover of this book when it first came out, I knew it was not something I wanted to read. I haven't read it, but it felt like it existed to make white women feel better about themselves.



i guess its easy to make assumptions based on just the summary on the jacket... i thought it made white women look awful...



I agree. I was horrified at what the white women did to those maids. It certainly did not make me feel better about myself. I was embarrassed that people felt that being white gave them the right to treat human beings that way.

Posted 8/16/11 9:31 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

Posted by OffWithHerHead23

When I read the inside cover of this book when it first came out, I knew it was not something I wanted to read. I haven't read it, but it felt like it existed to make white women feel better about themselves.



Actually- I think it was the complete opposite!

Posted 8/17/11 2:33 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

i agree with previous posters.

the book made me want to cringe...the white women (most of them) looked absolutely awful.

i thought the dialogue and the writing from aibileen was a bit "risque" but the message was a good one and its a very good story.

worth a read.

Posted 8/17/11 2:58 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

I completely disagree.

IMO Abilene & Minny were portrayed as heroines in the book. I saw Eugenia/Skeeter as the vehicle in which they told their story. I like that she didn't claim credit for the book - because technically she didn't write it. It's a collection of other maids' accounts.

I read The Help & countless other books on the history of slavery & the civil rights movement (including Harriet Ann Jacob's "Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl Written by Herself").

My skin crawled reading each & every one of them. This type of literature didn't make me feel better about my ancestors or my race.

I don't believe that the civil rights movements would have been successful without white support who gave the forum for blacks to be heard. To say it "was not their fight" discounts the fight itself - that all (wo)man are not to be judged by the color of their skin. It is everyone's fight. To say it wasn't their idea is equally absurd. No one can claim to be the kernel of the idea that people ban together & fight against horrific treatment of others (whether it be skin color, religion or sexuality).

As for Mississippi Burning, I haven't seen the film its entirety. I've seen documentaries on the case. I agree that given the FBI's cover up in the case, the FBI agents shouldn't have been the heroes. The civil rights workers that were killed were the heroes but per the article you posted - the author doesn't think it was their fight.Chat Icon

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Posted 8/17/11 3:10 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

IMO Abilene & Minny were portrayed as heroines in the book. I saw Eugenia/Skeeter as the vehicle in which they told their story. I like that she didn't claim credit for the book - because technically she didn't write it. It's a collection of other maids' accounts.

I agree -

Same feeling of skin crawling - my little personal experience of being in the South,I go to Tennessee and Mississippi a few times a year. And it feels great until my server calls me Miss Ma'am and it brings up a feeling I'm not comfortable with at all.

Posted 8/17/11 10:03 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

Posted by nrthshgrl

I completely disagree.

IMO Abilene & Minny were portrayed as heroines in the book. I saw Eugenia/Skeeter as the vehicle in which they told their story. I like that she didn't claim credit for the book - because technically she didn't write it. It's a collection of other maids' accounts.





This

Posted 8/17/11 10:16 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

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Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by OffWithHerHead23

When I read the inside cover of this book when it first came out, I knew it was not something I wanted to read. I haven't read it, but it felt like it existed to make white women feel better about themselves.



i guess its easy to make assumptions based on just the summary on the jacket... i thought it made white women look awful...



I agree. I was horrified at what the white women did to those maids. It certainly did not make me feel better about myself. I was embarrassed that people felt that being white gave them the right to treat human beings that way.






This

Posted 8/18/11 8:58 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

Hated it. Got about halfway through and skipped ahead to the end. I read for enjoyment and reading this book just made me stressed.

Posted 8/19/11 10:17 PM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

Saw the movie and thought it was wonderful! Not as good as the book (what movie is) but actually I kind of think they tied up the end a little better.

Posted 8/22/11 7:59 AM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

I thought in some ways it was a real eye opener, as someone who was born in the 80's, I would have expected this in the early part of the century, but this took place in the 60's!

And while it wasn't technicially slavery, to me it was horrific treatment of another human being. The way some of those women acted was disgusting. But I really enjoyed reading it. And will definitely see the movie.

Posted 8/24/11 10:17 AM
 

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Re: Geez, I thought I was the only one who thought W*T*F when reading "The Help"

Posted by Leb

I thought in some ways it was a real eye opener, as someone who was born in the 80's, I would have expected this in the early part of the century, but this took place in the 60's!



I agree!

Posted 8/24/11 11:21 AM
 
 

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