HELP...My kids are feeling entitled and DH is not making it any better!

DH calls me Cruella, lol. We need to come to a happy median because being with them 12 1/2 hours a day alone they are bound to do a lot of stuff to pizz me off and they do. I give DH reports throughout the day so we can discipline accordingly and it's like it goes out the window when he comes home from work. It makes me very angry, and then they tend to gang up on me.

DH came home last night and I told him how disrespectful the kids were being. He runs out to do an errand and picks up a football for Roman so now all 3 of my kids are outside in their pajamas playing football in the dark. ***? Why are they being rewarded? DH says they are too young to understand the concept of losing a privelege (5.5 3.5, 2.5), I disagree (okay maybe the baby to a degree).

I hate being the MAIN disciplinarian!
HELP

Message edited 8/25/2011 8:07:52 AM.

Re: HELP...My kids are feeling entitled and DH is not making it any better!

5.5 is definitely not too young to understand. The 3.5 and 2.5, it really depends on the individual DC, and the "crime" and the "punishment", but you can still discipline them, and they'll understand, even if it's modified from what you do with the 5.5yo.

Re: HELP...My kids are feeling entitled and DH is not making it any better!

From what I've experienced, they understand losing a privilege by 2.

We're both disciplinarians but my DH is more lenient than I am.

Am I misreading or are you waiting to discipline them until your DH gets home? I think nipping it in the bud asap is the way to go.

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That would upset me and I would nip it in the bud immediately..

the only idea they are getting is that mom is a nag and daddy is the fun one.. I DON'T like that AT ALL

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Re: HELP...My kids are feeling entitled and DH is not making it any better!

Maybe go all SuperNanny with the rules written down on a posterboard?

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I would stop giving your DH updates through out the day. Write them down and when he comes home give him the list.

I am not sure what your kids are doing, but it would bother me that my husband is not on the same page as me or called me cruella. I think he is pitting them against you by calling you names. I try not to get upset with every offense, but I do correct the behavior the moment it occurs. There are things that absolutely will not be tolerated in the house (e.g., lying, hitting, biting, hair pulling, spitting, taunting). I would come up with a list with your DH so that you can get on the same page. I am sorry that he is not more understanding.

P.S. If you can find that Big Texas show on tv they show prime examples of spoiled and self entitled kids. I could not sleep last night and they had this kid who was so demanding in the store about her godmother buying her clothing it was disgusting. I feel like even if you have money, you still need to say no to your child once in a while so they understand at an early age that they cannot have everything.

Message edited 8/25/2011 1:23:06 PM.

Re: HELP...My kids are feeling entitled and DH is not making it any better!