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Do you ever just wish...
that when your child is not acting "typical" and people are critical, that you could just hold up a sign for them? Mine would read:
I do not condone this behavior
I did not create this behavior
I am doing everything in my power to change this behavior.
So in the meantime, if you have a problem, go scratch.
Thank You ;)
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Posted 8/21/11 11:33 PM  |
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smdl
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
Mine would say.
Wanna switch???
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| Posted 8/22/11 7:29 AM |
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AidansArmy
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
Mine would start with an F and end with a YOU.
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| Posted 8/23/11 5:30 PM |
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fdnywife
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
All of the above.
 
I feel like nobody gets it!
I would hold up a sign that says:
While you are at soccer, gymnastics and boyscouts - I am at the neurologist, psychiatrist, behavioral psycholigist etc. Getting phone calls from the principal, trying to find special dentist who can get him to cooperate etc!!! Stop judging because you have no idea. (Some days Id like to be them!)
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| Posted 8/23/11 8:54 PM |
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
ive got a question- when youre out and about with your children, and a stranger offers to help, would that be offensive to you, or would you welcome the offer?
as a special ed teacher, i do get it, and i often would like to offer help but i dont want to come across like a jerk
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| Posted 8/25/11 9:33 AM |
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I welcome any and all help. Want my address ??? 
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| Posted 8/25/11 9:12 PM |
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marlatuts
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
Posted by AidansArmy
Mine would start with an F and end with a YOU.
I totally agree!!
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| Posted 8/25/11 9:43 PM |
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smdl
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
Posted by anonymoususer
ive got a question- when youre out and about with your children, and a stranger offers to help, would that be offensive to you, or would you welcome the offer?
as a special ed teacher, i do get it, and i often would like to offer help but i dont want to come across like a jerk
I would politely decline. Most people want to act with a SN child the same as a typical child. While the typical help works in some kids, it does not for a lot of them.
I was at a GTG this week with one of DS' classmate. An older lady came and started to talk to the child. Child covers his ears and looks away. Woman DOES NOT GET it. I mean there is NOTHING she is going to do or say that will change his behavior. To top that she is a complete stranger invading his space. Making it worst.
So unless you are a behavorial specialist and/or work with SN kids, no... people cannot help and usually just make the parents even more self-conscious and stressed out.
I DO remain polite. I smile, thank them and tell them I got it. Short answer to tell them to leave me alone essencially. I really do not let "commoners" have a chance to talk to me when with DS. I go with my business and try to ignore all the stares. And yes.... I get LOTS of stare. As my kid grows older it is now OBVIOUS my kid has issues.
But I will say that it depends how the help comes across. Someone talking to my kid to make him "hush".... BAD HELP! Someone seeing me stressing out and asking me "if" and "how" they can help "ME"... GOOD HELP!
A complete stranger... even a "professional" should not assume to know how to interact with my child. Just because you (general you!) work with SN children does not mean you should help with the child.
Helping the PARENTS!... yes! That would be so much more welcome!
Message edited 8/26/2011 6:25:43 PM.
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| Posted 8/26/11 6:23 PM |
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oh no- i never meant "let me as a total stranger to you take over because i know better"- i meant would it be offensive to you (parents in general) if i were to offer help by saying "is there anything i can do" or "any way i can help?"
like i said, if it came down to it, id probably never ever say Anything out of fear that it would seem disrespectful, but i always want to try to help!
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| Posted 8/29/11 11:29 PM |
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smdl
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
Posted by anonymoususer
oh no- i never meant "let me as a total stranger to you take over because i know better"- i meant would it be offensive to you (parents in general) if i were to offer help by saying "is there anything i can do" or "any way i can help?"
like i said, if it came down to it, id probably never ever say Anything out of fear that it would seem disrespectful, but i always want to try to help!
Personally, I would never be offended by this comment. It would make me more self-conscious but I would be appreciative someone is respectful of the situation and trying to help vs teling my kid how to behave.
I think it depends on the age of the child. An obviously overwhelmed mother with a younger child with SN vs a mom who seems somehow in charge with a SN child, she is probably much more used to it.
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| Posted 8/30/11 10:18 AM |
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cjik
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Re: Do you ever just wish...
Posted by avabrodymamma
that when your child is not acting "typical" and people are critical, that you could just hold up a sign for them? Mine would read:
I do not condone this behavior
I did not create this behavior
I am doing everything in my power to change this behavior.
So in the meantime, if you have a problem, go scratch.
Thank You ;)
I love this, and yes, I could use this.
But then there are days when I could turn the sign on myself when DS is on my last nerve (too often lately). Though I suppose the second item wouldn't apply to me, an adult.
Message edited 8/31/2011 2:54:16 PM.
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| Posted 8/30/11 9:26 PM |
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