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Dana
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Connor William - Birth Story C-Section 11.1.10
I was due on October 28, 2010. After hearing so many people say that first time moms go late I convinced myself I would have a November baby so when the day came and went I was not surprised or frustrated at all! I had an amazing pregnancy and knew deep down in my gut I would have an amazing vaginal birth. On my 37 week appointment Dr. Rifkin said 3cm dilated and 100% effaced you are going to have a great delivery. I was so excited! On October 29 1 day after my due date Dr. Kaufman gave me a sonogram to check the baby to make a plan of action. I had a very big belly I had gained almost 50 pounds all in my belly so we all knew I was carrying a bruiser I myself was 9lbs 1 oz as a baby and took my mom 19 hours to get me out bc I was so big. SO I was not surprised at all when the sonogram tech looked at the baby and then said I have to talk to the DR I laughed in her face and said let me guess he is measuring 20lbs and I need a c-section. Of course I was right he was measuring 10lb15oz Dr. Kauffman suggested the C section I agreed bc I trusted him and then went home and CRIED my head off for 48 hours. I was inconsolable, devastated. DH had no idea what to do, he became sad for me then frustrated bc I couldn’t appreciate that my baby was healthy, all I could think about was MAJOR SURGERY me dying on the table, having an allergic reaction to something. My mother had a stroke at 42 and when we got to the hospital they pumped her with Benadryl thinking she was having a allergic reaction meanwhile she was having multiple strokes affecting both sides of her brain to leave my mom unable to walk or talk for the rest of her life. Because of this I am constantly waiting for the next tragedy. Its terrible but true and this is why I was so beyond upset about a C section. Not only was I terrified of the surgery but they scheduled me at 330 on Nov 3rd , since I practically lived in hospitals for years knew I was not going to have the surgery until late that night and I would be waiting around for hours. My anxiety grew worse and I became even more upset about the entire process. Thank god for the beautiful women in my life including you guys , they and you instantly became my amazing support team and got me through this incredibly hard experience: listening to me cry, letting me talk about my fears over and over again and just being there. My very good friend Danielle literally ran over to my house when I called her crying with the news and stayed by my side physically, on the phone, texting for the next 72 hours day and night! My girls from college and high school sat on the phone with me for as long as I wanted and let me repeat my fears over and over again. My good friend Kmarie36 let me text her 24 hours a day even though she had a baby herself calming my fears and letting me know first hand that everything would be ok. I can not stress enough how grateful I am to all the amazing woman in my life including you guys who helped me get through it all. While my ladies calmed me down DH did all the cleaning, cooking, errands to make me at ease, I NEED A spotless , clean house especially when I am stressed
On Halloween October 31, 2010 3 days after my internal I noticed that the blood on the TP was increasing with every bathroom trip. I became concerned and called the emergency line at 930pm. My gut told me not to worry bc I had no pain, contractions, BH etc but I was still concerned. Dr. Sadaty returned my call, I explained to her that I was overdue and had an internal 3 days prior she suggested I go to the hospital if I was scared. That did not help at all , I wanted guidance  We laid down for bed after debating back and forth if we should go to the hospital and 5 minutes later I felt a pop, my gf explained it like a pants button popping and thats exactly what it felt like, no pain. I jumped up and said I think that was my water ran to the bathroom dh followed and I stood over the toilet as some water trickled. I was not convinced it was my water since there was no gush and I kind of thought it was pee. BUt then 2 min after that I had intense poop cramp and went #2 sorry tmi I thought in my head this might be it but did not want to get excited. DH and I were laughing the whole time bc we had no idea what to do , the blind leading the blind. Poop pains started coming every 2 minutes and I thought if these are contractions I can do this all night, no biggie! I have had a nervous tummy my whole life so I am very used to poop pains. Every time another one started I would say "ALRIGHT another one ", dh could not stop laughing at me , he kept saying "Stop saying ALRIGHT ahhaahha" I had contractions 2 min apart for 45 min before I called the dr. Thankfully Dr. Kauffman was on call when I called the line again and he instructed me to go to north shore hospital. I immed started primping. DH also took his time primping his exact quote as I waited for him at the front door patiently "there is going to be a lot of pictures" 
DH dropped me off at the front door of NSHU I walked in , It was so surreal I always dreamed since I was a lil girl that one day I would be walking into this hospital in the middle of the night to have my baby and it was REALLY here! so surreal, happy and beautiful. I walked into admissions and the woman behind the desk said HELLO MAMA LAFFEY I was so calm and happy. DH walked in about 2 min later and we were escorted to the 3rd floor where I met my new BFFS, my nurses Melissa and Danielle, these girls were flippin awesome we immed started chatting like old pals and I made them tell me about their love lives bc girl talk/gossip calms me down when I am nervous. DH was mortified The resident checked to see if my water broke but wasn’t sure bc since I had some bleeding that could give the amniotic fluid test a false negative, the sonogram showed plenty of fluid around the baby so it could have been a slow leak so she called my DR and he made the call to come in and do the c section now. When the resident walked into the room to ask me to sign the consent for the c section I broke down, I guess in my mind I thought since I went into labor I would get the chance to deliver naturally. It was so terrible, I knew deep down that I was going to do whatever the Dr. recommended bc I trust him but wanted so desperately not to have a c section. My nurses at this point let me talk about all my fears and assured me that I was not going to die , as I kept asking them repeatedly am I going to die, am I going to die am I going to die am I going to die am I going to die ? I ate eggplant parm at 930 pm that night so I was petrified that I was going to die BC I know they don’t want you to eat before surgery. So since the second I walked into the hospital anyone who looked at me I would say " hi I am really nervous and scared and was it bad that I had eggplant parm at 930pm , everyone just kept laughing at me and saying the only thing bad about it was that I did not bring in any for them Before I knew it I was walking into the Delivery room and getting my epi, it hurt a little but I was hugging the nurse so tight I felt comforted. The worse was when they lay you down and all of sudden you start to shiver and shake, I was prepared as I talked to many other woman who had c sections but it was still terrible scary. Prepping took about 20 minutes but it felt like hours!! DR. Kauffman walked in and was extremely professional and I knew he ran the OR just like I would want a DR to , he scolded a nurse for taking a call and it made me feel like , no way is this guy going to make a mistake or let anyone in the room make one. I felt protected. Dr. Kaufman asked the nurse to get DH , as I laid there shaking as they put up the curtain I hear the nurse say we cant find the husband I started to laugh bc I knew DH prob got lost or was in the bathroom they found him in the waiting room and when he walked I said where were you he said "waiting room duh"
DH grabbed my hand and he explains that I rubbed it like a crack addict. In less than a minute the Dr. said a lot of pressure ( I felt nothing) and then I heard my baby crying and life changed forever. The nurses assured me he was a cute newborn as I warned them if he was a scary looking newborn to give me a heads up lol jk DH held him right next to me while they finished the surgery.
The nurses asked him what his name was and DH said Connor William, we were still up in the air about the name when we walked into the hospital. DH wanted a Will Jr and I really liked Connor. DH said after watching you go through that you can name the baby "Dana for all I care" lol
Connor William was born at 3:11 am so the whole experience was less than 6 hours. He was brought to me in recovery at 4:00 am where he immediately latched on to my boob and fed for 30 minutes. The next 3 hours we spent in recovery dh and I were on our blackberries the whole time announcing Connor’s arrival it was quite the modern family scene
Message edited 8/7/2012 9:22:30 AM.
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