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Who takes care of the shower planning?

Forum Opinion Poll
Your Mom 33 50.00%
His Mom 1 1.52%
Your Mom and His Mom 21 31.82%
other 11 16.67%
 

Shower Question: Poll

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KS13
Life is good.

Member since 6/10

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K

Shower Question: Poll

What has been your experience?

Posted 10/20/11 5:41 PM
 

MathWife
LIF Adolescent

Member since 4/11

832 total posts

Name:
Gina

Re: Shower Question: Poll

I've always known of the girl's mother to really take care of it, maybe along w/the Godmother if that's been determined yet...I mean I think it would be nice for BOTH mothers to if possible, but traditionally you have a daughter, you do her baby shower...

my MIL knows about the shower, my mom consulted w/her for dates, certain guests, etc, but shedidnt ask for anything else, nor did MIL offer...

my mom only has me, no other children, MIL has 3 daughters, all of whom she's thrown showers for...so my mom kinda wants this to be her thing anyway...

and she's been working a bit with my best friend (the Godmother) as well as MY Godmother w/details such as invites, favors, etc...

Posted 10/20/11 5:47 PM
 

KS13
Life is good.

Member since 6/10

1203 total posts

Name:
K

Re: Shower Question: Poll

I am glad to see the results and hear this. Wanted to make sure that my Mom wasnt being overbearing by insisting that it be her responsibility Chat Icon My MIL thought they would share the responsibility but my Mom said she would rather do it all...

Posted 10/20/11 5:56 PM
 

soccer1981
LIF Infant

Member since 5/11

301 total posts

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

This was a great question because I was wondering the same thing!!

Posted 10/20/11 6:00 PM
 

GeminiBaby4Us
LIF Infant

Member since 9/11

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

My mom will be hosting my shower only bc DH's mom has passed. I think that if she were here, she would def have chipped in and I don't think my Mom would have had any issues with that.

I just went to a friends shower where her mom paid for her guests & family and his mom paid for her family and guests.

Posted 10/20/11 6:03 PM
 

MaZz
* Lovin my baby girl!!! *

Member since 2/09

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Name:
Gina

Re: Shower Question: Poll

My mom already said she would be taking care of mine... if dh's mother wants to help out/chip in, then all well and good... but shes in FL and prob not even coming to the shower so i doubt there would be any help

Posted 10/20/11 6:05 PM
 

KS13
Life is good.

Member since 6/10

1203 total posts

Name:
K

Re: Shower Question: Poll

Posted by MaZz

My mom already said she would be taking care of mine... if dh's mother wants to help out/chip in, then all well and good... but shes in FL and prob not even coming to the shower so i doubt there would be any help



I don't know..for some reason my Mom wants to be responsible monetarily for the whole thing. I think its just old-fashioned..but I am not going to argue or insist. I just want there to be smooth sailing and no drama

Posted 10/20/11 6:08 PM
 

MaZz
* Lovin my baby girl!!! *

Member since 2/09

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Name:
Gina

Re: Shower Question: Poll

Posted by KS13

Posted by MaZz

My mom already said she would be taking care of mine... if dh's mother wants to help out/chip in, then all well and good... but shes in FL and prob not even coming to the shower so i doubt there would be any help



I don't know..for some reason my Mom wants to be responsible monetarily for the whole thing. I think its just old-fashioned..but I am not going to argue or insist. I just want there to be smooth sailing and no drama



It def is old fashioned... I hope we all have drama free showers though Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/20/11 6:12 PM
 

NASP09
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Member since 6/05

6030 total posts

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

In my own case, I will be in charge of the planning.

Posted 10/20/11 9:13 PM
 

Alli06
Baby #3 coming this June

Member since 8/05

6721 total posts

Name:
A

Re: Shower Question: Poll

Both my mom and DH mom took care of both my bridal and baby showers. My sister also helped alot with both.

Posted 10/20/11 11:07 PM
 

MathWife
LIF Adolescent

Member since 4/11

832 total posts

Name:
Gina

Re: Shower Question: Poll

Posted by KS13

Posted by MaZz

My mom already said she would be taking care of mine... if dh's mother wants to help out/chip in, then all well and good... but shes in FL and prob not even coming to the shower so i doubt there would be any help



I don't know..for some reason my Mom wants to be responsible monetarily for the whole thing. I think its just old-fashioned..but I am not going to argue or insist. I just want there to be smooth sailing and no drama



yeah I think "traditional" is a good way to put it better than old fashioned (although they are sometimes synonomous) everything about our wedding was traditional too, engagement party, shower, rehearsal, etc...

also my MIL has always said that she was buying the furniture for our first child (because she has with all of her other kid's first kids, its like her tradition) and that was rough for my mom, considering she always thought she'd buy my first baby's furniture...but DH and MIL insisted that is their tradition and since she can afford more, my mom backed off, so with the shower now, she's making up for the furniture!!! LOL

p.s. - side note- now that we have to order furniture this weekend, MIL has renegged on her offer to buy...she may "go half if she can"...isn't that sweet???

Posted 10/21/11 6:16 AM
 

GottaBelieve
LIF Infant

Member since 8/11

56 total posts

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

my Sister will be handling most of it with the help of my mother.

Posted 10/21/11 6:25 AM
 

buttercup
St. Jude pray for us...

Member since 1/11

2951 total posts

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

my mom did it all and i helped..

Posted 10/21/11 8:26 AM
 

MaZz
* Lovin my baby girl!!! *

Member since 2/09

6243 total posts

Name:
Gina

Re: Shower Question: Poll

Posted by MathWife

p.s. - side note- now that we have to order furniture this weekend, MIL has renegged on her offer to buy...she may "go half if she can"...isn't that sweet???



Sounds like something my MIL would do... Very nice woman but I really just dont get her sometimes Chat Icon

Posted 10/21/11 9:13 AM
 

Jenny614
LIF Adult

Member since 1/11

1065 total posts

Name:
Jen

Re: Shower Question: Poll

I live in ohio now so i had 2. My mom had one for me when i was 31 weeks and MIL had one for me last weekend. Obviously I know this is not typical, but for some reason it has been the tradition in DH's family. For both his brothers wives...they have had more than one baby and bridal shower. For one of my SIL's she had 3..from her mom, step mom, and MIL...lucky girl!

Posted 10/21/11 9:34 AM
 

Lara&Aidansmommy
For mom i miss u ETC ILOVEU

Member since 3/07

13921 total posts

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ETC I LOVE YOU

Re: Shower Question: Poll

I choose other, My mom passed away sometime ago. So my sister and two best friends planned EVERYTHING. My mother in law knew i wanted it that way,She helped pay for it but didnt interfer with any of the planningChat Icon

Posted 10/21/11 9:38 AM
 

Melbernai
I am a lucky Momma!

Member since 7/05

15652 total posts

Name:
Melissa

Re: Shower Question: Poll

When I had my shower 6 years ago my Mom, sisters and Aunt planned the party. My Aunt hosted it at her house and had the food catered in and my sisters and mom handled the rest.

Posted 10/21/11 9:55 AM
 

Budjeg11
LIF Adult

Member since 4/11

2644 total posts

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

From what I gather my mom planned most of my baby shower, she organized it, got the favors, invitations and decorations (with the help of some friends and my sister in law) and researched restaurants.

When it came to picking the place, my in laws were involved in the decision and the cost of the restaurant was split pretty evently between my folks and DH;s

Posted 10/21/11 10:01 AM
 

MrsSx2
Finally a MOM!

Member since 11/10

2222 total posts

Name:
Valerie

Re: Shower Question: Poll

My sisters are in charge. His mom lives in Florida, but even if she lived near us, she would just be a guest.

Posted 10/21/11 10:09 AM
 

MrsPenthouse
LIF Adult

Member since 11/10

924 total posts

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Re: Shower Question: Poll

I planned and paid for it....my parents are low income and I didn't want them to to be burdened by the expense of this. Admittedly... I aslo wanted a fairly lavish shower.

Hubby and I hosted it, my sister helped out ALOT with coordinating and doing all the decorating with my Mom amd MIL. It was an amazing time.

Posted 10/21/11 10:23 AM
 
 

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