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KimberlyScott
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Are you easily offended if....
your family and friends don't check in with you while pregnant, esp if this is your first baby? Or you see them and they don't even acknowledge belly?
I ran into a "friend" at the supermarket last night. I haven't seen her since I came out and she sent her best wishes on FB. I invited her to a Christmas party we had, she declined due to other plans so when I saw her last night I guess I was expecting a reaction out of her but got nothing. She didn't even mention the pregnancy. Is it me?
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Posted 12/21/11 1:01 PM  |
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MaZz
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Gina
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
I did in the beginning... But Ive learn to accept that it really does show who your true friends are... Ive had friends remember when my appt dates were and ask how things went... I was so flattered... And then I have the other friends who havent said a damn word since I told them  I used to vent to Dh about it, but he made me realize that the people who really matter are the ones who will stay in touch 
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:11 PM |
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MamaPapaBear
my little girl
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my whole world
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
You're not alone. I thought FOR SURE some of my aunts and cousins would call me to check in, see how I'm doing, etc.
haven't heard from anyone. My closest friends too.
It hurts but I remind myself that people are very caught up in their own lives so I try not to let it bother me.
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:12 PM |
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MrsDeVito
Gio's gonna be a big brother!
Member since 7/09 4671 total posts
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Christina
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Doesn't bother me, but I struggled with IF for almost 2 years and during that time often had to be around pregnant people and to be honest there were times that I just couldn't muster up baby/pregnancy talk. So I always try and keep in the back of my mind that maybe someone is going through something that I don't know about. And it doesn't have to necessarily be IF.
Also, while this pregnancy is the center of my life I try to remember it isn't the center of everyone elses. It's not always easy though!
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:15 PM |
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alli3131
Peanut is here!!!!!!
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Allison
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Doesn;t bother me. WHile my pregnancy is first and foremost in my life I do not expect it to be that for anyone else. they have their own things going on.
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:21 PM |
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HolyCrap
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Not at all.
Maybe b/c I'm feeling so great? I don't even feel pregnant.
I'd rather people not ask me - I feel very attention-whoreish when they do.
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:30 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
This will be my second baby . With my first EVERYONE used to ask me how i was feeling, when was i due, what are you having... you know the drill LOL. This time around NOONE asks me a darn thing I mean NOONE at first i was very hurt and disappointed but I just let it go. I dont want to get myself upset. I realize Its not all about me and the baby. But it would be nice if someone would acknowlegde the way my first baby was. I heard from alot of people that when your pregnant with your second, third etc you dont get the same response as you did with your first. Unfortunately in my case this is true
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:39 PM |
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KarenAnthony
Baby Girl Coming in May!!!
Member since 10/07 3031 total posts
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Karen
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
I'm a little offended that some people didn't comment on my facebook announcement that i posted last night!!!
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| Posted 12/21/11 1:40 PM |
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Posted by MrsDeVito
Doesn't bother me, but I struggled with IF for almost 2 years and during that time often had to be around pregnant people and to be honest there were times that I just couldn't muster up baby/pregnancy talk. So I always try and keep in the back of my mind that maybe someone is going through something that I don't know about. And it doesn't have to necessarily be IF.
Also, while this pregnancy is the center of my life I try to remember it isn't the center of everyone elses. It's not always easy though!
I agree. When I was dealing with IF, I had a lot of trouble around pregnant friends and would find myself welling up with tears. I made a point to still always comment/ask about their pregnancy but can fully understand how others may not be able to. Therefore I don't judge, there could be something going on I'm not aware of.
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| Posted 12/21/11 2:45 PM |
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WenRC
Happiness is...
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Wendy
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Not offended per se. But i have noticed some people have distanced themselves from me since they found out...i mean not even a call or text.
Others like my sisters and mom have been really great.
So. Not offended but definitely noted.
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| Posted 12/21/11 2:58 PM |
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Lina
My angel is finally here
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Lindsay
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
I wouldnt say I am offended but a little disappointing I guess. I remember when my SIL was pregnant the for the first time, I would call her every so often just to see how she was doing. I also have friends that recently got married and I would call them to see how the planning was going and if they needed help. I havent had many people contacting me to see how I am doing. I understand people are busy, just a little sad knowing that I take time out for people but I dont get the same in return. I am pretty over it and dont let it get to me.
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| Posted 12/21/11 3:02 PM |
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july4mrsO
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Jess
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Posted by WenRC
Not offended per se. But i have noticed some people have distanced themselves from me since they found out...i mean not even a call or text.
Others like my sisters and mom have been really great.
So. Not offended but definitely noted.
This is me too. I'm not necessarily offended but I won't easily forget who was there for me and who wasn't. I expected some of this to an extent so maybe that's why it doesn't bother me too much.
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| Posted 12/21/11 3:27 PM |
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LoveyQ
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
I'm not offended, but with my first, I was surprised that no one ever called to see how I was or to find out updates on the baby etc. I found it strange and a little disappointing.
This time, it's more of the same, but I feel like whatever - everyone has their own thing going on.
Although my SIL did say "oh I totally even forgot you are pregnant" recently. Gee thanks.
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| Posted 12/21/11 3:32 PM |
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randella
Love my little man
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Randi
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Easily offended-- no. But, if I haven't gotten an email or text in months asking how I am doing, I can't help but think a little differently about my relationship with the person. I definitely cared more with my first pregnancy, and know that I am not someone's priority, but it is nice to know that someone is thinking of you on occasion. Being pregnant isn't easy-- and to know your friends are thinking of you is nice when you are dealing with all the other crap.
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| Posted 12/21/11 3:55 PM |
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Myababy
LIF Adult
Member since 7/08 1171 total posts
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Shira
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Posted by randella
Easily offended-- no. But, if I haven't gotten an email or text in months asking how I am doing, I can't help but think a little differently about my relationship with the person. I definitely cared more with my first pregnancy, and know that I am not someone's priority, but it is nice to know that someone is thinking of you on occasion. Being pregnant isn't easy-- and to know your friends are thinking of you is nice when you are dealing with all the other crap.
^ This exactly.
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| Posted 12/21/11 4:58 PM |
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MrsT809
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
I really don't get offended by it. I keep in mind that you never know what's going on in the other person's life. They may be struggling with something or preoccupied.
We ran into DH's cousin right after we announced to family. He didn't mention it which I thought was weird. Then we found out he was coming from a funeral. You just never know.
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| Posted 12/21/11 5:10 PM |
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Alexandra17
Keep It Positive
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Not if my friends don't but my Dad's side of the family could care less
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| Posted 12/21/11 6:02 PM |
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smooney
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
i think its kinda weird, especially if its someone who you havent seen in a while. i also think its weird that my MIL never ever ever asks how i am, even considering this is her first grandbaby. 
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| Posted 12/21/11 7:32 PM |
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menmyboys
LIF Adolescent
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Nikole
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Re: Are you easily offended if....
Posted by alli3131
Doesn;t bother me. WHile my pregnancy is first and foremost in my life I do not expect it to be that for anyone else. they have their own things going on.
Same here...
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