I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

...if I get one more comment like:

"you're getting bigger and bigger everyday,"
"you're getting bigger as the day goes on,"
"are you sure there's only one in there?"
"you're really looking pregnant now,"
"wow, you really popped!" (the same person has said this to me for consecutive weeks),

I'm going to SCREAM!!!

Several people at work feel the need to comment on my belly on almost a daily basis. I am 19 weeks today, and all belly. I truly love looking pregnant. I tried for this for so long, and am just thrilled to be showing. However, do people really need to comment on it incessantly? Also, I'm a little scared about what I'm going to look like in my 3rd trimester! I haven't gotten on a scale since my 16 week appointment, but as far as I can tell, I'm really not gaining anywhere but in front so far.

Don't get me started on the unsolicited belly rubs from my co-workers....

Message edited 1/19/2012 8:52:11 PM.

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

There really should be a thread with witty comebacks for the jerks that say stuff like this.

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

As far as the "only one in there" comment, respond with yes, how many are in YOUR belly?"

Or just start randomly rubbing other people's bellies to see what happens.

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

I'm with you - it drives me nuts too. i'm getting self conscious about how I look and people are CONSTANTLY saying "really, you're just past half way there - WOW" and stuff like that. Or "Wow, you look like you've gotten bigger since this morning!"

And yes, unsolicited belly rubs make me want to beat people. Who would think that is ok? I would NEVER run a woman's stomach. I don't even like it when my Mom rubs my stomach, but I don't say anything because I feel bad.

People are stupid and I'm sure you look great

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Say goodbye to team green... because you are soooooo having a boy

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

You know, I've learned that if you kind of go WITH the comment rather than against it - they tend to stop or they don't know how to handle it (which is even funnier).

It's almost like they want a negative reaction out of you and if you don't give it to them, they don't know what to do with it anymore so they stop.

For example:

"You're getting bigger & bigger everyday!"

Reply: "I know! [big smile + belly rub] I'm shooting for a 7 pounder"

Now, a 7lb baby is not huge. So by saying that you are acknowledging that you are getting bigger and that this is a good thing because you are pregnant and growing a human being that you WANT to be relatively big and healthy. So you turn their comment into a positive thing. But by saying 7 lbs, you are also saying - yeah, I'm not that big you douche.

The reply I get to that comment is a dumbfounded "Oh."

They don't know what else to say! And it kind of stops them from coming back with the same stupid comment next week because I've now established that yes, I am getting bigger, yes I know it, and yes, I WANT to get bigger.

I'm 36+ weeks so the one I got the other day was "omg! you're starting to scare me! I'm getting nervous just looking at you"

So I said "Yeah, I sure hope you know how to deliver a baby if my water breaks right here" He shut up.

Since this is my third time around, I've had fun messing with people and the comments they make. You have to realize you have alot of power to make people absolutely terrible about their comments.

I had one guy tell me "omg, you look huge. You've got to be more pregnant than you say you are." Then another guy walks in and he says to him "Am I right? She's huge!" The other guy looks nervously at the floor and goes "no, no. Not at all. I think she looks great."

I smiled and said "You know, I can't understand why you are still single. You are so good at talking to women...you really know how to make a girl feel great." [must keep the big smile on or it doesn't work as well]

Oh you should have seen him after that. Tripping all over himself. And every time see him AFTER that, he hangs his head in shame and apologizes. I just smile and call him a "ladies man" or a "smooth talker".

So try to have fun with it. Use it to mess with people. If you go too far or snap on somebody you can always play the hormone card.

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

embrace it you WILL miss those comments once the baby is born

or just tell them you are carrying 12.

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Am I the only one that wants to see your adorable baby bump???

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Posted by BBin2012

Am I the only one that wants to see your adorable baby bump???

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Ugh I'll never understand why people think it's ok to make these comments. I have one or two coworkers who comment on my belly EVERY SINGLE DAY. For the most part I just go with it now but there are those days when I have no patience left and I get a bit short with them. All we can do is grin and bear it for now (or try some of the comebacks the other girls mentioned )

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Posted by BBin2012

Am I the only one that wants to see your adorable baby bump???

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

Posted by Otherme

Posted by BBin2012

Am I the only one that wants to see your adorable baby bump???

i do, i do!!

Re: I love my baby bump and have no complaints about it, but....

I know someone who would smile really big and just tell the truth in response to the comments (must smile big though):

"That's not a very nice thing to say to a pregnant woman."

"That's probably something best kept to yourself."

"Yeah--that's probably not the best thing to be saying to women in the office."

Almost in an apologetic way--but kind of unapologetic at the same time. I can't explain it--but it made people look and feel ridiculous. Mission accomplished.