2nd time bitten at daycare-

DS has been in this new room (1 year olds) for a little less than a month. He was bitten for the second time today. The first time they had a mix up with the report and I didn't get until after I saw the bite. Today they told me as soon as I went to pick him up. First bite was on the arm this bite was on the cheek. As a mama it breaks my heart to know that someone (even if its another one year old) hurt my baby in any form. I know kids will be kids.


So here are my questions:
1) I kind of jumped the gun and made an appt with the director for tomorrow as I am off and can actually come in to talk to her. But now I also feel like I am jumping the ladder or command by going straight to the director? Should I have made this meeting? (you can tell me the truth. My feeling will not be hurt)

2) Now that I am speaking to the director what points should I hit? I am afraid I am going to come across as the pushy parent that wants to get teacher in trouble (which is totally not my point).

Grrr... why does this have to be so hard.

Re: 2nd time bitten at daycare-

I think you did the right thing going to the director -- you're not trying to hurt the room teachers' feelings -- you're concerned for your LO and that's what they should realize.

I remember my older DS was bitten many times by the same child -- arms, hands, but the face bites were the ones that broke my heart the most. The teachers would almost always say it was an accident, an intended kiss that went wrong or that the other child is pre-verbal and had a frustration moment. None of those excuses were good enough for me because I felt someone should be WATCHING the interactions among the children.

Do what you feel is best and if anyone gets upset with you for breaking the chain of command -- sobeit. He's your baby!!!
GL.

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I do think you're doing the right thing by going to the director. This is your child; you're protecting your son. I'd ask

1) Who is supposed to be monitoring the children when this is happening? Is the child biting in retaliation or just out of nowhere? (If they don't know the answer, that's a red flag IMO).

2) How is the situation dealt with at that time? Was the parent of the biter notified?

3) What steps are being taken to make sure this doesn't happen again?

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The squeeky wheel gets the oil. I think you did the right thing.

My director won't tell me who hit/bit DS but he always did. I would make sure that it wasn't the same kid.

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Sorry your lo was hurt. As someone who owns a daycare I feel like you're doing the right thing. Its your baby and you have the right to ask any questions you feel like you want to the answers to. That being said even with direct supervison one and two years olds bite one another. No one wants it to happen and as daycare providers most of us do everything we can do to prevent it.

If you feel like there isn't the proper supervision going on than you need to bring that up to the director and let her know you don't feel comfortable with the teachers in the room. If its the same child doing the bitting you should ask for that child to be supervised better.