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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
Posted by monkeysrus
Posted by SweetApril
So I will address the elephant in the room...what did you do that they are so pi$$ed about?
I was going threw an addiction to pills I took her bottle of loratabs which had about 8 of hem, but like i said i put myself in the hospital went to counselling and seeing a therapist and psychiatrists. I let it get out of hand and im embarrassed about it but i am getting help i was also diagnose with bipolar, adhd, and post traumatic stress syndrome.
I love my life now and I don't want my kids to ever see me like that again. I know it was wrong i eve apologized and now she hates me but in a way i can't blame her
Wow, I was not expecting that. I am so sorry you went through that, but so glad you made its through. Honestly, based on the situation I am shocked they are shunning you since it is obvious you were in pain. If I were you I would only have one party. You don't need th stress, you are a good mom and everyone makes mistakes. They should be celebrating your recovery not ostracizing you
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
As an aside:
EVERYONE deserves a second chance.
EVERYONE makes mistakes.
I applaud you for facing your problem and doing something about it. Not long ago there was a LIW bride who is now in jail for 25 years becuase SHE was addicted.....
You deserves a big pat on the back for seeing you needed help, but more importantly, turning your life around.
Trust IS going to need to be earned, but hopefully they will see what you want is good things for yourself and your family, and your CHILDREN.
My advice is go with your DH and speak with the mom. Let her know you admit you did a bad thing, but you have turned your life around and want to earn her trust. For the sake of the kids, can she please give you a chance to earn that trust back. (or something liek that).
My advice is face the problem head on. Do it with dignity and respect. But "ignoring" it wont help and will only lead to years of this. You have a point now where you ARE clean and wont go back. Let her know that, let her know you want a relationship, and let her know your sorry.
If she is still a B, well, you tried.
But I agree. One party.
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monkeysrus
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
I told them well my boyfriend, I cannot afford to be under this much stress I am having one party sent out the invites yesterday. If they come its on there conscience not mine. My children come first and I do not want him pulled between families and if it comes to it my family does soo much even took in me and him due to eviction, i cant handle his a$$ going to his moms to spend the night with our so no more im stopping it
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
Posted by Babymakin
As an aside:
EVERYONE deserves a second chance.
EVERYONE makes mistakes.
-edited out-
You deserves a big pat on the back for seeing you needed help, but more importantly, turning your life around.
Trust IS going to need to be earned, but hopefully they will see what you want is good things for yourself and your family, and your CHILDREN.
My advice is go with your DH and speak with the mom. Let her know you admit you did a bad thing, but you have turned your life around and want to earn her trust. For the sake of the kids, can she please give you a chance to earn that trust back. (or something liek that).
My advice is face the problem head on. Do it with dignity and respect. But "ignoring" it wont help and will only lead to years of this. You have a point now where you ARE clean and wont go back. Let her know that, let her know you want a relationship, and let her know your sorry.
If she is still a B, well, you tried.
But I agree. One party.
I agree with this.
Posted by Babymakin
Not long ago there was a LIW bride who is now in jail for 25 years becuase SHE was addicted.....
While it's a road you can certainly go down as an addict, she's in jail because she was an accessory to murder.
to the OP: count yourself lucky. As Babymakin wisely pointed out trust is something earned - and it will take time.
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monkeysrus
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
TY all for being here for me. I was a total irresponsible mother and now all I do id smoke the e-cigarettes so I am doing all this at once no more drinking, no more drugs, and no more smoking EVER!! I tried to talk to her but she wont talk, then my mom flips out on how they treat me and calls my boyfriend scum for going there, in a way yea but he isn't going to see her his brother and wife a kids are here on vacation the kids haven't seen each other in almost a year they love each other a lot there almost the same age and he goes to see them once they leave he isn't going there any more he promised me! So today I will be watching a few movies in my room and taking care of me!! I am at the point were to everyone in my family and his I am done I got to my counselling my medication management and I am going to worry about 3 people my kids and me 
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
Good for you to realize you had a problem and went to get help...if she can't get over it thats there problem not yours. I agree with what was said about you didnt hurt anyone only yourself and you got the help you needed. If she hates you for that then she doesnt need to come to the party, sadly the only person she is truly hurting is the child whose birthday it is, who is obviously going to notcie she isnt there
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
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So you have to plan a separate party AND do all of the cooking for people who hate you? Why? Do hate everyone in your family and refuse to attend a party in their presence? Or do they just dislike you? I'm confused about that.
Dude, the ball is in your court here. It's your kid, your rules. I would say hold ONE party. Invite them. If they don't come, oh well. Their loss. That's it. They can't like you any less, it seems.
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Seriously, you need to see where your boyfriend stand on this. He needs to set it straight with his family. If your boyfriend can get over whatever it was, then they can too. If they dont want to then they will just miss out on your son's life. Dont you dare throw two parties. That is just giving into them.
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
Posted by monkeysrus
Posted by SweetApril
So I will address the elephant in the room...what did you do that they are so pi$$ed about?
I was going threw an addiction to pills I took her bottle of loratabs which had about 8 of hem, but like i said i put myself in the hospital went to counselling and seeing a therapist and psychiatrists. I let it get out of hand and im embarrassed about it but i am getting help i was also diagnose with bipolar, adhd, and post traumatic stress syndrome.
I love my life now and I don't want my kids to ever see me like that again. I know it was wrong i eve apologized and now she hates me but in a way i can't blame her
FUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCKKKKKKK THEM!!!
HATE YOU??? What ever happened to being supportive? They sound like jerk offs ..
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Re: Need Advice About Boyfriend's Family
Posted by Diana712
Posted by monkeysrus
Posted by SweetApril
So I will address the elephant in the room...what did you do that they are so pi$$ed about?
I was going threw an addiction to pills I took her bottle of loratabs which had about 8 of hem, but like i said i put myself in the hospital went to counselling and seeing a therapist and psychiatrists. I let it get out of hand and im embarrassed about it but i am getting help i was also diagnose with bipolar, adhd, and post traumatic stress syndrome.
I love my life now and I don't want my kids to ever see me like that again. I know it was wrong i eve apologized and now she hates me but in a way i can't blame her
FUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCKKKKKKK THEM!!!
HATE YOU??? What ever happened to being supportive? They sound like jerk offs ..
AMEN!
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